| | Anything give off the impression im after sex...?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hi! I dont really have a problem with the amount of people that contact me, but just how much of it is about wanting to hook up for sex or meet for some casual fun...
I thought i made it pretty clear on my profile that i wasn't here for that kind of thing. Are my photos too skanky? Whats up.....? :/ | |
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| Anything give off the impression im after sex...?
Posted: 6/29/2012 4:54:36 AM | | well let's see..you are a woman,you are attractive,and you are single...guys on here are,single,horny,and desperate..maybe that's why they think you are here for sex..because they are one of the aforementioned traits that i just posted,they think all women are on here for sex | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 5:49:09 AM | No matter what you put in your profile, you will continue to get those kind of messages. The more you try to scare them away in your profile, the more "bad" guys and fewer "good" guys you will get.
If you want to improve your profile, you could do the following:
(You may be getting quantity, but a better profile will get you improved quality.)
- Include a full length pic.
- You look like the low end of BBW, possibly "A few extra pounds".
- Complete the Interests section. When properly entered they are searchable links that will bring people to your profile. 12 is an ideal number.
- You have some grammar and punctuation errors. Run spell check and try to format your sentences into proper paragraphs. (Edit on a computer, not a cell phone.)
- You might consider reducing your age settings by a year or two.
- Evaluate whether religion is important enough to you to possibly scare away some otherwise good candidates.
You sound VERY outgoing, active, worldly and multifaceted. Maybe to the point of scaring away some less outgoing guys. I would be afraid I couldn't keep up with you or hold your interest. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 7:57:25 AM | Why not trim some of the profile (edit for detail) and add 9-12 Interests in that field? The Interests field can set the tone for your profile and give your viewer something to use to start a conversation.
And yeah, no matter what you write, you'll get the idiots. Use your life experience to filter those ones out. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:40:57 AM | thanks for the tips, i've always been a little lost when it comes to my interests... I really have no idea what to put in there apart from travel, there is alot im interested in, such as beauty, art and craft, watching dvds, but most of that stuff is personal, and i dont usually involve men when i delve into such subjects, so i doubt it would be very interesting to them... :/
As far as putting a full body pic on, i would. if i had one, i really would... but yes being a larger girl, we dont usually take full length photos... and i cant say im overly comfortable with having one on here.
I guess men will be men though! Cheers again for the feedback. Awaiting romantic poetry. :) | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:58:18 AM | When you omit information (full length pic), people will assume the worst. Frequently, I am pleasantly surprised by the full length pic, when added.
I recently had a bad experience with a POF date (with pics like yours) who had a "pear" body type, where she was so large, she couldn't fit in a chair and had to sit in a booth. Size 16 isn't that big. Own it, flaunt it, it will attract some guys. Right now, they are assuming the worst.
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Try these, and then consider removing some of the text about them.
"Learning, Traveling, Culture, Animals, Outdoor Activities, Music Festivals, Spiritual Growth, Movies, TV, Paintball, Hiking, Four Wheeling, Kayaking, Photos, Arts and Crafts, Painting, Comics"
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:40:36 AM | ^^^
what he said
if you got it show it off theres plenty of men old an young who love a woman that has curves an an fullness
having a full lenght pic is a good thing we all want to know what the whole person looks like that were talking to an to know they have more then just a neck an face..
as for
lucky2beme
well let's see..you are a woman,you are attractive,and you are single...guys on here are,single,horny,and desperate..maybe that's why they think you are here for sex..because they are one of the aforementioned traits that i just posted,they think all women are on here for sex
have to laugh an agree with this statement although its not just single men who are here there's plenty of married/attached men on here an other sites pretending to be single as well.. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 10:39:29 AM | | Studies have shown that you get 60% more responses from men if you show cleavage. Some of your poses are seductive and a lot of men don't have much of a filter so may not even read your profile. I took off my cleavage bearing photo and the quantity of responses fell but the quality definitely improved. Boys will be boys ;). Save the beat for the ones who are worth it. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 7:56:22 PM | In an effort to give you a fuller profile review... I'll state that if you could, reducing your lower-age search by a year or two may help. It seems you're hoping a higher age will bring more mature men, which is certainly not always the case.
The recent full body picture works.
You have a lot of information on your profile, but compared to many other woman it's a relief. You mention that you travel often, and your profession is Administration. I'm curious as to how the traveling works, such as.. if you pay for it all because you're an independent woman. That would be good information, along with the fact that you aren't planning to be a sugar.. mama.
Another important thing, which many people forget... what are you looking for? "Dating" is certainly not enough. Do you want a casual boyfriend, or potential husband? Sex, friends with benefits.. etc. (I know you mentioned you are most certainly not looking for sex, but I want to stress my point.)
