| | Natural or unatural selection?Page 1 of 1 | Hi guys
Got chatting to someone on another site and our profiles matched perfectly, right down to us only mentioning the same two authors.
On her 3rd email back she pointed out that
1) She would only date someone that was a graduate
2) She would only date someone that could pass as her childs father in the street
I thanked her for being honest and wished her luck.
But then it got me wondering along these lines:
a) Granted am not a grad but have 7 working for me
b) Do women with children honestly apply that type of selection process?
c) Is her future partner ever made aware of her criteria?
Having adopted two my understanding was that regardless of difference (e.g. when English people adopt oriental babies) if you can't deal with the comments at the school gate you don't deserve to be a parent. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:19:37 AM | You probably just aren't tall enough.. or she didn't fancy you. Just because your profiles "match" (nooo please.. is this an advert for eharmonshyte?) means nothing I find.
I agree as to the adoption stuff though..
I've never wanted my child to look like his father... (but he looks the spit of him). | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:31:31 AM | Nooo it possibly couldn't be she didn't fancy me...I am lovely....I've got it in writing from my Mum!  | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 3:08:26 AM | | Some people make out they have ridiculous criteria! It's probably that she didn't want to say something that you could actually have a reply to. Such as height or work, you couldn't really come back on her criteria cos she already knew you wasn't a graduate? as for the 'looking like her child' bit, what could you say? I think that if you are successful in your work and clearly you are. then you probably worked hard to get there by experience and not exams. And if you don't look like her child, she probably wants a different culture maybe? But then again, did she read your profile and look at your photo (sorry havent looked so dont know if you have all those there) and she still answered you? If so, I dont know where she is coming from! So she was just being ridiculous! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 5:08:38 AM | she didn't fancy you, and she was trying to discourage you hoping you would just go away, so she come up with these two daft reason.
Passing you off as the children farther sound creepie to me, and i think your well shut of here | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 11:28:57 AM | Yeah, sounds like she just didn't fancy you - she was also aware of the similarities - maybe you were a bit OTT on the 'we are so alike and a match' thing so she picked out things you couldn't argue about.
Also, some people prefer someone who doesn't like all of the same things as they do as it can make life a bit more interesting. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 11:42:55 AM | Assuming photos were indeed exchanged/available that is a bizarre statement....I would like to hope there are not many like that around....but then again, saying that she would only date someone that is a graduate doesn’t show much intelligence either....If the statements came just after photos exchange, then in that case, it might be that she just indeed didn’t fancy you....her loss I am sure ;)
Either way, you were most probably right in wishing her good luck :-D | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 11:51:08 AM | Just an excuse. Date a graduate? What in, Nuclear Physics or Macrame? As many universities complain today, they've had to dumb down the curriculum and entry tests because the new breed of student, you know, the ones coming from environments of record passes at A level year on year, are in fact as thick as pigshit.
As for the "I want someone who looks like the kids dad" that's just utterly worth a metaphorical punch in the mouth. What she hasn't told you is ;
1. The father has so far mounted an extremely successful escape and evasion from the CSA , or
2. Is in Jail, or
3. She is such a piece of work, he doesn't even want to see his kid.
You had a lucky escape.
I'm not a graduate , having dropped out of Uni in the second year, to go see the world and make money. If any Doris thinks I'm lacking in word , deed , intelligence or ability because I don't have BA or BSc after my name, she needs to go take her head for a fcuking wobble. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 11:57:40 AM | Let's give the woman in question the benefit of the doubt and accept that she was being genuinely honest with the OP, particularly when she claimed that:
2) She would only date someone that could pass as her childs father in the street
and answer the question:
b) Do women with children honestly apply that type of selection process?
It is quite an extraordinary excuse for not dating someone after all - but I do believe that people that fussy do exist, although it would be amusing to partner up with someone who bore an uncanny likeness to your offspring whilst not being their biological parent, surely it couldn't be the be all and end all of embarking on a relationship?
Besides, I doubt very much I would be able to find a man as good looking as my sons or as dreadful looking as their fathers and as extremely attractive as myself.
Seems to me that looking for a partner who could pass as your children's father/mother is ultimately quite vain - why not date your ex partner's sister/brother or your own father/mother, or even your own brother/sister to ensure that people will always be confused when regarding the similarities between everyone.
I seriously cannot imagine why anybody would want everybody to look the same within their family unit - it doesn't mean anything | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 12:09:10 PM | I actually knew a couple who wanted to adopt, and deliberately waited until they could take on a pair of red-headed boy twins, because the 'mother' was a redhead.
No, you couldn't make it up..........
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:10:12 PM | You're better off without her - sounds like a f**king nutter.
The glass is half full, so rejoice! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 3:28:30 PM |
She would only date someone that could pass as her childs father in the street
perhaps she was living in hope that she may (one day) meet her child's father ........... for the second time .......... and all she knew about him was that he was at university ;)
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