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|Technology is a good thing, personally have always supported anything new.|
Phone conversations are becoming rare, just like the fax; at work, to contact someone, E-Mails are becoming the norm.
Many times, the only I can contact my daughter is by sending a text message.
Being over 45, have to admit, it is effecting me: sometimes, while driving or talking to someone, that beep can be distracting.
I miss the inflation, sounds of a voice.
How do you cope with it?
Posted: 6/27/2012 8:27:22 PM
|Not sure what you mean by "inflation."|
For me, to have contact from my children of any kind, is wonderful. How it happens to arrive isn't that important. But maybe it's because in my work, I was effectively doing what is now called "texting" back in 1979.
Basically, whatever comes along, I think you will adapt naturally, after a short period of resistance.
Posted: 6/27/2012 8:42:59 PM
|Ah.. where is that dictionary...|
Tone. Wave, high and lows. Intonation?
Posted: 6/27/2012 8:54:47 PM
|I think you are missing the spoken word--that has so much more depth of emotion behind it---hello dad by text doesnt show how happy the child is--|
my daughter only calls me when she is upset--so if the phone rings I know there is an issue--so i prefer to see texts from her or have her post or comment on my facebook--the younger generation do not talk as much as text--
Posted: 6/27/2012 9:49:33 PM
|I think that you may mean inflection. :)|
I think it's good for this generation ( our kids) to see our way of communicating- whatever that may be for each of us individually.
I prefer to talk on the phone when I want to have a good talk with them on a regular basis- so I simply call them and have a good talk.
For what it's worth, most of my friends text and email,,, but I still pick up the phone and call them.
I still value the written word as well and write them a letter here and there- mostly family, but friends get a quick note here and there.
Posted: 6/27/2012 9:52:08 PM
|~OP~ I'm not a phone person, so texting is my preferred mode of communication. There are three people I enjoy hearing from verbally. My BFF, my Mother and one man that makes me laugh out loud the moment he speaks. Other than that? My phone will ring non-stop and I hit the "ignore" or "silence" button. And I'll be the first to admit, I don't check voicemail. If there is something business oriented I see ring in, of course I answer, otherwise? It's really sort of stupid for me to have voice service at all. I spend so much time on the phone professionally, that I totally love the freedom of texting. I can answer in short, consice and simple one-liners and continue on with my life without needing to give one person all of my full attention. My son started me on this path, as I was a text-hater for years. Now? I'm a junkie. And I do NOT text-speak. I actually spell it out, so it's like a conversation. I have heard that I'm problematic for those who do love to actually talk to me and to hear me talk with them, but I just love the freedom of text. I guess we all have our own communication preferences. I have a roommate and twice a month (like a co-op thing) and she'll be upstairs, I'll be down and we'll text back and forth versus actually walking to one another to talk. I just works for some of us. If you're missing the verbal side of communication ~ I'd suggest you make that clear and dial the phone to talk to those you wish to hear. Most people, I think, prefer to talk over text or email. JMO |
Posted: 6/27/2012 9:59:25 PM
|I deal with it by finding a good niche for it's use.|
Text is great for directions, lists, and numerical information. It's also good for quick answers/questions/messages.
It's my last option for getting to know someone. I prefer a real voice where I can pick up on body language and tone.
Text has it's uses, but it's impersonal nature gives it significant limits.
Posted: 6/27/2012 10:19:42 PM
|Texting indeed has its benefits, that I will admit to. I have teenagers, well one teenager and the other two are young adults. But it seems if I want to communicate with them I need to do it through texting. For me, I find it impersonal and I would rather hear the laughter verses the Lol...|
Posted: 6/27/2012 11:09:23 PM
|Texting is something I loathe. If he can't talk on the phone, he needs to move along.|
Posted: 6/28/2012 4:31:49 AM
|After talking on the phone for many years(job) I hate it and would much rather text.|
Posted: 6/28/2012 4:39:51 AM
|Alfredo, your little girl is growing wings & learning to fly...maybe time you do the same? When my kids were younger, I was attached to them- maybe I was a good Mom...then they got older & didn't need me as much...and I missed that. A couple of years ago, I was in a store before Christmas that had toys...I realized how quickly the years had flown & I missed buying toys & had to stop myself from crying...|
I had to start emotionally distancing myself from them...even in nature the parents push the bird out of the nest.
Be proud of her growing up & her independence...an adult who lives vicariously throught their children is not a good thing. (not saying you do this) I have seen other folks do this, it just holds the child back...
You will be fine :0D
Posted: 6/28/2012 5:11:51 AM
|Because of where I live ( down in the hills and out in the boonies), I don't have reliable cell service here so only pay for minimal minutes on the cell, no texting...it's useless. I have a landline phone, dialup computer service...the surrounding trees are too tall for satellite and there are no updated highspeed lines down here because of sparse population. No TV....partially out of choice as I could get SOME scratchy old channels with the right antenna adaptor....but, I don't miss that stuff, really. My kids and I talk several times a week but they truly do have their own very busy lives. LOL, now if I could just find that special guy to share all this great country livin'---wait!....I thought I saw Sasquatch a-runnin' through the trees...............Seeya!!!..............yooooohoooooooooooo, Sweethearrrrrrrrt......|
Posted: 6/28/2012 5:33:20 AM
|I do not cope with it since I do not use a cell phone.. I do have one on me but it is only turned on in case of some emergency.. Have not used my blackberry much at all.. Once or twice to text my children and have to take a refresher course on how to do that.. lol|
Posted: 6/28/2012 6:16:47 AM
|I think the exponential growth of texting has a lot to do with the way society is heading .|
Its impersonal , brief, and a little "safe"
I pretty much gave up using a mobile phone ( or Cell for our US friends) about 7 years ago, I used to refer to it as my mobile handcuffs LOL
As we make our lives busier and busier, and try and fool ourselves that we are just sooooo important , texting and other non-personal forms of communication are becoming more and more the norm ( unfortunately in my simple opinion )
We just want people to hear us , we dont want to interact so much anymore ?
