| | Just what exactly is a "player"?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Throughout many profiles and forum posts, I see women writing about "players" - just exactly what is that supposed to mean?
I thought I knew what it meant, but from reading between the lines in many of these posts from women, I am beginning to wonder if a player is just nothing more that a guy who rejected a woman who was interested in him... | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:33:40 PM | | Neck Romancer has it right. They make a game of finding people to sleep with and will promise just about anything to make it happen. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/3/2012 11:55:57 PM | | I've seen posts here along the lines "I was seeing a man for 8 months who turned out to be a player." | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:02:59 AM |
I am beginning to wonder if a player is just nothing more that a guy who rejected a woman who was interested in him...
wonder no longer. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:08:53 AM |
"I was seeing a man for 8 months who turned out to be a player."
I was seeing a guy for about that long who I considered a player. While I thought we were in a normal dating relationship, he ended it by telling me that he could never have a serious relationship with me because he needed to marry a Jewish woman to make his mother happy. He knew going in that it was never going to go anywhere and it would have been great to have the heads up. It was weird too, because he pretended to be the interested suitor so well I completely believed him. He's just going from woman to woman, doing that, while his mother works on finding someone suitable enough for her ring.
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:31:05 AM | A player is the type of man women (through no fault of their own of course) can't help but date most of their lives while claiming to be endlessly "looking for a nice guy/real man".
Then when their clock starts ticking they are 'entitled' to get the 'nice guy/real man' provider type because they are 'worth it' and he should understand their past is their past and it's none of his business. LMFAO. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:39:07 AM | I've seen posts here along the lines "I was seeing a man for 8 months who turned out to be a player."
I'm sure it's a mix.
Some people are players and take advantage.
But players can only take advantage of people who are willing to be taken advantage of.
Some are using it to avoid taking personal responsibility for all or part of the failure.
A generic label to mean that it was all the other person's fault.
In either case, I'd avoid people who advertise this.
Who wants to date a person who doesn't know how to intelligently judge another's character,
or can't recognize their own behavior as a contributing factor?
Then use their personal relationship failure as a warning or a play on pity? | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:46:49 AM | Op,there's many Threads re this Topic but anyway,to **me** its always meant a guy who will constantly lie through his teeth unapologetically while he's sleeping with as many women as possible despite the lies he's told you in regards to being a faithful,monogamous kinda guy all the while having sex with you,too!
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 1:31:31 AM | Ask a woman she'll tell you it's a guy who lies to get laid.
Ask a guy and he'll show you it's the guy that's better looking than you that gets laid whenever he wants because women are human beings with sex drives just like men, and gorgeous works just as well on them as it does on us.
Look up cognitive dissonance. Before they slept together he was a scumbag but gorgeous so what the ****, but afterwards, she feels bad like any person would and a player is born. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:33:28 AM |
I am beginning to wonder if a player is just nothing more that a guy who rejected a woman who was interested in him...
wonder no longer.
Lol, crutch, funny as usual. ^^^^^
A player is the type of man women (through no fault of their own of course) can't help but date most of their lives while claiming to be endlessly "looking for a nice guy/real man".
Then when their clock starts ticking they are 'entitled' to get the 'nice guy/real man' provider type because they are 'worth it' and he should understand their past is their past and it's none of his business. LMFAO.
Lol, back to back posts made me spit morning coffee out, now I can go enjoy my day off. Haha!^^^^^ | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 5:00:16 AM | I always defined a "player" as someone who took the bull by the horns when faced with opportunity when it knocked on the door. Yeah, you can look at them in a negatiave way, but, boy they sure know what they are doing and who they are dealing with. They got it figured out when most do not.
Is that a bad thing?????
One of the new "manuals" for "players" entering the playing field is "He's just not into you". A play by play on what NOT to do if you are "playing". Some of the guys that I know wanna thank somebody for the book. They tell me it hasn't been easier.
Now,seriously. All a player is, is a person whom tells another one exactley what they want to hear, when they want to hear it, and act like someone wants them to act.Even if it is too good to be true, they are able persuade that is. Of course all this, for a piece of tail. That's it. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 5:21:27 AM | I thought I knew what it meant, but from reading between the lines in many of these posts from women, I am beginning to wonder if a player is just nothing more that a guy who rejected a woman who was interested in him...
