| | Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationshipPage 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | well to sum it up I was sent a txt saying she needed to tell me somthing and was sorry for what happened at the end of our break up(which wasnt a big deal in my book, it was both of our faults) and if i would forgive her which i did. Pretty we fell for each other and in my mind rushed things a bit, if i was given the chance I would definitely get back with her. We only got to have a small conversation but she wants me to txt her back today, does this sound like she may want to get back together? | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:43:26 AM | to me it sounds like she wants closure.... maybe it's taken her a whole year to really look at what happened and to feel some responsiblity for the break up. i would take it all as a good sign that she is maturing and holds no grudge against you BUT i would not assume anything else from this. for some reason women really need to have closure or that last conversation about why things ended (some men may not need that so they can take it the wrong way).
try to take it as it was offered and no more..... if there is more interest from her she will contact you again. you need to be patient and the bigger man here. JIMO | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:06:15 AM | More than likely she just ended a relationship with someone else and possibly noted some things about it that reminded her of what went wrong between the two of you. When I have problems with a guy I always think back to other relationships where the same conflict occurred and wonder if there is something that I need to change to keep the same conflicts from reoccurring with different men.
Why don't you set up a time and place to talk to her in person? Don't text. Whether she wants to get back together or just get something off her chest it's probably best that you do it face to face. | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:18:29 AM | Another possibility is that she attended Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and is at the stage where they have to "make amends" to all those they have hurt in the past by their actions, and to let them know what they could do to make it up to you.
I got one of those. There really wasn't anything he COULD have done to "make amends", and I wasn't willing to help him ease his guilty conscience anyway. | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 1:59:23 PM | ^^ That's so funny. A friend of mine's ex came back and he had been absolutely brutalized by the breakup. She had a similar opener and he wondered the exact same thing that you are saying, lol.. he was really turned upside down over it. That was about a year and a half ago and they have been together ever since. They are now engaged. Just sayin'
Let us know how it goes Op :) | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 2:17:52 PM |
Another possibility is that she attended Alcoholics Anonymous meetings and is at the stage where they have to "make amends" to all those they have hurt in the past by their actions, and to let them know what they could do to make it up to you.
About a year after I ended it with a drunken loser, I was drunk dialed by him. He told me that I was the best thing that ever happened to him and that I was good to him and he had treated me badly, all of which I agreed to and told him that he should use this as an example of how not to be should he ever have a relationship in this life time.
I then asked him if he was in rehab or a 12 step program, to which he said no, why? I told him that was the only logical reason for calling me and I hung up on him. The moral of this story is not to go back because rarely does the leopard change his stripes. | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 2:18:20 PM | It's interesting to me that as many people have had positive experiences like yours. My own instant suspicion was along the lines that several people mentioned, that she is apologizing for her own sake, as a way of firmly closing the book on you. But as I can see too, you wont know until you know.
I do strongly recommend though, that you ditch your proposed vow to make her do all the work of crawling back to you. Don't leap into the begging puppy position by any means, but if you really would like to have her back, acting like a petulant child isn't what I'd think would present you at your most attractive. I'd go with confident, smiling, receptive-but-not-desperate, mature patience, if it were me.
And I wish you good fortune. | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 2:46:50 PM | Gorilla,
I agree with you.
If you still like her, wouldn't hurt to see what she says.
and to be cool about things.....as you have been.
If she wants more,
her's to ask.
whether you do or not,
still nice to be asked.
:-P
Sometimes when things happen too soon,
and both parties can stand back and think about it....
a second time isn't so bad.
Good luck. | |
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:04:39 PM |
You can specualate until the cows come home but there could be a few different scenarios. Just meet with her face to face and ask straight out questions. (Msg 9)
Or, you could tell her it’s okay and you’re okay. Then, see if there’s any follow-up. I can never figure out why people come to these boards asking strangers the intentions of another stranger to them.
yeah, she's been working on no contact for a year, now it's time to get back together.
Really after a year, you should look for someone who is going to love you. Good Luck
Only YOU, Gorilla, can decide where lie the better odds at finding love!
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| Almost a year later and my ex apologizes for what happened in a past relationship
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:26:33 PM | Hmm...
My intuition, no matter how it ended originally, is to avoid contact unless strickly plantonic...and even that may be difficult for you OP. I personally would stay clear.
However, if you do want to see "where this could go" ensure you remain "in control"...not falling into the same rut that caused the original break-up.
And for heavens sake, don't pant like a puppy dog (by giving into her whims) around her and cut it off immediately if some of the old animosity creeps up again. Following the same path expecting different results is insanity.
Stay sane.
Familiarity may be a comfort zone for either one of you which means the thrill of getting back together is likely to be gone in short order (weeks or a month or two).
Good chance she is seeing if you can be lead back into the fold which means you'd be "filler" until a BBD comes along.
Be prepared to get dumped again although I wish you luck trying to rebuild the house of card if that is what you want. | |
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