| | What do you think of the new Page 1 of 1 | | Guys, do you like it when girls send the flirts out or would you prefer a message? Would you not respond when a girl sends a flirt because you think it is lame and she was being lazy about things? Sometimes I've thought that when guys sent me winks on OKCupid, so I didn't talk to them. | |
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| What do you think of the new flirts?
Posted: 6/29/2012 7:48:47 PM | Send me one and I will think about it for a bit...
IF I am attracted and she is real, local and in my age range, I will respond with a message and see where it goes.. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 7:53:38 PM |
Guys, do you like it when girls send the flirts out or would you prefer a message? Would you not respond when a girl sends a flirt because you think it is lame and she was being lazy about things? Never replied to a flirt yet. {except from friends) Marginally better then the stupid meet me things.
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:27:03 PM | | If you didn't respond to those types of things on another site, don't use them yourself. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:34:23 PM |
Guys, do you like it when girls send the flirts out or would you prefer a message?
IMO it doesn't really matter.
If I am not interested in them I will ignore it.
All it does for me is cause me to pay attention to their profile.
I've received one. It was from the UK or Russia. Some foreign place.
So I simply shrugged it off.
Kind of like being bumped into at the mall.
I say "scuse me" and move on
I see no reason to sit there and question "did they bump into me to talk to them? Do they want me? Do they like me?"
If I find them attractive I will stop them and talk to them. But I still won't sit there and cogitate on how they "feel" about me or if it was intentional.
Would you not respond when a girl sends a flirt because you think it is lame and she was being lazy about things?
Depends on if their profile denotes someone I believe I can and want to date.
If I am not interested in them, then sure, "they're lame and lazy" is as good excuse to move on as any.
Sometimes I've thought that when guys sent me winks on , so I didn't talk to them.
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Posted: 6/29/2012 8:51:37 PM | I think it's funny that we have established a gradation of laziness about types of messages on a free, online dating site. A wink, a meet me, a flirt, or a handcrafted message...if a person doesn't like who they see the message is coming from, then it really doesn't matter what is in the message or the type of message that is sent.
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:00:32 PM | "If you didn't respond to those types of things on another site, don't use them yourself."
Have to agree with that, it makes way too much sense not to!
When I get the "XX wants to meet you" messages from this site, I delete them. So just because there's a feature offered on here where I have the ability to do the same, I won't use it for the same reason.
If I come across someone's profile that's interesting, I have no problem carving out 3 minutes from my....(cough) SO busy schedule to write a brief into first contact. Then I just let it go, if they write back great, if they don't that's okay too. If I can't display more interest than a click, then I wouldn't expect someone to respond.
If there is a KEY to this whole deal, IMO, it is communication. Well and interest, so wanting to and enjoying communicating. For those who are so timid about that, geez, well they clicked to let me know they want to meet, I'll show the same level of interest to delete it. It doesn't take much thought...gee he wants to "meet me" but what's the problem........he's not going to want to talk to me first? Pfft.......
If you ARE going to meet someone whose company you enjoy, and then decide to start dating, hoping to maybe become involved in a relationship.........you're going to have to communicate with them sometime? If you get wiggy about that anywhere along the way..faggedaboutit. It's like elementary school, why not virtually send a tug on a girl's pigtail? Sheesh........ | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 9:10:28 PM | | So that is why the chicken crossed the road. I am now officially an enlightened human being. o.O I don't care honestly lol. | |
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Posted: 6/29/2012 10:26:01 PM |
I think it's funny that we have established a gradation of laziness about types of messages on a free, online dating site.
Well it does sound peculiar when you put it like that! lol | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 1:24:09 AM | | Any flirting from The Woman , is welcomed flirting, but, no, I do not answer the autmated flirts,lol...It should at least have a body to the flirt and let you fill in a couple words to make it personable... | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:22:42 AM | Oh my word, heaven's NO!!!!! If there's anything I despise in this world, it's an assertive woman who can ask for what she wants.
By all means, please, no adding to favorites, selecting 'yes' on the 'Meet Me' page and for all that's holy, please don't 'flirt' with me!!!!!
Just let me continue my time wasting process of trial and error while you sit in that chair and feed your malicious ego....
A 'flirt' button?? Blasphemy, I say!!!! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 3:02:27 AM | Use whatever tools are at your disposal to improve your relative odds. Why not? What do you have to lose?
Best course, don't assume anything other than trying to raise your odds of getting the kind of contact you want. Can he read your mind? Well then you can't read his.
Most men aren't that complicated. Most men aren't going to receive positive interest from a girl and then be concerned about her being lazy or not.
He finds you attractive = He will probably respond
He doesn't find you attractive = He probably won't respond
That being said, take your best shot if you can, good luck. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 3:05:57 AM | Wise words indeed...
Regardless for me whether or not she wrote a message or not I always respond even if its friendly banter or a serious reply. | |
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| What do you think of the new
Posted: 6/30/2012 3:44:30 AM | Message is better, especially if it's more than one line.
With more people using so called "smart" phones, it's more common to touch the wrong button. I once accidentally touched the favorite button and put someone on my favorites list. Quickly removed her, but no doubt the site sent her an email. The wink / flirt buttons might be easy to hit accidentally. A message with nontrivial text is probably not accidental.
A flirt, favorite, meet me, or blank / ultra-short message suggests the sender might be contacting huge numbers of people, not having the time to write a nontrivial message. Or the sender just likes the photo. Or the sender has nothing interesting to say. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 4:10:49 AM | | It lets me know you want me too message you, but then I of course wonder why you didn't just message me lol. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 5:44:10 AM | I don't think that much about it. However someone comes to my attention, I still decide what to do, based in looking at their profile, and their picture.
I am among the many who didn't like the "meet me" feature, simply because it's mal-designed, and misleadingly described, so it causes problems. The new Flirt thing seems to be specific and clear. If someone sends you a "flirt," it's the same as if they sent an email saying "hi." The problem with the Meet Me thing, was that most of the people who used it, and all of the people who were hit with automated messages from it, had no idea what was meant by the selections being made. This is straightforward. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 7:44:09 AM | ^^^ +1
But this gives rise to two questions:
If this is supposed to replace the "Meet Me" feature, why haven't they implemented the same feature for men?
And why haven't they eliminated the "Meet Me"? | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:05:02 AM | "If you didn't respond to those types of things on another site, don't use them yourself." I AGREE!
I dont send them nor do i like them. Don't be lazy! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 9:05:50 AM | | Someone sending me a "flirt" would have to appear to be very compatible with me for me to respond to a flirt. If someone does not have sufficient interest to write a unique and engaging message, I don't understand why they would bother contacting me. I wouldn't likely be interested in them. | |
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