| | Professional looking for professionalPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Is it to much to ask for a professional man to look for a professional woman? I don't want to support a woman anymore than I want to be supported. I work hard for my lifestyle and I feel meeting a woman who works hard for hers will make her appreciate what I have more. I changed my profile text to show my values however and I am looking for opinions on my changes. Do you think this will drive more career oriented women to message me and not the gold diggers? | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/1/2012 10:43:55 PM |
I changed my profile text to show my values however and I am looking for opinions on my changes. Do you think this will drive more career oriented women to message me and not the gold diggers? Its not really very much. I think its fine. I dont think it will entice women to want to write to you more though in any special way. Your last problem was more related to no one replying to you and I doubt that will solve that problem. Why not just contact more women that list professional careers?
Personally I wouldnt care if the right gal worked at McDonalds if she was fun and cute.
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/1/2012 11:56:13 PM | | I agree about your McDonald's comment. I get very little response but the responses i do get is from women whose profession is either left blank or says.... being a mommy.... translation=looking for a payday. I don't want that. I don't mind a woman with children AT ALL. I just want a woman with the right intentions. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:09:14 AM | | OP: In addition to my last comment, you'll need to delete your main photo in which I can clearly see your ex-gal's hair. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 11:59:37 AM | It's not too much to ask...but it's not going to be easy! I know exactly how you feel but the only difference is that I'm a woman. I'm educated and career oriented and I work HARD. I have a full-time career plus I work overtime and side jobs when I can. There is no way I want to end up with someone who is barely working and/or lives off mom & dad (especially in their 30's & 40's). I can understand if its a job loss or something of that nature, but I keep running into guys that aren't even trying to make their life better. I'm not expecting someone to make a lot of money, but they should be trying to keep it together! Also I can't deal with poor money management skills. I don't need anyone trying to live off of me!
I think your profile is good and in that it briefly mentions that you are looking for a career oriented woman without making a huge issue about it. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 12:52:14 PM | | It's not my ex and that photo is the only photo I like my smile in. If someone is that concerned about a strand of hair and get jealous over it, they deserve to be single. I'm 39 not 18. Not to sound mean but that's silly. | |
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Posted: 7/2/2012 12:56:51 PM | | I feel the need to add this to my profile. I myself am a single parent. My late wife passed away 3 years ago and my son is an insulin dependent diabetic that has special needs. I know as well as anyone what being a single parent is like. All I am asking is for the person that I meet to be self sustaining as I am and not EXPECT me to provide for her and her children. If I do, as I have in the past (someone's 3 children and her) then that should be a choice that I make for myself not one that's made for me because I get messaged by someone whose profession is "Mommy". That is a red flag. "Support me". | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 12:59:24 PM | | Thank you. I feel your pain and I have the utmost respect for you as you are trying and trying hard. Not looking for a provider. You want to meet someone to love, not someone's pocket book. Grats to you! | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:16:09 PM | your message is loud and clear. if you want validation that it's reasonable, you're getting that, though you don't really need it. anyone can ask for anything they want, even if it's outlandish or unreasonable, as long as they're willing to accept the consequences of their choice.
that being said, vetting prospects is your job and your job only. there's no magical combination of words you can put on your page that will automatically screen out the people you don't find acceptable. you're in the same boat as the women who are paranoid about male libido. the only way to figure people out is to investigate patiently before committing. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:19:11 PM | | I actually feel the same way. The biggest turn off ever is a guy laying up on my couch channel flipping while I'm on my way to work. I personally feel that you should me on equal grounds, and if thing progress, then there's no where to go but up! I don't know what's wrong with this society today, I personally would be ashamed to have someone take care of me, dont get me wrong there are many other ways to do that, but financially should be the last thing on a stable womans mind. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:51:37 PM | I think I would prefer to be in a relationship with a fellow teacher. We'd have the same holidays off and the summer. No resentment toward each other because vacation times don't jive.