It's both. A word means whatever the person saying it wants it to mean.
There very much are LOTS of people who stoke their own ego, by lying, and consciously cheating their way into other peoples lives, in order to benefit financially, sexually, or in some other fashion, while never actually caring about them, or having any desire for the long term dedication which they pretend they have. Those are the Official players.
As with any pejorative designation though, the word "player" also gets thrown at pretty much anyone who displeases someone else. Hence lots of men and women fuss and label the "fish that got away" with all sorts of things that the lost one really doesn't deserve. Heck, I've seen people scream "liar!!!" right here in these forums, because some potential person said that it might be nice to actually meet, but never got around to it.
But if you told someone something that you knew wasn't true, because you thought they needed to hear that in order to give you a chance, then you ARE a player. You can't escape that by pretending a "sour grapes" reaction from them. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 5:31:20 AM | | abelian is pretty much correct. It's a term for a man where either a) a woman shifts her responsibility off for being superficial and not thinking things out and seeing obvious signs, or b) another jealous man labels someone that is able to get what he wants. It's a way of off-putting responsibility; demonize the other person as opposed to admitting where you personally fail. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 5:51:44 AM |
Op,there's many Threads re this Topic but anyway,to **me** its always meant a guy who will constantly lie through his teeth unapologetically while he's sleeping with as many women as possible despite the lies he's told you in regards to being a faithful,monogamous kinda guy all the while having sex with you,too!
This is how I would define it as well. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 6:36:25 AM |
wonder if a player is just nothing more that a guy who rejected a woman who was interested in him...
Id guess 95% of people being called a player committed the sin of thier feelings did not develop at the same rate as the one they were dating...but because they had sex already, one of the two accuses the other of 'using them for sex'. Like the other person had a gun held to thier head or something, and didnt enjoy it. Those are the ones who 'give sex' to 'get a relationship' and Id steer clear of those types on a dating site if I were looking for an adult who take full accountability for the choices they make in life....even if they dont work out as intended. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 8:56:35 AM | Gotta agree with most posts here.
Lots of women call a guy a player after they have been rejected by said player guy. Rejection usually occurs after they have slept with him or a lot of women even call the guy a player if he's emailing you after he met you on a dating site and he's *gasp* Online now!! and he's not chatting with them..."that Player A**hole!"
Then the nasty text message/email is sent to the playa then they come on here and post in the broken heart section. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 9:57:43 AM | | It's a cliché created by women's magazines to assist women in writing boring and lacklustre profiles. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 10:45:33 AM | A "player" is a man who intentionally misleads a woman for the intention of engaging in a sexual relationship.
This is not to be confused with Men who are misinterpreted by Women, or Men who end a post-sexual relationship due to dealbreakers, or Men who did not have reciprocal feelings with a Woman that chose to sleep with them anyway.
There are far fewer "players" than women like to admit. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 11:11:35 AM | Players are real, and are everywhere..here is a message from one on here...**.Trust me it works. When I tell them I'm married. I'm not but it gets there legs open or head bobbing**
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I know I'm not single, but I keep reading about having a meet right away.. um yeah ,no.. chat type talk.. they show themselves soon enough. And if you do.. and choose to have sex before you know the person.. don't ask the forum.. "why did he poof"...;-) | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 11:12:14 AM | | A player is any man you have sex with who doesn't call you back or act like your boyfriend afterwards. | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 12:44:23 PM | A "real player" is a douchebag of a human being who preys on vulnerable women's feelings. He will tell them anything to get in their pants, then the second he does - blows them off. This sort tallies his conquests and keeps a running track.
A "miscast player" is a guy who had mutual sex with a gal, but decided to move on for whatever reason. The reasons could be many, but they happened to have sex so he must be a player.
Or something like that :) | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:12:22 PM | I agree with afore mentioned definition.
But when he drugs u and takes pics of u passed out and naked. Makes him a player and a criminal | |
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| Just what exactly is a player?
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:16:51 PM |
Just what exactly is a "player"?
My definition would be a long the lines of...... ''One who participates in sports or games''
We don't use a lot of the silly slang other countries do
Smexi | |
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