| | What should I do?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Me and my gf decided to take a break because there was a lot of stuff going on. It was only suppose to be for a week or two. she wanted to try and date this guy but only after a few days she asked her to marry her and move in down to southern Indiana in a few weeks. She felt pressured into saying yes to both. In the weeks up to her moving she stayed at my night at my house just about everyday. Shes told me several times that shes in love with me and I have her heart and shes only going to be gone for a month. I'm suppose to get her around Aug, 5th, but I feel that since we wont get to talk/text much and she wont be able to see me that she might not want to be with me. We had dated for 3 1/2 years and shes only known him about 1-2 months and she says she already kind of loves him.
So my question is what should I do (like the title says) | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:23:25 AM | Nothing.
If she wants to go with the other guy then let her but don't let her back in your life. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:32:22 AM | What's the plan, she moves in with the guy, kills him then you both move into the house? Yay!
Dude she is either dumb as hell or she thinks you are.
Who feels pressured into marrying a guy after a few days but spends every night with her old BF??
Please tell me this is a troll post. It must be. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:32:43 AM | Get down on your knees and thank God she's gone.
I mean seriously, who does that-she sounds crazy. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:41:36 AM | So,while you were on a break from your girlfriend of 3.5 years,she meets a guy and accepts his marriage proposal but is going to stay at your place til she leaves you for him.
Have i got that right?
I would hope NOT.
Op,what does your common sense tell you? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:44:33 AM | You started dating her when you were around 18 or so? And I'm guessing she's your first serious girlfriend? She almost certainly still has some feelings for you, but they're not love. And now she's moving on. You need to do the same.
What should you do? Go back to college and get that degree. This is the perfect time to do that. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 6:52:04 AM | You should learn that there's no such thing as a "break". As I like to paraphrase Yoda: "Date. Or date not. There is no 'break'."
she wanted to try and date this guy but only after a few days she asked her to marry her and move in down to southern Indiana in a few weeks. She felt pressured into saying yes to both. In the weeks up to her moving she stayed at my night at my house just about everyday.
You should learn to stop being a doormat. She annouces she wants to take a "break" (plain English: break up with you) to go date some other guy, and you let her stay with you until she moves? Really?
What you should have done is say "Get out, and don't let the screen door hit you in the ass on your way out."
Your man-card is suspended and your nuts are impounded for 90 days. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 7:28:42 AM | Are you kidding!! Your asking US, what should you do??? REALLY???
DUDE! Is your self image so low that you need this crap in your life?? (crap is her) Do u always allow people to run over you and use you and abuse you??? DUDE I am shocked that anyone would allow themself to be used in shuch a matter!
Cute all ties with this DIVA, whore, slut, user, self seeking Bit&^%!!! YES, I said all those words!! You shoud be hit, punched, slaped, kicked in the nut sack!!
If any woman, did this to me I would cut all ties! Like one person said, RUN FORREST RUN!!!
by this way, no-one who says she loves you, does. That
/this is no action of love and your just being used! GOD i just want to SHAKE YOU!! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 7:38:44 AM | | This woman is pretty vile to be doing this to you. Kick her to the curb. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:09:30 AM | Me and my gf decided to take a break because there was a lot of stuff going on.
What was going on, or was it just ..
she wanted to try and date this guy
he asked her to marry him and move in down to southern Indiana in a few weeks.
Fixed that for you.
She felt pressured into saying yes
Why? Especially since ...
In the weeks up to her moving she stayed at my night at my house just about everyday
It doesn't make sense that she'd feel "pressured" into agreeing to marry a guy she barely knows, but then stay with you. If the other guy was pressuring her for marriage, surely he'd be pressuring her not to stay at some dude's house, especially an ex. Or is she lying to him about where she's staying?
shes only going to be gone for a month. I'm suppose to get her around Aug, 5th
What's going to change in a month?
So my question is what should I do
You should let her know that you aren't waiting around for her while she f*cks around with other guys, and you sure as h3ll aren't going to go fetch her on Aug 5, like some trained dog. She can get herself back, if she wants to, and you MIGHT consider dating her again. Or not.
In the meantime, start enjoying being single. Practice being self-sufficient, and figuring out who you are without the influence of another person.
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:10:35 AM | | You should move on. She's already found someone else. Sounds like she's playing games with you. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:11:59 AM | She sounds like a wonderful women. Why haven't you married her already!? Get real! This is troll central for sure!
