| | dating but cant get over my lastPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | I have been having a hell of a time trying to move on or get over her so to speak, But this one Lady I met on POF and we dated for almost two years on and off! We eventually split up for good thanks to me and she has moved on but yet are paths crossed 4-5 months later and it hit me like a sledge hammer in the chest!!! Bringing up all the ol feelings I have for her! I just cannot shake her memory no matter how hard I try???? | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:41:38 AM | | then I suggest you DON'T date until you get over her.....for if you don't the dating realm will be a total waste of time not only for you but for any potentials out there. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:54:13 AM | Just when you think you've dealt with your feelings, they surface again. It's OK and normal. They will become less and less as time passes.
Don't enter into a relationship too hastily. What dates you will have next, will be rebounds. Unhealthy and so unfair on you and the woman.
Deal with your healing and emotions.
This, too, shall pass. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/2/2012 12:05:35 PM | | No I dont mean it like that! I am over her and have moved on my self , It just strikes me as odd that our paths should cross again like this and brought up old feelings . Anyone would feel that??? | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/2/2012 6:54:05 PM | Yes, old feelings are brought up...sounds as though she broke up with you would be the reason you can't get over your last, as you described.
You are not over her, if you were, you would not be posting this . | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:41:28 PM | | Your right to a point its time I move on, we just had this way of drifting in and out of each others lives, just enough to screw everything up! LOL | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/3/2012 10:57:51 PM | | It's okay to have feelings for someone you use to be with and sometimes it is hard just seeing them. In time you will see that this is just something that eventually will pass. Until you are completely over her though you shouldn't be trying to get involved with someone else, it's not fair to yourself or the other person. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/4/2012 11:03:49 AM | | I understand how you feel. I am trying to date but it just makes me think of the ex more. I am honest with those that contact me and say I am just on here to explore. I don't know what to advise you to do but I am sorry you are still feeling this way. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/4/2012 9:22:08 PM | | I'm not look'n to move in to something serious fast for that matter! I would just like to meet a friend! :) | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/5/2012 11:17:53 PM | I know how you feel what sucks is when people tell me to move on and find someone else its easier said than done but yeah even if i were to meet anyone else it would be hard all because i still love this person. The thought of me trying to date other guys makes me feel like i would not enjoy ot cause my minds on him
That's what happens when u truly love someone. Yes it sucks haveing a broken heart im gong through it rigjt now but a part of me says give aomeone a chance cause you never know what's put there:modhammer: | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 3:26:40 AM | | ok i am confused are you still in love with the first person you dated or are you still not over the women on pof you met . | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 9:21:32 AM | Have you considered therapy ? For some reason you are stuck. There are reasons you are having a hard time letting go. Until you get past your last relationship you can't be the other half of a healthy relationship.
Good Luck To You. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 11:32:37 AM | | Why are you dating if you are not ready? All you are doing is hurting the people willing to take a chance on you. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 1:56:13 PM | | Hi everyone, Question, I have a beautiful 6 year old daughter and I love her with all my heart. Her mother broke it off 5 years ago and started dating some person on her job, but am still getting the late hour phone calls when i have my daughter or she is questiong my daughter about things that we do on my weekends. she seems to always want to be in my business. can someone help me with this. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 8:43:31 PM | | Hang in there folks. For me personally, it's usually 2 to 3 years down the road, but I eventually find and hit it off with another woman who gives me the same chills down my spine that I felt from the past woman I was most attracted to. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/6/2012 8:53:54 PM | | Honestly, grieve quickly and get over it. If you meant the same to them as they did to you, they'd be back in your life. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/7/2012 1:29:31 PM | | My ex did still keep in touch in response to the last posting but it was me to asked him not to contact me again. Had to be done but does not mean I don't stop wishing it could have been different/wishing he would have understood me better. But there you go ..... | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:54:26 AM | | I think everyone missed my point? I was well on my way of being over her and starting to get out and date again when bam out of no where she emails me! bringing up old memories and sending mixed messages. Anyone would naturally give pause and question your path and actions as well as hers. As for me I'm still moving on I dont see any good coming from kicking a dead horse! | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:54:49 AM | | I think everyone missed my point? I was well on my way of being over her and starting to get out and date again when bam out of no where she emails me! bringing up old memories and sending mixed messages. Anyone would naturally give pause and question your path and actions as well as hers. As for me I'm still moving on I dont see any good coming from kicking a dead horse! | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:32:45 PM | | Sometimes dating IS a way to help you get over your ex. Sometimes it takes a new person to make you get out there and realise that there are some people out there who can (maybe) treat you better than your ex. Thats my philosophy. My ex just broke up with me after two years to be with HIS ex and it absolutely broke my heart. Its what brought me to this site. Im hoping that I can meet someone on here who will want Me and not whatever woman comes walking by. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/10/2012 2:06:41 AM |
I think everyone missed my point? I was well on my way of being over her and starting to get out and date again when bam out of no where she emails me! bringing up old memories and sending mixed messages.
My ex does this to me every other weekend, and whenever he finds out I am talking to someone. I'd just ignore it. People break up for a reason. If you're bothered by her action. Talk to her about it. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/10/2012 7:06:36 PM | I have been through something similar and understand what you are feeling. The best thing to do is let her know that you would like both of you to agree to a no contact rule.
Time will help and the next time you see her, inadvertently, will be easier.
I do think you should wait a while longer before dating, as you may have felt "over her" but were not completely. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/10/2012 7:14:12 PM | | Im going thru that exact same thing dated off and on for 5 yr. finally go the gull up say enough is enough I cant build future with you , when you dont want commitment. you dont take me no where just want laid anymore and go home. H e knew what I needed and wanted in relationship yet hed say the things to lure me back in but not any more but theres that thought i was good to him he didnt appreciate good women. I do wish it could hav been different im trying to date but like you said i still have thoughts Lord knows I dont want to compare. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/13/2012 11:37:09 AM | | I understand how you feel. Someone broke up with me 2 months ago and I'm sure it will take years to get over him. But I have been on here (and looking in public too) because I'm pretty sure the only way to get over anyone is to have someone new. Recently I added a statement on top of my profile stating I'm probably not ready to meet anyone right now due to a recent break up. At least that guys will know I do have some "baggage". Time eventually heals. I've been lucky though, even though I only live 2 miles from this guy I haven't run into him at all. Fear that constantly. | |
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| dating but cant get over my last
Posted: 7/16/2012 10:58:30 PM | | She is back in my life via internet but it seems to me that I'm receiving her messages mixed, or she is sending me mixed messages and I dont know how I'm supposed to read or take them and dont want to insult her as wellby responding incorrectly??/ i'm really confused! LOL | |
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