| | anyone had this problem in trying to date?Page 1 of 1 | So I met a nice bloke, we wanted to meet, managed to have a public holiday we both had to ourselves all went well ...and then tried to make a time to meet again.
Would you believe it.. our schedules worked so we did not have kids free time at the same time..
The weekend my son was at his dads... he has his kids.. and the midweek night same problem.
total opposites.. he sees less of his kids than I do so for him , babysitters not an option..
I really don''t know anyone to babysite myself for longer than an hour or 2....which is travel time.
So we really couldn't literally get the chance to get to know each other before we did the meet and greet with the kids.
So silly.
Anyway... we were not keen to go further than freindship . which is a cool freindship .all good..
then we think.... yeah lets have the odd day out take the kids to the park...
but Nooooooooooooooooooo..... we never had out kids the same days hahahahaha
*rolls eyes heavily* | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/8/2012 6:00:51 PM | LOL - it sounds like a lot of work...
When my kids were younger, I made friends with a couple of other single mothers.
We would work out in advance when we were able to take each others kids for a sleep over giving each of us a night out...
You could try something similar for the next time... | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/8/2012 10:55:18 PM | hi Hunter
yes I have had similar probs its sooooo hard to juggle
I wont go out on a date when I have my kids
I do 50/50 shared care which makes it a bit easier. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:02:47 PM | ...That is why I didn't date for 5 years.
I had 100% custody - without family living locally.
(and he didn't even phone or have contact with the kids for 7 years)
Swapping kids with friend for the occasional night out was a blessing.
Lots of single mothers are in the same (or a similar) boat... | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:23:18 PM | | I'm not understanding the issue here.Why does a date need to involve going out.Just invite him over when he hasn't got his kids.Then vice versa you can visit him when you haven't got your kids.Why does that have to be so hard!.Or invite him over when he has his kids anyway, what does it matter. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 2:27:02 AM | | I dated when the kids were little but not often and I did not bring them home. Being a sole parent and educating the three of us left little time for a relationship. Was the choice I made at the time. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:03:55 AM | My kids told me to date 2 years ago...
(the youngest one wanted to pick dates for me - his choices were funny, a guy with a curly cue mustache and another that seemed to be heavily into video games...)
The only thing they asked is that I not bring anyone home.
I have not ever brought anyone home, and I wouldn't -- I respect their wishes.
Mine are 14, 16, and 18 (now).
They date people, and expect me to do the same...
I would never introduce someone to my children that may be transient in their lives. They have only met one person that I have dated, and he never spent the night.
Robert from aus -- you don't have children, so you don't understand the protective factor (that is not a smite, but an observation) I have met more than a few men, I would never contemplate introducing my children to.
OP,
You need a friend in the same situation as yourself, so that you can do the free babysitter for each other... | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:22:07 AM | | My eldest is 28 and the youngest 22next month. They have gotten past rolling their eyes at the thought of mum dating although I am sure the eldest silently scrutinises the men in case there is a serial killer lurking amongst them. lol. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:40:04 AM | I'm not understanding the issue here.Why does a date need to involve going out.Just invite him over when he hasn't got his kids.Then vice versa you can visit him when you haven't got your kids.Why does that have to be so hard!.Or invite him over when he has his kids anyway, what does it matter.
For the first few dates, I do not want anyone to be involved or meet my kids. Its a safety issue, and this gentleman felt the same.
Getting to know someone is also difficult when you have a cranky toddler, or nosy teen around , and due to safety no way in gods earth am I having a strange guy whom I have never met in the sancutary of my home,.
Had more than one date oggle my teen girls and I ceased inviting anyone over about 5 years ago for that reason.
I had more babysitters, but I only moved to this town 2 weeks ago and havent met anyone or built up single parent netwoorks for shared care..
Its agreat idea and I used to do that in Newtown. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 6:08:38 AM | | If you've got nosy teens then perhaps they are mature enough to babysit the cranky toddler for a while? Just a thought... I don't have any qualifications either. | |
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| anyone had this problem in trying to date?
Posted: 7/9/2012 6:48:33 AM | Yes... she can baby sit a short while.. she has been sick a while, so I didnt like imposing... actually looking after her took a big chunk out of my date time too.. lol
I think I will be out of action for a while now, so thats why I poked my way into the forums | |
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