What makes it okay to have it off with someother dude and take he's proposal 2 seconds later, tell you, stay with you and then you wonder:
that she might not want to be with me
She's playing with your mind and she's not even trying to be sneaky about it, and your acting like your loving it or something? If you don't know what to do at this point, I don't know what to to tell ya! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:25:28 AM | Let me get this straight. She is telling you that she loves you, but she also loves this dude, which means both of you are f vcking her, but she wants to move with the guy for a month to see if that works better, and if it not, she will come back to you.
And then what? She is going to realize that she may love more some other guy, and will do this again, while you sit on the sideline waiting for her to come back.
What to do? First, grow a pair.
Second. Just dump her. Get yourself someone that thinks that YOU are the priority NOT the option. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:29:39 AM |
she says she already kind of loves him.
So my question is what should I do
Well, you should "kinda" start drinking. And with that, I will include it should be A LOT OF DRINKING. And I wouldn't be afraid to smoke a couple of big fatties to add to the mix. After that?????? It's all up to you.
Holy phuck!! And I thought I had a confused view of things!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:44:46 AM | "Me and my gf decided to take a break because there was a lot of stuff going on. It was only suppose to be for a week or two. she wanted to try and date this guy but only after a few days she asked her to marry her and move in down to southern Indiana in a few weeks. She felt pressured into saying yes to both. In the weeks up to her moving she stayed at my night at my house just about everyday. Shes told me several times that shes in love with me and I have her heart and shes only going to be gone for a month. I'm suppose to get her around Aug, 5th, but I feel that since we wont get to talk/text much and she wont be able to see me that she might not want to be with me. We had dated for 3 1/2 years and shes only known him about 1-2 months and she says she already kind of loves him.
So my question is what should I do (like the title says)"
I had this happen to me.
She left, married this guy who she 'loved' and their marriage lasted just long enough for her to get pregnant. Then wanted me to pickup the pieces but I just couldn't do it especially since a year later she took up with another guy and the process repeated itself.
I had known this girl since childhood, I figured we had a bond that couldn't be broken. Stupid me.
Don't be a sap. It's painful. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:49:45 AM | | Cut all ties to her, stop all communication and when she begs to come back in a month when the proverbial shyt hits the fan.... ignore her and let her live with her own decisions. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 8:50:44 AM | Dude forget about this girl! You're on POF now, you don't need her!
Stop by profile reviews while you're here | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 9:01:54 AM |
what should I do
Walk away. And learn this lesson well! Be very careful choosing women in the future. And be extremely careful picking a wife.
For next time a long term relationship walks away at the drop of a hat, you could lose your house, children, pay $1000 per month in child support, half of all savings and assets, half your retirement, .........
Walk away lucky. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 9:22:05 AM | | If she is leaving you to go live with another guy I would end it. She doesn't get to have her cake and eat it too and frankly I think she is being ridiculous and dishonest. No one feels pressured to move in with someone, I think she is doing exactly what she wants and stringing you along as the back up plan. Kick her out of your life, it will be hard, especially since you still have feelings for her, but you deserve way better than a girl who isn't sure how she feels about you and is willing to basically take a break from your relationship and cheat on you, I guarantee she would not accept the same behavior from you. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 11:33:28 AM | What should you do?!?!
ACT LIKE A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 11:39:41 AM | | Yea open the door and tell her to get out???? | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 11:59:10 AM | | Moving on is effing hard, show her what you are all about. ( she showed you what she is all about) | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 12:08:55 PM | Because you cannot see how messed up this is, and how manipulative this girl is, you really need to stop dating/seeing anyone and get your act together, or you will find yourself in these ridiculous situations throughout your life.
No self respecting person puts up with a partner who needs a break and wants to date other people (agreeing to spend some time apart is one thing, but it should never be a chance to "check out" the other possibilities.
No self-respecting person asks, or accepts, a marriage proposal after a few days. Screams of desperation and inability to accept that getting to know someone --their true character and trustiworthiness, etc.--takes a boat load of time.
No self-respecting person allows another back in their life after that other has dumpted on them by agreeing to marry/move with a third person.
Sounds like none of the 3 people involved here is really very mature and certainly appears to be a lot of low self-esteem going around. Get out while you can.
She does not love you--no one can treat someone they love this badly. Love isn't just a feeling, it is the loving, honoring, and cherishing behavior that one naturally practices b/c of that feeling. She's talking the talk but not walking the walk.
You deserve much better--but until YOU realize that and insist on it from your partner, you won't get it. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 12:19:44 PM | | U drop he like a hot rock & move on. Your already old news to her romance wise. Why else would she want a break with you to date another. And she's not 12 or having her arm twisted into following him either. Your in a lose lose situation & your only way out is on your own terms. Regardless if she says she's changed her mind now she was already looking to trade up. | |
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