| | Guys and GirlsPage 1 of 1 | | Guys and Girls on pof and life in general in my experience are only out for themselves. I have been on here a good while and I have noticed that guys generally just want sex and make it difficult for guys like myself that are here for a relationship and dating but the most recent person I met up with off this was convinced I'm a player like everyone else. Girls have become very wary of guys and I can't blame them, it just sucks for those of us that want to chat and get to know people, I don't get messages or replies from girls no matter what I say in the messages I send. If any of you out there feel you are in the same boat do comment. | |
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Posted: 7/1/2012 3:31:47 PM | Dont blame yourself, thats what the girls want you to do.
Take back the power !!
Most women dont reply on here because from experience chatting with some i will say this
the majority have zero personality and nothing to say but a pretty face and their tits hanging out
no sense of humour. Not all but most. They arent replying because they dont seem to grasp that a conversation takes two people. Its a shocking state of affairs.
But dont get down hearted, Best thing to do is just wait till one emails you, their usually the interesting one's. Getting a reply here is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack of boobs and fake tan. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 4:14:33 AM | | maybe it's the quality of message that doesn't get a response. most here are looking for a hookup in my experience. it's a shame | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 7:56:16 AM | | yes if you genuine guy, all get tarred with same brush. but you got consider women on here get loads more messages than guys, so more choice. majority of them messages do you cam, what size tits ect. its quality of message so chat be genuine, funny, if it meant to be.... | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 3:29:34 PM | emotion89 - as guys, you and I have no idea what messages women are getting and what they experience is. On the other hand women have no idea of the stuff that we guys have to suffer, and we have plenty of scary women and stalkers to tell about.
It does get bloody irritating to have to wade through women's profiles with no photos and notices warning No Time Wasters ... and other really high maintenance objectionable profiles. I steer clear the minute I see any of that crap. You really have to laugh sometimes the HUGE number of women with no photos and then the huge number with 'no photo no reply' notices .......... jeeeeez | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 4:56:34 PM | the vast majority of messages I get consist of..... 'hi' (nothing else)....or 'wanna chat?'
If I message someone I would say something about an aspect of their profile or comment on their photo(eg where they were taken) I would also try and be witty about it too. A couple, 2-3 well thought out, witty sentences warrant at least the same back in response, thus starting a conversation. But starting with just 'hi'....means you are not putting any effort into starting a conversation with someone, so really....why should they answer?
I do feel for the OP who believes it is hard to meet people on here.
My own opinion on that is that those of a certain age 35+ have had a long term serious relationship behind them and although they might want another in the future, that they are quite happy to 'play the field' so to speak for the next while. And I may get slated for this......but I believe that a lot of women in that age bracket too are quite happy to 'play the field' too after coming out of long term relationships. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 3:01:34 AM | 'hi' (nothing else)....or 'wanna chat?'
thats called a greeting, its also a show of interest, i see no problem with a short opener. | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 8:48:33 AM | | agreed, marianna36. what to say to "hi" except...."hi" lmao | |
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Posted: 7/3/2012 11:42:38 AM | Girls always email saying feckin "Hi"
But sure if you mail some one and they look at your page, and dont reply might aswell put it down to them not being interested. I get that like... all the time ! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 9:08:49 AM | | Same here it's very frustrating and putting me off trying anymore to be honest. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 12:37:35 PM | Grrrrr see you guys lol! Ok so I've been on here for a bit not all guys are out for what they can get but I did have one the other day asking me how long is it since I've had sex and what is my fav position even though I stated that I'm not on here for sex talk or looking for it on my profile. It would be nice when someone puts effort into their profile that a guy takes an interest and asks hi how are you? I see on your profile you like, it's not hard and that's what I call taking an interest!
Also their does have to be some level of attraction to the person, I've spoken to guys on here I've been attracted to but have had no personality and a great profile so it's really hit and miss! Like some guys on here who are genuine and looking to date not for a fling or one night stands or sex talk. Anyways day block list is looking rather long and would like it to be shorter! | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 1:10:42 PM | I tried longer messages like that and it never helped I still got no replies.
I think probably none of the girls liked my photo.
So I took my photo down yesterday and have pretty much given up here.
I think I've been on here for about 3 years on and off.
I'm a decent guy with a lot of good qualities but unfortunately no one here is interested.
I think online dating works great for some people because they're very good looking and take a great photo but if you're normal like me it's just no use. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 3:19:18 PM |
Guys and Girls on pof and life in general in my experience are only out for themselves
Why would I be ''out'' for a stranger?!?!?
I have been on here a good while and I have noticed that guys generally just want sex
How do you know? Do they message you?
make it difficult for guys like myself that are here for a relationship and dating
How do we know your telling the truth?
I don't get messages or replies from girls no matter what I say in the messages I send
If they don't reply they are not interested, you can not force someone to be interested.
Or maybe your messages or profile are generic??
Smexi | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 3:50:40 PM | Smexi is right, you can't force someone to be interested.
Attracting the attention of someone that you fancy is not easy, even in the real world.
All you can do is try be as engaging and interesting as you can. Someone will notice and then the ball is in your court.
Also don't log on when you're feeling down or blue, your messages will reflect how you feel. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 7:42:52 PM | Men who give themselves names like ''emotion89'' and talk about just wanting to get to know girls are always the ones who are most deceitful and gagging for fanny.
There's a certain Pluck and Honor in just coming out and say I want loads of fanny. It's quite admirable. However calling yourself emotion and pretending you care about everything but the fanny is wrong. I'd go as far as saying evil. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:02:46 PM | Yep just wasted my time messaging someone else there now.
It makes me feel like a fool when I waste my time messaging a girl who won't reply.
I don't have the patience for this kind of crap anymore. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:08:12 PM | | You'd stand a better chance of winning the lotto than meeting anyone decent on here ever. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2012 9:12:12 PM | All the women here deserve to stay single and die alone,
Thats all I can say.
At least I tried and was courteous and nice to people when I tried here.
All you can do is try.
I'm not wasting time messaging anyone here anymore, | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 1:31:09 AM | | "all" women on here? gosh that's a bit harsh. are we to assume you've messaged "all" the women on the site? | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 1:50:33 AM | I'm sorry it was a very harsh statement.
I don't really believe that.
I've been very immature in my previous posts and I apologise for them.
Anyway it's clear to me that online dating isn't for me. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2012 3:34:40 PM | Are ya mad LondonG, It's fecking raining out there !!
Chin up gent's, if they dont reply to you just hound them untill they give. I hear that works.
Or send them photo's of your car or some thing. | |
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