| | who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothingPage 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | | My friend is dating this guy for almost 1 year and half . He makes more than her a lot . in this case I told her she should ask him for the all ticket , since he is in better economic position . She already ask him and he said no , because he will provide staying there and food . I am not agree since she does not make that much , and I think the men should pay if he is making 10 times the money than she makes. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:08:58 PM | I think it depends on the relationship.
Some couples would prefer to split it or alternate, others will make other arrangements.
That said, if she can't afford to travel to see him so often, she should just say so. Then he can decide how much he values her visits and how important that relationship is to him.
If he values the relationship highly enough, they'll figure something out. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:10:31 PM | | Let me quote the wise words of The Black Eyed Peas..."If you ain't got no money, keep your broke azz home". Yeah, that sums it up. Or how about you pay for it. And then you will look perplexed and appalled that I even suggest YOU pay, right? What do you mean "why should you pay?" Well, you're all about telling other people how to spend their money, so why don't you pay for her. You're her friend, right? Keep out of other people's bank accounts and how they should spend their money. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:23:26 PM | | The guy didn't magically just start making that much money one day. Odds are fairly good that he worked to get to where he is, so he gets to spend it how he sees fit.. He's already paying for the stay and food, why exactly does he need to pay for everything? I don't know how long they've been together or what the relationship dynamics are but being in a relationship isn't a good enough reason to freeload. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/2/2012 10:28:45 PM |
My friend is dating this guy for almost 1 year and half
The happy couple have been dating for a year and a half? So they have already met then? What were the travel arrangements in the past?
Until you get to know each other in person I think both parties should have an investment in the meeting. The cost of her staying there and food would be significantly less than a round trip airfare ticket, unless she plans on staying for a real long time.
If the guy isn't willing to be fair in the expense of the meeting, then I suspect he isn't all that interested in seeing your friend. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:25:08 AM | Generous, my arse. If he makes "a lot," I don't see why he wouldn't pay the airfare, as well, since it would be the right thing to do in these circumstances when somebody invites you to go on holiday.
It seems he doesn't want her to go on the trip, knowing the cost of her ticket would be well over what she could afford, perhaps it was a way for him to get out of doing this. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/3/2012 2:38:03 AM | I think two people should do whatever system works for them financially. As long as both people go in with open eyes and are ok with the arrangement, then whatever tends to shake out for them, well that's their business.
Though it doesn't surprise me that often what people fight over in marriages and relationships is money. As a guy, I find the situation often tedious. I've been fortunate to have a solid career and worked hard and got a few lucky breaks, but generally speaking, the social expectations of most women I meet regarding money is wearisome.
I've dated across a range in my life. Different races. Different ages ( well relatively). Folks from different countries. And I've also observed how money tends to operate in dating and relationships with people I know, former classmates, coworkers and acquaintances and the three universal things I can come up with is that
1) Anytime a money dispute arises between a man and woman, regardless of who initiated it, I fully expect the man to be punished in some form for it. If she wants it and you can't get it for her, whatever the reason, you will suffer for it or she will try to make you suffer for it. Young or old. Rich or poor. White, yellow, black ,brown, purple, Klingon, it doesn't matter, a guy who can't or won't earn the way a woman wants will get hosed eventually.
2) Anytime a money dispute arises between a man and a woman, regardless of who initiated it, the man will be systematically cut off from sex. It might happen fast, it might happen slow, but it's going to happen.
3) Anytime money comes into play in a relationship, no matter what you give most women ( not all but most), they will always want something else or something more. It's shocking how many women out there will literally fall to the ground, get up with a Virginia Ham under each arm then get upset because they didn't find a loaf of bread too.
IMHO, as a guy, no matter what you do, if you can't buy her the things she wants, then most of the time, you can just go rot in hell.
It's just tiresome.
"What do you do for a living?"
How much money do you make? I'm going to G.oogle that sh*t when I get home.
"How long have you been doing it for?"
How long have you had to acquire wealth for me to spend?
"Where do you live?"
I'm definitely going to figure out if you live in a nice neighborhood or not and what it costs to live there.
"Do you have room mates?"
No blowjob for you if I think you are a broke loser.
"Do you have kids? Divorced before?"
Is there anyone out there who can take the tight laser beam focus of your money off of me?
Sure, sure, someone will chime in to say, well sure if you talk to "those kind of women" No, sorry, talk to most guys and many will tell you that young or old, rich or poor, here or there, most women are "those kind of women" It's just super tedious to feel like its easier to have a bar code on your forehead so they can do a credit check first. The most tedious thing isn't that it's important ( well you need to buy food and keep the lights on right?), the tedious thing is often the way I feel most women like to dance around the subject and engage in double talk, misdirection and PC speak to get around the fact that most chicks just dig money and free stuff. | |
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| who should pay for an airline ticket the one that make most or the one that dont make almost nothing
Posted: 7/3/2012 3:21:45 AM | MountHeartbreak, tell me that you are joking. I can't believe you really believe the things you said, in this case the are two solutions:
1) I am an idiot, as I am nothing like that.
2) you, and most men, used this as excuse to not commit.
When a girl in my team said that she wants to broke up with her long term bf because he can't provide for her I though she is an idiot. You have a Master degree, could get easily a job in the City (London), why the hell do you need someone that provide for you?
How can you ask a man to pay for you for good? I felt bad when I asked a specific gift for christmas or my bday (men are never been really good with choosing a gift for me) and seem like they did not really matter but this... If I can't afford a restaurant I don't pick it, simple. Why should I chose something I know is out of my range?
I am sorry dude, but more I read your post and more I realise that you met the wrong type of woman. The one that are 'looking for a man to spoil me'.
The career questions in my case are cause I am interested to know if you do a job that you love or something that pay the bills.
"Where do you live?"
I can't believe this! I sometime also asked 'is it a nice neighbourhood?' cause I am a chicken and I don't like to drive/walk by myself at night, especially in not really nice neighbourhood!
"Do you have room mates?"
It means 'could I get comfortable around yours?'
"Do you have kids? Divorced before?"
I don't date people with kids, because you get attached to the kids and when you split up it is devastating.
Assuming for a second that you are right, and most men have the same idea as you... I must looked like an idiot all the way. | |
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