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:54:24 PM | I understand what you are saying, OP. It works both ways, with men and women wanting more.
I fully agree that a woman should not be looking for a man to support her or her children. Good grief, I don't even know how they would have the nerve to expect such a thing.
Maybe it is just me, but I think of professional in a different sense. Sounds like you don't care where she works as long as she is self sufficient. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/2/2012 8:38:41 PM | You've got gold diggers messaging you?
I looked at our profile and the target you are shooting for is a lot
smaller than a woman who is a "professional"... she's also got
to be intrigued by a guy who leads his pitch with an old
testament reference. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 10:38:07 AM |
I changed my profile text to show my values You have? What does it say?
I find a woman in a business suit sexy as hell! I don't know why, just do. Ah this!! Yes, that'll work, she'll appreciate your life's work & morals from that little 'value' comment. OR.. perhaps you meant here:
I love a career oriented woman that wants to climb the corporate latter faster than me. Yeah, your dream romance together sounds like a competitive nightmare.. Don't you think someone so similar to how you see yourself might just want you to appreciate what she has too? . Or is it really ALL about you? | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:14:09 AM | | You're on the wrong site for professional, business oriented women. Demographic wise, two pay sites are MUCH better than here at this, and one free one is. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 12:06:31 PM | When I goofed around on a certain other popular pay site I found lots of professional women. They are all pining away for guys that are 6'2" with a full head of hair though so I think you'd be SOL there.
Just look for someone who has the same interests you do and isn't foolish with their money if you're worried about that angle. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 6:24:00 PM | | I hear ya OP. I've been looking for a fisherwomen for decades now.Of course she has to know how to drink,and roll. I keep the eyes open, and promote myself the best I can,but I think the ones I've been looking for are probably passed out beside a lake or walking around the shores of a some freaking river staring at the moving water!!!! Damn women!!! | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 9:06:06 PM |
I love a career oriented woman that wants to climb the corporate latter faster than me.
That would be LADDER.
I’d lose the ‘sweaty sex’ as an ‘interest’, just EW. And you’re advertising for a ‘princess’ but don’t want a ‘gold digger.’ To me you’ve got a lot of conflicting stuff there. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:15:22 PM | | If you do something and get paid for it... it's a 'profession'. Most people have one. So what's the O.P.'s point exactly? | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:21:43 PM | I agree with others, your profile is a bit odd, referencing princesses, the corporate ladder, etc.???
^^^professional does not mean doing something and getting paid for it!! lol It is based criteria, such as a liberal education. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:42:45 PM | professional does not mean doing something and getting paid for it!! lol It is based criteria, such as a liberal education.
Incorrect. A professional is merely one who excels in a particular field based on knowledge and skills. It is not necessarily based on educational level. The white collar world just perverted it in an attempt to segregate themselves from others. Further, true professionalism also carries a code of conduct and ethics.
edit to add......
OP, let the buyer beware. Applying a 'professional' moniker to your criteria, as a barometer, is far from a guarantee you will improve the quality of women you find.
Quality people come from all walks of life, as do poor quality ones. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/6/2012 1:00:30 PM | | I'm unclear about your use of the term "professional". In my world, a "professional" is someone with a professional degree (engineer, accountant, pharmacist, doctor, lawyer, etc). I'm a lawyer. Unless your profile is inaccurate, it says that your educati0n level is high school. | |
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| Professional looking for professional
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:46:49 PM | I hate to break it to you, but a HR "professional" with a High School diploma isn't actually what a professional woman would consider "professional". When one here's professional they think Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Teacher, etc, someone with an advanced degree, in a field that requires an advanced degree. (sorry your masters in Theater doesn't cut it when you are flipping burgers at Mickey D's) I think what you are looking for is a woman with a job or a career. That might be a better way to put it without sounding snobby. Also remove the 'sweaty sex' and 'women are sexy in a business suit' sounds creepy and pervy
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