| | For the guys: Do girls message you first?Page 1 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | Basically what it says in the title, I read about girls emailing guys first. How common is this or do you have to be like 10/10?
I've only used this site for 2 days and gotten 4 emails from girls first.. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 6/30/2012 6:45:44 AM | Why can't you edit this thing?
btw all of which weren't my type, also how hard is it to get girls form your area to reply? No one seems to reply to my message unless I live like 100 miles away | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 7:56:18 AM | Quickly before they delete the thread. I don't know why there's such an obsession with policing everything on this forum. I guess the regulars get tired of seeing the same stuff again and again. Evidently, you have to be very original to start a thread that doesn't get deleted. However, search is your friend.
Two days and 4 e-mails!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! From girls first? And what like 10 more from you writing to them first?
WTF?? You're getting mobbed by the standards of this site. Stop complaining. That's an overwhelming response--enough to brag about and make the other guys feel bad.
I get between one and two a week. I rarely write to them first because I got tired of being ignored all the time. So, yes, they message me first. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:36:05 AM | Do a Profile Review. You need more photos which include a full length photo. Get rid of the overhead blurry photos.
For the majority, when someone first joins they will get more messages then they do months later as they tend to taper off. Photos are what grab most people's attention. So change yours! | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:36:58 AM | You say you have only used this site for 2 days and you joined on 4/29/2012 that would be 2 months OP was that a typo?? Your response rate for two months is not very good OP even old guys who are not looking can do better than that.
At 18 yrs of age why bother with online dating what's preventing you from meeting girls in the real world the UK is not exactly a place of low population density if you don't mind driving a half hour or so.
I was born not too far from where you live and when I went back to visit when I was 15 and again at 22 both times I found the British women quite friendly. Have British Women really become that unfriendly in the past 40 yrs or are you looking for a 10. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 8:43:30 AM | | lul wut I'm not bragging at all, I only joined this site cos everyone was talking about it on another forum and how they get so many messages from girls. Just wanted to see how much everyone else got xoxo | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 9:02:58 AM | | The nice way to put it is that if you like the bigger girls then yes you'll get messages from them 'first'. If you are not into bigger girls then you'll have to work at it to get responses. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 10:48:34 AM | Its uncommon for women to make the first move.. but a nice surprise when it happens.
your 4 messages in 2 days is AMAZING. You should give seminars on how you made that happen. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 10:48:41 AM |
The nice way to put it is that if you like the bigger girls then yes you'll get messages from them 'first'. If you are not into bigger girls then you'll have to work at it to get responses.
Not really. I get some of those, but by no means all the messages I get are from them. I find there is less flakiness if I just wait for them to contact me. If I wrote to her first, there's no guarantee she's actually interested. Sometimes, they write to me first and then disappear, but nowhere near as often as when I used to try to write to them first. Of course, I wouldn't recommend this strategy to someone who is serious. If I had more time and was less jaded, I would be writing to them first because all it does is increase your odds. It's just that I find it doesn't increase my odds enough to justify the effort to do it at this point in time, anyway. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 10:51:30 AM | Yes I get messages from women but 99.9 % of the time they're from ones that aren't my type.
I think either this happens in reverse as well or I totally SUCK at writing msgs. | |
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| For the guys: Do girls message you first?
Posted: 6/30/2012 10:55:57 AM | | Of the 50 or so dates I have gotten off this site in the past couple of years being on and off.... maybe closer to 60 actually. I would say that 90% of them emailed me first. Rarely do I email a lady first unless I really see something I really like. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 11:10:24 AM | I get on average about 4-6 a day. It's a mix of people here locally and people from the forums. The most I've gotten in one day is 17, which happened about two weeks ago.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I think in a lot of cases, it's all about location. If you live in a major city, expect a lot. If you live in a one horse town no one has heard of, expect nothing.
However, that's not to say there aren't people who just aren't "selling" themselves well. I see a lot of profiles that are simply bland overall, and chock full of negativity. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 12:54:22 PM | I know I am not a guy, but I just wanted to throw my two cents in.
I always emailed first. I actually keep my profile hidden, and almost always have.
And Pig, I can't believe you have gotten 17 messages in one day! That is way too many to choose from!
I am glad I live in a one horse town. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:02:38 PM |
And Pig, I can't believe you have gotten 17 messages in one day!
I was astounded, as well. Right before the weekend, it usually picks up (I'm guessing more women come out of the woodwork hoping to make weekend plans) but that was a bit more than usual. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 2:09:11 PM | Well Justin Beiber,
glad to see you on POF.
and hope your good luck continues.
to answer your question,
women often do write to me first.
but still single.
don't know what's up with that.
My goofy carefree attitude I suppose.
:-P | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 4:19:49 PM | | Not unless there is something in their profile that suggests they might be into the same kink that I am. Otherwise, I usually just get blocked. | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 5:23:01 PM |
I've only used this site for 2 days and gotten 4 emails from girls first..
OP is only 18, and has been on this site for a few days
You haven't been online dating long enough to know how bad it gets | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 6:43:16 PM | | ill just say this you have two type of women who message first the ones who just loves your profile and you stand out compared to other guys and women who most guys are not attracted to so they are forced to put more effort than the average women.a women would click you on the meet me feature or add you as a favorite then leave you to do the rest of the work of messaging them.then you have women wo dont even use the search feature and only thing they use or the view me section or go strait to inbox and just replay to messages most the time | |
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Posted: 6/30/2012 9:26:24 PM | I've gotten some over the course of the months. I can't remember how many off-hand. I've also gotten first contacts on OKC as well. I do see what people mean with bigger girls trying their luck across the site but I have also had girls of other builds message me as well and lead to meets.
I used to message girls back when this was all new to me but online dating for me has lost its newness factor so I just leave the profile up. Plus a lot of meets I have gone on keep me from wanting to message girls these days.
Oh and it is impossible to be 10/10. When someone has a negative mindset they'll find something wrong with you no matter what it takes. Plus a lot of people on this site have completely unrealistic expectations. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 7:56:44 AM |
I've said it before, and I'll say it again, I think in a lot of cases, it's all about location. If you live in a major city, expect a lot. If you live in a one horse town no one has heard of, expect nothing.
I've been thinking about that lately. I'm actually contemplating a temporary move to LA or NYC for that reason (plus, I need a change of scenery and there are presumably lots of jobs there as well). There are more people online and in real life. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:00:15 AM | | Keep trying, I got the same problem. The ones I'm interested in won't write back and the ones I'm not write me 1st...vicious cycle. I'm out of the dating game online. I'm going to change my profile..."Forums only" on my next day off. | |
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