| | Profession: Stay at home momPage 1 of 1 | | I've come across "Stay at home mom" listed as a profession. I've got nothing but respect for the single mothers out there providing for their children, but reading the above makes me initially question how they are making ends meet and what exactly they are looking for on this site. Thoughts? | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 2:56:46 PM | | Ask her. There can be a number of ways * she * is making the bills. She may be looking for a partner just like anyone else. Not necessarily someone to pay the rent. However, be cautious. And it is not just single mothers looking for rent to be paid. Plenty of that from men & women BOTH on this site. Meet her in person first if you are interested & get a good feel for the situation. It takes time to figure out anyone's intentions on here....trust me. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:33:10 PM |
eading the above makes me initially question how they are making ends meet Who knows ASK them. May be divorced with child support and alimony or welfare or welathy or inherited money or a widow with a large insurance settlement WHO KNOWS.
what exactly they are looking for on this site. Gee let me take a wild guess.... SOMEONE TO DATE just like you are. WTF ??? Your way over thinking this.
Cowboy | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:34:24 PM | My first thought was she is living off the money from an ex, or she is on welfare.
I know, I know... Im wrong. What else is new. Just saying, that's my first intial thought. Im thinking well hell, tons of women have kids and still work...
Dont get me wrong. My mother was a stay at home take care of the kids woman. Im glad of it. BUT my Dad worked and paid the bills.
It sounds to me that someone else is paying the bills.
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Is that a new pic Cowboy?? | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:42:06 PM | | Many different possible reasons. Perhaps she works from home and/or didn't want to write her real profession on her profile. Perhaps she is unemployed and gets unemployment checks / severance package. Perhaps she lives with her parents or other relatives. Perhaps she is getting money from alimony or child support etc. Perhaps she had plenty of money because of a successful business career or because she had inherited money from older relatives or friends. Perhaps she had won the lottery. LOL. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 3:49:31 PM | | Not every single person on this site is looking to date, and if they are, it doesn't mean that they have good intentions. Now I'm over-thinking it. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:51:11 PM | "My first thought was she is living off the money from an ex, or she is on welfare."
My initial thoughts as well. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 3:57:08 PM | | Other than the things that other people said, maybe she ISN'T actually single? There are tons of married people posing as single on here. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:17:06 PM | | Where I used to live, "Tag-Chasers" would get knocked up by Army Guys and just stay home, not work, and shop while the baby daddy was on deployment. Some of the tag chasers will state on their profiles that they are (only) looking for active duty military men. So in effect, they are getting "paid" to be stay at home moms. The soldiers get extra money, allowances, etc. for their children, (even more if married, higher rank and so on) | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:38:31 PM |
"My first thought was she is living off the money from an ex, or she is on welfare."
My initial thoughts as well.
Well be sure to think the worst of others first and hopefully they’ll return the favor and think the worst of you.
Here’s a thought. Avoid those profiles and any others that cause undue stress.  | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 4:56:20 PM | I have "Honey-Do List Avoider" as my occupation, I am sure it confuses some and turns away others....but its a subtle filter that seems to be working just fine.
The woman that you are speaking of may have the same mind set. | |
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Posted: 7/4/2012 5:43:54 PM | | I'm a golddigger but that turns men off if you actually admit it on a profile. But I have no kids, so that means I'm still nice and tight...kwim? ;) | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 7:16:26 PM | | I think that the way they are making ends meet is fairly obvious. Either they are getting alimony/child support, family members are helping support them, or they are receiving some sort of goverment help (ie. welfare, income support, etc.). Most single mom's realize that you have to go back to work, even if you reeeeeeally want to stay home. You can't rely on other people to pay for your child's upbringing (even if it's child support - which should be paid, but sometimes isn't). You need to get rid of the fantasy life you wanted and start contributing financially to your child's upbringing and future education. Don't get me wrong...I think ideally at least one parent should be home with the kids. But the reality is, if you're a single parent then someone has to go out and make some money so that your child can live the most full filling and meaningful life possible (ie. so you can afford sports programs, enroll them in after school activities, etc.). As for what they are looking for...a man. To take on the responsibility of providing for them. Plain and simple. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 8:23:02 PM |
The soldiers get extra money, allowances, etc. for their children, (even more if married, higher rank and so on)
Soldiers get paid more if they have kids, and even more if they're married? (who knew?) | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 10:38:52 PM | | I would guess they run from on welfare to wealthy ex paying the bills and about anything in between. I'm all for staying at home with your children if you can swing it. I imagine they are here for the same things as anyone else. Why the need to single them out? | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/4/2012 11:40:49 PM | Stay at home mom!? LMAO...you might aswell put "lazy uneducated probable drug abuser and heavy drinker"
Do you really want a "stay at home" mom in any event? Even if she was recieving alimony that paid all of her bills? Has she no desire to do anything more with her life but live off her exes dollar. Not to mention I HIGHLY DOUBT you will find the caliber of woman( with an ex who made that much money that his alimony alone could support her and her children) succumb to looking for a man on a free website like this, but thats just my opinion.
Or shes on welfare...that just speaks for itself....Or shes been injured or has a mental illness and is recieving some kind of funding. Either way for me, If I was a man, that would be a huge dealbreaker.
I was raised by a single mother who worked her but off was educated and made a damn good living on her own and raised me to be the same way so excuse me, I might be a little biased. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/5/2012 12:40:46 AM | ^^
The last (and only) "Stay at home mom" I was involved with took me for about $35k over six months before I realized what was going on.
Yep, it's a dealbreaker now. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/5/2012 2:04:54 AM | You always take a woman with you on a trip because they stash food and will keep you alive in the event something unexpected happens.
This theory has never been dis-proven in my experience.
Sure, "stay at home mom" could mean Stay at Home Wife.
Then again, it could mean that things are tight, but they are getting by. She may have a lot of family and friend support.
But even stay at home moms deserve love and happiness too.
Ease that death-grip up on your wallet until they've proven that it's warranted!
I have a few awesome friends that are single and stay at home moms. And I dunno how they do it either. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/5/2012 2:22:01 AM | They say that the way a person publicly assumes things about people they dont know speaks more about them then the person they are referring to. It also shows that they believe everyones circumstances are the same, thus drawing these assumptions on nothing more then their own past experiences.
At least thats what they say. | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/5/2012 2:39:58 AM | ^5
Egg Zactly!
If I made a bunch of assumptions and jumped to conclusions.....
Well, I suppose I wouldn't be married now and I'd prolly still be with the group of people that disbelieved that the online dating thing can and does work!
Silent Steel makes an excellent observation though and I don't know if anyone else caught that (I suspect the regs did though).
ANYTHING and EVERYTHING on a person's profile can be used to automatically weed through and sort out the masses.
If you see things on her profile that make you self-disqualify? That works to her benefit! | |
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| Profession: Stay at home mom
Posted: 7/5/2012 2:45:23 AM | | Technically, I'm a University student, a "stay at home mom" - but I also work from home as an international English tutor/teacher (and a freelance editor and lots of volunteer work in my field of international relations), as so I can raise my child successfully in the manner I wish. This means odd hours, incremental pay differences (which compels me to better manage my money). Despite having these excellent credentials, I still don't measure up to most, because I don't work 50 hours _away_ from my house (yet) and make a shitload of cash, straight up. I rent a flat because I gave up the prospect of having my own home to educate myself - and my children. | |
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