| | How do I even do it?Page 1 of 1 | I've been a single mom for over 4 years now and before that had never even dated. How do I get out there and meet someone? I know it is a loaded questions, but I have no idea what I am doing and would love any advice you can give!
~Jenni :) | |
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| How do I even do it?
Posted: 7/8/2012 11:07:18 PM | | You don't. Here's the thing with love- you can't "make it happen" it just does. just do whatever you do... go to work, take a class at the local college, join a "club" type of group that shares your interests, take your kids out to do fun stuff... a man is great to have, but not actually a neccessity... let it happen on it's own. | |
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| How do I even do it?
Posted: 7/9/2012 4:54:04 AM | hey hun, i have been a single parent since the day i got pregnant with my daughter, i left my husband and then discovered i was pregnant. happy days.
Since i dont drink alcohol, I find this the most difficult, i.e. arranging a venue and such like. I would never want to go to dinner with someone who i find unattractive and thus I choose to meet them for coffee and such like. Where I live there are no starbucks, costas etc open after 5pm so I arrange to meet them in the local casino. this way, they have to have a membership, everthing is on cctv and its a good atmosphere.
I have done a lot of dating over the years and I find it good fun, the good, the bad and the ugly to boot !
Get used to the knockbacks, there are men on here who want or feel the right to have the thai woman with the perfect figure. (even when they are in thieir fifties with a bald head and beer gut). Just remember we are real, we are real women, stretch marks and all.
there will be men to whome promise you the world, they dont mean it ! honest lol
there will be men who you dont like but be polite............................ finish the coffee date, everone deserves that unless they have a fake profile pic.
The worst ever dates I have had are the one that turned up drunk............. the next the one who said he had no kids and then turned up in a people carrier with three baby seats in the back (i dont do other peoples children) and the RAF officer who took me to a ball, and I got drunk and messed it completly up.
Just be yourself and keep an open mind xxx | |
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| How do I even do it?
Posted: 7/9/2012 1:12:07 PM | | Thanks for the replies! I am a full-time mom with some health issues so don't see myself out in situations that would work often. When I do, I feel very self-conscious. I know I can't force love, but really would like to find someone who would be a friend first. It's been 4 years since my husband left and I haven't gone on a single date or gotten a single number. Maybe it's a confidence thing... | |
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| How do I even do it?
Posted: 8/19/2012 3:23:04 PM | | First you need to identify what the health issue is and how that is limiting you. Are there ways to cope or improve the situation? If so focus on that and in the process you'll gain some cofidence. If youcan't do anything to improve your health then you need to look into new activities that you can do despite the health concerns. I'm sure you can come up with something you are able to do and enjoy doing just to get out. Then just do it. | |
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| How do I even do it?
Posted: 8/19/2012 8:52:26 PM | There's Meet Up groups (do a google search) or some of the larger churches (places of worship) have groups to join.
Book clubs, networking groups, volunteering at the local animal shelter or food pantry, Habitat for Humanity takes volunteers. I've seen some dinner groups you can join.
That's all I have....:) | |
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