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I new to online dating. had a quick look regarding etiquette but could not find the answer I was looking for.
My question is do you answer all your messages, even the one you are not interested in? or do you simply ignore it?
If you answer to the one your not interested, what do you say? Don't want to be rude, don't want to engage a conversation but we are all adults and I suppose I don't need to be motherly either.
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Posted: 7/9/2012 5:12:02 PM | I don't respond to the messages I'm not interested in. Most guys seem to prefer a response, but silence is a polite no. I've given and received it.
The only exception is if the message contains a short, polite compliment. I'll give an honest one back, but nothing further. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 5:41:14 PM | For me, it really depends on how much effort the person puts into their message. If it's a simple one sentence message, I just won't reply at all. But if they obviously put a lot of thought into the message, then I write back just to say that I'm not interested and wish them good luck.
Nobody is obligated to do this though | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:29:38 PM | I asked the same question in this Forum some time ago and it was reported for being redundant and was consequently removed.
However, quick answer........no response=no interest. That goes both ways. xx
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:40:56 PM |
My question is do you answer all your messages, even the one you are not interested in? or do you simply ignore it? I used to answer them all but I dont now. I answer ones that had a clever message even if not interested and I try and answer all theones that figure out a way to mention penguins.
If you answer to the one your not interested, what do you say? Don't want to be rude, don't want to engage a conversation but we are all adults and I suppose I don't need to be motherly either. Tell them Thanks for the inquiry but you dont feel you are a match.
But I advise you just dont reply. You will learn why soon enough if you keep replying to the rejects. No reply is a reply here. Not interested.
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:51:09 PM | | I do. If someone took the effort to communicate I feel I should reciprocate but not everyone shares my view point. o.O | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:56:24 PM | | When I started here the first few I replied and said I wasn't interested because I figured they put in the effort to contact me. After I messaged several women and didn't get a reply I just figured it worked just as well if I didn't reply and I didn't have to come up with a "nice way" to tell someone that I wasn't interested. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 6:59:11 PM | | I usually do even when I'm not interested. Having said that, I don't care if I get no response or a "No thanks" message to the first email. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 7:09:47 PM | If you have caller ID do you answer if it's a known telemarketer. Do you read every real email address email that lands in your spam filter?
If they spent about 1 second on the email.. Like, Hi, hello or hey soldier... or something read deleted is as far as it gets. If they are about as far off base as someone can get from my "type" which is flexible... read deleted..
I always read.. I don't always reply. Sometimes they are really nice people then I reply kindly... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 7:09:51 PM | | When I was dating I found that if I sent any message back, even a 'no thank you' note, the sender simply generated another message. I chose to not answer messages unless I had interest. Men generally understand that no response means no interest online, and seem to prefer it based on the threads I've read. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 8:15:56 PM | I reply to anyone whom takes the time to contact me.
Why be rude? If there is no interest, just say so...
Wish them the best, put a smile on their face, not hard to do. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 8:21:12 PM | Haha I know I'm a chick, but half the time I see my messages my reaction is this: http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m5h4bzXtde1r8434o.gif
I don't answer to all of mine because I just get the same thing from most guys "ERMAGERD U sexii."
I mean, I answer to the ones who don't bore me to death. :P | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 8:33:39 PM | | Ignore is better. I wrote "sorry, but I'm not interested because we are too different" one time and got a rude response back. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2012 8:37:35 PM | I sent a polite no thank you yesterday and the guy just kept messaging with "helloo" and "how r u?" until I hit block this user.
There is no actual etiquette but I've learned from other posters that rejection messages may not be received well and could mean a nasty/abusive reply. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2012 1:53:08 AM | Hi, OP - welcome.
Sometimes I answer and sometimes I don't. Men have written me elongated responses that were interesting, and though I didn't find them suitable matches, I would at least keep the communication open. I have found that in the short run of long messages, they really weren't interested in me, only the expeditiousness an internet "connection" promises, hence my intuition served me well.
It's entirely up to you. Be prepared for people who are unable to tolerate even the politest of "rejection" messages; they will attempt to denigrate your character in communication with you, though they don't know you any more than you know them. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2012 4:18:52 AM | Thank you all...much appreciated.
I think I'll stick to "no reply"
We are all grown up, and by going on a dating site I think We all kind tick the invisible "terms and conditions" box of online dating etiquette... | |
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