| | Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?Page 1 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | I've been lurking on the forums for a few days and noticed all the advice given here. My question is: Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt? There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. (or give 'advice' on forums.) | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 3:44:52 PM | If you think about it, dating experts can't really be relationship experts.. and I'd personally prefer to be the latter.
It strikes me as hilarious that some people act like an absolute authority on the subject matter around here, lol.. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:03:47 PM |
I've been lurking on the forums for a few days and noticed all the advice given here. My question is: Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt? There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. (or give 'advice' on forums.) ANY and ALL advice from any internet forum (not just here) should be taken with a grain of salt.
Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. Hopefully you can figure out the B.S. from the truth. Its really not that hard.
The problem is a lot of the people that have been here a long time for the forums actually do know a lot about this site and online dating in general. How long someone has been here has no relation to how successful they are dating in general. The ones I have trouble swallowing personally are the ones that post in Profile Reviews saying they have never gotten a reply and asking for help on their profile and next week they are now advising others on how to write profiles. WTF??? I think the advice given in Profile Review at times has to be really taken with a grain of salt. You have tons of people having no luck on here advising you how to write a successful profile.
Just my 2 cents worth
Cowboy | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:40:02 PM | I think telling someone NOT TO DO...
what I did.....that tanked big time....
is damn useful advice.
None of us can tell you what lies down the road you wish to travel.
But some of us are experts on the pot holes
you may wish to swerve around as you go there.
:-P
Let our mistakes.
Be your wisdom. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:44:05 PM | Any advice, whoever it comes from and, on whatever subject, should always be taken with a grain of salt.
Take the advice then, use your better judgement to determine if it is worth following.
Of course, take everything I just said with a grain of salt. ;-) | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:55:46 PM | Any advice posted is just an opinion by that person.
It may or may not make sense, it may or may not work, it may or may not apply.
The best use of the Forums is for exposure to Different ways of approaching/thinking about the issues and concerns that are experienced while dating and in relationships.
IF it doesn't make sense for your relationship, don't do it.
IF it doesn't fit your or your SO's personality and character, then don't do it.
IF there are particular posters that make more sense to you or fit your style better, then weight it appropriately.
There are always going to be people whose advice you may find suspect.
It's kind of like this... asking for Dating advice from someone who doesn't date much, or relationship advice from someone who has never had any successful relationships is like asking for advice on how to drive from someone who never got a License.
All that happens is you end up hurt in a Wreck. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 4:57:51 PM |
Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt? There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. (or give 'advice' on forums.)
Lol, writing as a person who's only here to talk sh%# and laugh, when it comes too "the l word" or relationships I would never ask people here or in real life for "advice". I think people should find their own way. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:00:47 PM | Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt?
Any advice on any topic on these forums must be taken with as much salt and vinegar as you need to make it palatable. If you like the advice and it makes sense to you them feel free to use it otherwise just consider this to be a bit of light entertainment.
You can consider it this you you may go to a financial advisor for investment advice but if he or she were really that good would they need to be working?
Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'
Sometimes those who are not longer interested or who are out of the game for one reason or another teach or coach. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:31:35 PM | | Also, some of us are here after having very successful and happy relationships that ended in death, or relocation, or just a friendly parting of the ways, and we use PoF as another means to meet people - or just because we like the forums. If you read enough forum threads over time, you can discern which posters are usually full of sh*t and which ones generally give thoughtful, helpful advice. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:31:35 PM |
Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt?
IMO nothing on the forums should be viewed as advice, only opinion.
At best it allows you to critically read your own question so you yourself can deliberate an answer via potentially seeing your own problems from another perspective.
Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'.
I always liked the saying "those than can, do. Those that can't, teach. Those that can't do, and can't teach, become politicians."
There's also a saying about Prometheus creating man with 2 sacks. One on his front, one on his back. The one on his front carries the faults of everyone else. The one on his back carries his own faults.
There's also the saying "I started out with nothing, and still have most of it."
There are a lot of sayings out there. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 7:42:49 PM |
My question is: Should dating advice given by people who claim they are just here for the forums and have been here for years be taken with a grain of salt? There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'.
Yes, by everyone except yourself.
You should keep record of all the advice given and use it in your next "pretty extensive research" survey, and use what you've gleaned to thwart the unsuspecting forum users with your erudition and eerily penetrating and absurdly profound wisdom.
You'll be like godzilla sitting on a rocking horse! | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/2/2012 8:42:57 PM | Is it trolling because some trolls are sincere in their questioning. Some people come out of the blue and give the most concise feedback. Others you just want to igor. Er, ignore. LMFAO
I've put these POF lifers to the test already and most of them need to refrain. Feel me? | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 6:36:53 AM | | Absolutely not, every word typed in these forums about dating advice or anything else should be taken as the word of God. These people are experts in psychology, anatomy, politics, history, fashion and hair design as well as numerous other subjects, just ask them. The longer they've been on POF the more likely they'll be able to stear you in the right direction. Budda bump, bump bump. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 7:06:07 AM | There should be a disclaimer that reads "Forums Are For Entertainment Purposes Only"
When I read a long drawn out "disertation" I check their posting history. It boggles my mind how they can have any relationship/dating experience when they are on here 24/7.
Then there are those that quote every sentence & trash another posters opinion. If this is how they converse in real life, then no wonder they are on here, I can't imagine anyone wanting to be friends with a person like that.
Then there are the ones that every comment they make is to demean the OP &/or other posters, again no wonder they are on here, IRL no one would want to be their friend.
Let's not forget the ones that are an expert in every field, every topic, absolutely every one!
But we do have a few, very few, that actually do give excellent advise.
Grain of salt indeed. | |
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| Should dating advice on the forums be taken with a grain of salt?
Posted: 7/3/2012 7:07:23 AM |
There's a saying that goes: Those than can. Do. Those that can't 'teach'. (or give 'advice' on forums.)
Not only is that a more specific axiom than the broad way in which you're trying to use it; you're also misapplying it as nothing about posting on these forums are precluding someone from "doing."
For instance, I did marketing work for and know these places inside and out, and just tell people what I learned from that and my own experiences on sites. Most of the advice I give is so people stop beating their heads against the wall/wasting time/etc.; it's no different than art or programming stuff where you show someone code or techniques so that they don't spend hours trying to figure it out on their own. | |
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