How do I cope without a mobile phone , well I actually visit friends, I take a little slice out of my day to actually be in their presence , or if it is a distance thing , I will phone them from home , and I will make a good half hour or hour available , so that I can hear about their lives and exchange concepts ( what a dinosaur I am ! )
I dont fill my life with a myriad of "aquaintances" , life is not about how many friends are on a facebook list lol
If I have something I need to say to a loved one , then I will say it , and let them hear what is in my heart and voice ... a text can be a disguise or camoflage, or even an outright lie , why would I ever need that :)
Posted: 6/28/2012 7:51:03 AM
|My son lives 1200 km away so it's long distance to call. I have unlimited text on my cell phone as does my son. I love getting the "I love you Mom" texts from my son, or a text with a photo of one of the grandkids. My son has other things to spend his money on rather than long distance charges so I don't mind the texts at all. And it's an odd thing, I seem to get those texts just at the right time, having a bad day or swamped at work. I'm more than happy with the texts.|
Posted: 6/28/2012 8:44:36 PM
|I don't text or phone with anyone on line or off until I am comfortable doing so. Pervs/stalkers know you are single and likely home alone and a reverse number look up is all it takes to find out a full name and address. Not everyone on POF is on the up and up. Once I have met the other person and know them, however, a text, call or email is a nice way to stay in contact when you can't be face to face.|
Posted: 6/28/2012 8:48:48 PM
|I have video chats with my daughter and we visit whenever we can. I've never liked the phone, even messaging I find more appealing. Texting I'm lame at. Singing to her...the best! (even though I suck at it).|
My daughter knows me so well, she can "hear" the inflection in my mail. lol.
I never sent a personal letter in my life, wrote quite a few but I remember my mother writing letters and actually sending them and I loved it when she read her mail to me, so much so that it wouldn't cost her a penny more for me to run and mail them for her. (it cost her 8 cents).
Posted: 6/28/2012 9:28:29 PM
|I find texting to be very useful and inexpensive. Of course I prefer full conversations to be held over the phone. I don`t care too much for video chat, but will do with someone who lives far away.|
Posted: 6/29/2012 4:01:00 AM
|i think he meant 'inflection' or tone of the voice.|
Posted: 6/29/2012 4:07:26 AM
|notdating-forumsonly, I am glad I did not write "Infection". Yes, inflection.|
I am getting there.
With someone on line, I prefer few E-Mails then Phone; after having met, do not mind the texing. Definitely would use text if I got lost going to the meeting place.
Posted: 6/29/2012 11:07:48 AM
|I guess I'm fortunate.|
The people I love most, I see all the time.
My daughters and I text, but rarely. Usually
we'll send pictures of a dress to buy or something
we saw we liked and send with a message.
We talk on the phone just about everyday, and I
see them several times a week.
I love the modern technology. I don't use it all,
but I can appreciate it for what it is. I like having a
cellphone, and frankly, I'm not interested in going
back to the times before we had cellphones and computers
debit cards, and the like.
They weren't necessarily "the good old days" for me, they
were just different.
Posted: 6/29/2012 1:45:45 PM
|I set up a google-voice account just for the sake of texting... I hate using my small phone to type out sentences, and without my glasses it's so hard to read!|
My kids have been texting me forever... (it seems) and I'd always call them back... now I can text them comfortably from my computer, no problem :)
I don't care what form of communication there is, as long as it continues.
Posted: 6/29/2012 3:10:03 PM
|How do I cope without a mobile phone , well I actually visit friends, I take a little slice out of my day to actually be in their presence , or if it is a distance thing , I will phone them from home , and I will make a good half hour or hour available , so that I can hear about their lives and exchange concepts ( what a dinosaur I am ! ) |
I can't say I know what the difference between a mobile phone and a home phone especially if it's cordless. My cell phone is my home phone. Semantics I suppose.
OP- For me sometimes it's a choice of either text or nothing. And I choose to text. I'd rather talk on the phone when the opportunity is there. It seems the real problem is people having such busy lives and their priorities.
Can't really blame the messenger (communication device)
Posted: 6/29/2012 5:14:18 PM
|There are so many threads on this. I can't believe this one survived. |
I detest talking on the phone. Always have. Way before there was such a thing as texting and caller id I would ignore the phone.
I prefer to text but regardless I don't give my number to a man until I know I want to see him again.
My sons and I text one another all the time. If it is something complicated they will call. I always answer for them.
Bottom line is that if you require speaking on the phone you need someone with a like mind. Simple.
Posted: 6/29/2012 8:04:23 PM
|in the old days you had the letter or the visit, then came the phone, email, texting. at what point would you want to stop? The problem with stopping is the rest of the world moves on anyway. So heres a story for you that played out today.|
I get a text from my son 7 hours away, which is how we normally communicate, then tonight he calls, we're talking on the phone and theres a knock at my door, still talking with my son I go see who it is and its my son.
point is, communication is communication, go with the flow. I see a lot of complaints about texting from women and men about men and women. The way I work I can text with you all day or talk with you 2 mins. Talking stops me completly texting stops me for seconds at a time.
I spent most of the day today texting with a gf who really needed to talk, not so much about her and I tho that was included but more she just needed me to talk her through some stuff in her life. We rarely talk on the phone, with the I4 I hate talking on the dam thing but we text constantly which works for both of us. Its as much a part of life now as the paper letter was in the past...
adapt, improvise, overcome, you can do it :)