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|Do you tell one of your closest friends that her husband has an active profile on here? He has himself listed as single and he is "looking for fun" as well as looking for a relationship. This girl is like a sister to me, and I don't want to hurt her, but wouldn't it hurt her more to find out he cheated and nobody said anything? Help!!!|
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:06:59 PM
|It could hurt her in many ways - std's and all that good stuff. Send her a link anonymously to his profile.|
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:27:56 PM
|If you are as close to her as you say you are, then you absolutely must tell her exactly what's going on.|
And do not do it in any indirect, round about way. Tell her direct to her face and show her his profile if need be.
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:36:09 PM
|thanks for the help guys. I appreciate it|
Posted: 7/8/2012 2:41:43 PM
|Absolutely tell her, it's hardly a conundrum. |
A gal friend of mine a few years ago was a sweetheart and fell for guys quickly, and she lived a a couple of hours away. I was in a relationship and wasn't on POF at the time, but when she told me about this guy and then was describing how he was starting to say certain things pushing her away, I jumped on and immediately searched in her area for the guy based off a pic she had sent me and his age. I found him within seconds, and she was of the assumption they were in an exclusive relationship already. Of course, she had finally had sex with the guy only a little bit prior to him starting to get weird on her, so I had no doubts as to what he was up to.
It hurt her bad when I told her but it was for the best. In your case it is much more serious and I get that, but your friend needs to know about it, plain and simple. Good luck!
Posted: 7/8/2012 9:32:27 PM
|Show her his profile.|
Posted: 7/8/2012 9:41:39 PM
|What a difficult situation to be in.|
she does need to know what is going on. how sad.
Posted: 7/8/2012 10:40:38 PM
|If she were my best friend I would certainly show her his profile or send her a link. He hasn't the balls to tell her himself as many say they don't want to change their situation but yet enhance it somehow....what a crock of sh*t. You are being a good friend and I would want someone to tell me if the shoe were on my foot.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 12:56:52 AM
|Tell her. This one's easy.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:54:26 AM
|Seen my best friends gf on here not to long ago, didnt hesistate to call and let him know, and I was good friends with them both.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 8:22:08 AM
|Wow! That's horrible.|
I say drop a dime on him.
If you really wanted to get creative...If you have an evil vengeful streak.... Get a third girl to begin communicating with him and to eventually set up a "meet and greet" only to have his wife meet him!
Now THAT'S entertainment!
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:24:59 AM
|This one is a no brainer. You tell your friend.|
However, the work is left to the reader.
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:52:14 AM
|I would tell her straight up, but are you sure? There are a lot of fake profiles on here. I contacted two people, one I used to be in a band with and another a close friend of my late wife's. Neither of them knew me from Adam, so I then contacted them directly and sure enough someone had swiped their pictures off Facebook and used them to create fake profiles.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:56:03 AM
|If you're close to both of them, an anonymous link via e-mail would work.|
If you're close to only one of them, you may or may not point it out to them directly.
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:56:25 AM
|Whatever is the case, it's best to bring it to her attention.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 2:20:58 PM
|OF COURSE you tell her. Whether you want to be anonymous or not about it is your choice. But either way, you should tell her. Telling her will hurt her at first, but it will ultimately give her the power to make choices for her own life instead of obliviously being played for a fool while her good friend secretly watches and does nothing to help her.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 2:56:42 PM
|I'd bust his azz so fast he wouldn't have time to delete it.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:24:46 PM
|he saw that I viewed him and changed his profile to looking for friends. But I took a screen shot of his profile before he changed it. Thanks everyone. I'm going to have her over wednesday and show it to her|
Posted: 7/9/2012 3:42:58 PM
he saw that I viewed him and changed his profile to looking for friends.
Doesn't matter. Guys don't create POF profiles to look for friends, that's what Facebook is for. :P
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:29:36 PM
|I agree..send her a link..good luck.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:45:09 PM
|If she is as close a friend as your OP suggests, show her that profile.|
Posted: 7/9/2012 5:38:29 PM
|Normally, I'm of the "MYOB", but if the guy is stupid enough to advertise on a free public site, and the evidence in in B & W, I'd just show her the profile.|
Posted: 7/10/2012 11:30:57 AM
|I vote for tell her.|
I would hate you if you were my friend and didn't tell me.
If she is like your sister, first and foremost should be her happiness (of lack of in this case)
I know most people will say stay out of her business, but honestly if you were to put yourself in her shoes..what would you want?
I'd want to know.
But maybe that's just me.
Posted: 7/10/2012 12:00:56 PM
|Here's what you should do, make a fake. Profile on here or get you friend to and when her husband does come to meet you for intimacy or your date BAM!!!! you just caught him and she has her proof...It may hurt her but that my friend is why alcohol and girl's nights were invented to have fun and birch about men in our lives.|
Posted: 7/10/2012 4:34:56 PM
|He should be banned from POF for lying about his marital status on his profile.|