As previously stated, the simple fact that you are a woman is enough for men to try and pursuit you. The truth.. you could probably have sex almost any time you wanted to. A man may simply attempt to try and "better his odds" that you might choose him. It's difficult, but it's important you stress your desires as neatly as you can, and toss the "bs"as you see fit. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 8:17:55 PM | The new pics are great! I would call you "A few extra pounds", or perfect.
The age range is strange, lower it or better yet delete it.
Don't put anything in your profile about paying for travel or anything else, nor mention "Sugar Momma" in any context!
Your text needs to be reformatted into proper paragraphs. You have many sentences that start on new lines that should have the "enter" before them removed. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 8:25:10 PM | | You're a women who is attractive on a dating site. Lets just face it with all the good people on these sites there's also a lot of pervs and creepers. So no matter what you say people are going to try to hook up regardless. It's the unfortunate part of being attractive online no matter if it's a dating site or facebook. By the way your pics are fine not scanky at all what so ever. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 11:27:57 PM | ok i got rid of the age range, was a little weird i guess, but i must admit, i do like older men... i usually dont go for men around my age...*shrug* not sure why....? (daddy issues perhaps? :P)
Thanks for the feedback on the photos, should i change my BBW to a few extra pounds?
I didnt think i should put anything in my profile about how i *PAY* for my holidays, as that is my business.. isnt it??
For the record, i work my ass off, go on a holiday and continue to work my ass off. I dont see how i could be a sugar momma?????
Could you give me an example as to how i should reformat my text into proper paragraphs?
Thanks for the input, more is welcomed! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2012 11:51:41 PM | D, you are gorgeous! Outgoing and funny. You are also sexy, girl, so, yes, they are going to harass you. Comes with the territory.
What kind of man are you searching for? Your profile is a bit long, and I didn't notice your list of qualities he should possess. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 12:42:50 AM | A paragraph should look like this:
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Not this:
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Enter "Traveling, Culture" as two separate Interests, no "/".
Never mention money/paying in a profile in any context.
A few extra pounds!!!
The read won't appear as long with properly formatted paragraphs.
Delete this:
I'm not lonely, or desperate, but i am open minded to meeting someone over the internet, i have done it before and have met some lovely people this way!
not shy at all,
and i usually end up breaking it.
get my hair did
I'm not indie so,
Run spell check.
I wish you were 50ish, lived in Ohio and dated smokers! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 6:21:19 AM | | I think your photos and description are nice-you certainly don't give off the impression to me that you are after casual sex. You look like a genuine, classy lady. Unfortunately some men will always take a chance and message women for sex-just ignore them. Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 6:32:03 AM | Some profiles are amusing
The guy reads 'I'm not on here for a hookup' and 'I'm not lonely or desperate' which makes him think about sex. He doesnt really get any futher before the Gremlins in his mind take over his typing on the keyboard. He ends up sending you such a message because he finds the whole thing far too funny.
Most of the pervy messages you're getting arent from men who are perves but ones who find sending such a message funny. Drop both the comments out of your profile.
The pictures and rest of your comments are quite decent. You're attractive with the bright blue eyes so you'll get plenty of interest. | |
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| Anything give off the impression im after sex...?
Posted: 7/8/2012 6:37:46 AM | | I agree with jonpofbp, if you don't mention the fact you're not after a hookup, those who are wont be inclined to think about it and send you a message just to wind you up. | |
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| Anything give off the impression im after sex...?
Posted: 7/8/2012 7:12:09 AM | | Your profile picture looks like you are horny! Your eyes are flirting with the camera, have a backwards hand on your neck and are wearing bright read lipstick with the camera hovering over your breast. | |
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| Anything give off the impression im after sex...?
Posted: 7/8/2012 8:02:01 AM | Very cute classy profile I agree with the previous posters about removing the "Im not here for sex" line.
Because without that a nice guy can read your profile and understand what type of woman you are,
having that line there will not stop the pervs/idiots because your are acknowledging their existence. Horn dogs dont wanna read its takes too much time so dont interest them by bringing up sex.
Another thing I have noticed is that your profile is a little ambiguous to me because if you say your not shy but quite the extrovert, or you want to meet someone but your not desperate/ lonely. Then you dont need to tell them your not shy/ lonely on your profile.
Its almost over explaining things that can be figured out with common sense. Leave some mystery when I read that I felt like I already knew everything about you and I know theres more but you havent left much mystery for a man to ask more about you or to peak interest. What will you talk about on the date? leave some things out.
And I would suggest not to use the terms "hit me up" because that seems to attract the young naive horn dogs if you like older men use your words to attract them :) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 8:25:24 AM | You have a very nice profile, good photos with smiles.
The only thing I see that can be taken poorly. That is "I'm not shy" and you have "Open minded" twice. If a guy is looking for a HookUp these can be all they need to see. Even with the disclaimer this can be misstaken.
And I agree if you were older and closer I would send a message. | |
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