| | Is there something wrong with me??Page 1 of 1 | | I have had so many profile views but I keep getting ignored. I will not lie just to meet someone. I believe that honesty is the right thing to do. Any help with my profile would be helpful. I am just like everybody else on here. I just want someone on my life. Any criticism would be appreciated.ba | |
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| Is there something wrong with me??
Posted: 7/8/2012 8:25:55 PM | I'm a rookie with doing reviews, so hopefully this is sound advice!
You should have a smiling picture as your main one. Preferably with eyes wide open.
Your thoughts appear a bit randomly laid out. You might want to organize them into 2-3 short paragraphs (2-3 sentences each), where all sentences within each paragraph have a common focus.
I would avoid sentences like:
"Why is it that the nice guys finish last."
"It is so hard looking for that special one."
"Can I get someone to make happy?"
"I am just looking for real happiness"
(Basically, women aren't attracted to men who aren't reasonably happy with their current lives (and vice versa). Positivity and confidence are important for attraction.)
Hopefully this is helpful. Best of luck! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2012 8:43:35 PM | First of all, your second photo is better than the profile pic you are currently using.
Secondly, in interests you list ltr and relationship- isn't that the same thing?
So, are you willing to date someone with kids? Do you prefer she not have kids? It's good you've lost weight, but only upload the photos since you've lost weight.
Your profile makes you come off a desperate, like the other comment stated.
Hope this helps you some, and good luck to you! | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 11:24:57 AM | Change the Fish Personality to "none", it doesn't add anything.
Get some good quality head shots for use as primary pics.
Some guidelines on pics:
Pics need to show a variety of clothes, settings and activities, with a SMILE!
Self cell/webcam pics are always bad.
Avoid all of the following: Sunglasses, hats, kids, wedding rings, your tongue and middle finger, members of target sex (even if it is your sibling), dead animals/fish, guns, bare torso pics (prohibited), sleeveless shirts, more than one with alcohol, your friends or party scenes (if any), cluttered backgrounds and the bathroom mirror.
Get outdoors! If you have a motorcycle or a dog, do a pic with them (not of them)! Travel pics, outdoor and activity pics are great, as long as you didn't try to crop your ex out. You need at least one full-height pic showing your body type. The pics should be good quality, good lighting, have a clear image of your face including your EYES and a SMILE!
Each pic should have a creative caption, at least one of which should have a date. Try to get 3 good (head and shoulders) primary pics. Rotate the primary once a week. Use Viewed Me to track effectiveness. If anyone tells you to "use this one, not that one", all that means is that it should be one of your primary pics. Different pics will appeal to different people. Rotate them, and did I say: SMILE!
So, you say that you don't have any good pics, and don't have anyone to take them for you. Clean your cell phone lens, go out in public and ask someone to help. The cutie down the hall, the Barista at Starbucks, the lady walking her dog in the park, the guy shooting pool at the bar. Anyone. People like helping other people. You might even get a date!
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"Long-term" will produce two times the results of "Dating" in your age range.
Try to come up with 12 Interests, not "relationship, ltr". Think of ones a woman might relate to. "Spanish". Look at my profile for examples.
Delete:
I am looking for a relationship, not just to hook up. Unnecessary, redundant.
Delete:
Why is it that the nice guys finish last. Looks do matter but what is more important is the person inside. Needy, poor outlook.
Delete:
I am looking for a White, Latin or Asian woman. Screen in your empty Inbox.
Delete:
Can I get someone to make happy?
Delete:
I am just looking for real happiness. Too much.
Delete the Spanish. POF requires the use of English.
Delete the age and distance settings, trust me, screen in your empty Inbox.
Your profile text needs to be positive and upbeat, show self confidence and self esteem. While I highlighted the really bad parts, you may want to do a total rewrite.
Keep in mind though, that pics are first! They won't even get to the profile without good or great pics. If you can afford it, consider a professional photographer.
Also work on e-mail skills. If your messages sound anything like the profile, you are likely coming on too strong and appearing to lack self confidence.
Keep Fishing! This site can work!  | |
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| Is there something wrong with me??
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:33:29 AM | Rule number 327: NEVER post a mirror pic taken in a locker room or a public restroom. EVER.
You have two humorous pics, the one with the silly had and the other where you are riding the mechanical reindeer. One silly pic is enough. | |
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| Is there something wrong with me??
Posted: 7/9/2012 12:21:22 PM | | I'm not sure I can add anything at this point because others have pointed out so many good suggestions and corrections. I will, however, come back later and read your profile again, OP. | |
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