| | Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | I had dated a woman for a while and dumped her for her dog because she would not let go of the dog while I am visiting her. It was OK for a while but after a while it was started to get under my skins. every time I am visiting her, the dog is always in the conversation, it is in between us while we are trying to be intimate, she is constantly hugging, kissing, Talking to the dog every 30 seconds.The dog tried to attacked me every time we try to kiss each or sitting next to her , it looks like we have no privacy, no" me and her time" alone without the dog.No romance ,no passion w/o the dog.She would not put the dog on the other room while I am there? She will not come to my place because she can not leave her dog alone but she want the relationship and all the attention from me.
How she is going to have a relationship if she clung to a dog like it is her life and death situation and let alone a man come to her life.Don't take it wrong, I love dogs and animals but there is a line where we need to be attentive in other areas of life too.Animal is part of our life and family but it is not our whole life. My dog is Important to me but I am not going to neglect my wife, children or my Girlfriend ,parents or a guest because of my dog. Am I being wrong to dump her because of her too much attachment towards her dog? | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 5:52:59 AM | SIR, i have 4 dogs whom i dearly love, and i only have one question for you....
why didn't you dump her sooner??
she is fixated on that animal. she wasn't emotionally available. huge waste of time for you to "talk to her" about it; she'd never hear you. you should have told her to get a good shrink. of course, she wouldn't have heard that either, LOL | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:11:29 AM | "Did you talk to her about it and give her a chance to change things to suit you better"
I spoke to her about her about my feelings and let her know clearly that I want to spend my time with her mostly because of my busy schedule and 25 miles drive to get to her place.I have already spend good amount of time with her and the dog, suggested her that we go to the park with her dog so we can spend time as family( and Dog needs some healthy outlet, he wants to play and run around not be cooped up in the house and smothered with too much love).Please do not misunderstand me, I love the dog, he is adorable but spoiled. He also liked me a lot.As soon as he sees me he is jumping on my lap with joy and very fond of me.He is a very good dog but it was my lady friend who is the problem in here,not the dog. | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:30:39 AM | Wow, that's just creepy! Yes, you are definitely doing the right thing (did you really have any doubt?). Too bad she didn't take the dog's cue to realize you were a "keeper." That dog had more sense than her-you were kind to it, saw it as part of the family, and yet she herself couldn't see that you were willing to meet her half-way, in the place where "normal" people live! I'm crazy about my new puppy, but I wouldn't let him stand between me and the folks I love. Nor would I expect him to be part of everything I do.
I feel sorry for the pooch. S/he probably would like a break from all that smothering! | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:42:33 AM | I'm curious, did you make any effort to befriend the dog? The dog sees you as a potential threat, and if you ignore him and make no effort to include him when you're socializing with the woman, that only reinforces his view of you as a threat.
Locking a dog in another room won't work. Most dogs will go berserk in such a situation. It instinctively needs to be a part of the group.
If you're not a "dog" person, it's best that you move on and it's also best for her to move on.
"I love the dog, he is adorable but spoiled. He also liked me a lot.As soon as he sees me he is jumping on my lap with joy and very fond of me.He is a very good dog but it was my lady friend who is the problem in here,not the dog."
I thought you said the dog attacked you when you tried to kiss her??? | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:52:35 AM | Op,this from your opening Post....
The dog tried to attacked me every time we try to kiss each or sitting next to her
But,then,this further on.....
He also liked me a lot.As soon as he sees me he is jumping on my lap with joy and very fond of me.
So,my BS radar is going off.
WOOF.
*Edit* Thanks wanderer.....i hear what you're saying but i still think Op has a vivid imagination.........:) | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:55:15 AM |
Op,this from your opening Post....
The dog tried to attacked me every time we try to kiss each or sitting next to her
But,then,this further on.....
He also liked me a lot.As soon as he sees me he is jumping on my lap with joy and very fond of me.
So,my BS radar is going off.
WOOF.
Actually, that can happen if the person isn't experienced in handling dogs.
If he hasn't established himself as the "alpha" dog in the group, the dog can like him, but be aggressive when he feels like the BF is encroaching on his territory... like trying to kiss his lady.
There are people who like dogs, then there are Dog People. | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 11:46:06 AM | I do have a dog and am Fully aware of the boundary.It is the responsibility of the owners to teach and train dogs how to behave around people,specially the loved one. My dog know his place and never attack someone when I am hugging
and loving someone. Its like your own children , people have to train the manners and etiquette to the dogs too.Dogs are smart animal and they know from the rights and wrongs. it is the people who spoil and smother them with too much love and inject their poor personalities upon their dogs and animals.Most of the time they Pick up our bad behavior and act accordingly.It is our responsibility to set boundaries and and teach our pet appropriate behavior. How would you feel you have a guest and your son or daughter are attacking them while you are trying to have a conversation with them? Does it make sense
My current Girlfriend have two dogs and they never attack or act in appropriately when I am intimate with her. They are very well behaved dog and very intelligent dog. They know they place and they act wonderfully, Very loving, cute and adorable dog. | |
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| Woman who is attached to her Dog too much? Was dumping her was a ideal situation?
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:58:12 PM |
My current Girlfriend have two dogs and they never attack or act in appropriately when I am intimate with her. They are very well behaved dog and very intelligent dog. They know they place and they act wonderfully, Very loving, cute and adorable dog.
So the situation in your original post was awhile ago? WTF is the point of starting a thread about it if you've already moved on and are dating someone else? | |
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