| | Are women just looking for hunks?Page 1 of 1 | | I've been on dating sites for years. I really hope I'm wrong and that there's some women out there that are just looking for a decent loving guy. But it seems to me that women on dating sites mainly respond to guys for one or all of the following reasons like guys that are, 5'10 or over, big muscles, lots of money, or a straight up rated 10 if 10 is the hottest. Over the years I have emailed so many women that are thin, fat, hot and even not so hot and not get a response from like 99.9% of the time. So many women also check me out without anything. I am an actual guy that is looking for the real thing with no bs and I'm not looking for a booty call. Basically are there any women anymore that is just looking for a guy that is loving, honest, loyal, honorable without it being without any of the above mentioned qualities? | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:07:56 PM | | I must admit, quite a few women use dating sites to boost their self-esteem. We get a lot of hits, at least that's what a lot of women say who are on here. You have to keep in mind, since it's online, a lot of it is superficial, particularly in the 20-30yr old range. It's a quick click and preview type deal. And if we're getting a lot of men messaging us, and several seem like decent guys of course women are going to choose the hottest of the choices offered. It's a difficult world, this dating world I'm talking about. Maybe taking a break from online dating and focusing on what's physically around you would be better if you've been on here for years. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:12:34 PM | | Actually women are looking for hot looking guys who have a well established social circle, are well respected in the community and loved by his family , own a number of properties including both summer and winter retreats , has a practically unlimited disposable income and will treat her like she is the Queen of his domain... did you not get the memo! | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 10:37:01 PM | | no women are not just looking for hunks. that being said, there has to be some physical chemistry between the two of you. if you can't make a woman swoon, then it's probably not a match. women don't have to be with the most gorgeous man in the world. for women, it's more about personality and about how the man makes her feel. i've dated some very handsome men, and i've dated some men that others would not necessarily consider good looking - but i thought they were gorgeous! women aren't as visual as men are. you men are very very picky, and have all sorts of hang ups that intertwine your egos with the physical beauty of the woman that you are with - as if this gives you guys some stamp of stud approval or something. women arent' like this. it's about personality, humor, charm, and confidence. i think you will need to be a bit more brash when dating online, however. so many women get tons of messages everyday, so unless you make an impression, you might not get a response. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:04:42 PM | It's crazy how nit picky they get online.. I know I am not the absolute best in looks, income or in sheer muscle mass...... however read on.
On one dating site they have ratings instead of just meet or not. You can see who rated you and the list that rated me 4 to 5 out of 5 is quite long and a good number of them I would rate as highly as they rated me.
I also get viewed quite often according to the email this other site sent. "We just detected that you're now among the most attractive people on *******. We learned this from clicks to your profile and reactions to you in......"
As for income I am not a 1%er but when I add up my reservist pay with my civilian career according to the statistics 93% of individuals in the US make less than me..
I can out do many of the 30 and under crowd in my reserve unit in push ups, sit-ups and the two mile run. I have fun with the brats..
Guys the bottom line is that what ever you don't have. Whatever it is that you think would fix everything..... well it won't.
If I were just a hunk, just rich... blah blah.. Even if you had it there are still going to be hundreds of other male profiles in the running that have it too.
Yes I get responses and a date or two but in no way, shape or form is it easy. The sheer number of profiles I email with individual original tailored messages as compared to the a minimal response is mind boggling.
Online if I email a hundred or more that in my book range from a 7 and up I might get one date.. Note that I said a date which is the goal...responses are not the goal just a stepping stone.
Now in real life out socializing from the grocery to wherever... I have had 7's or better straight up make a pass at me out of nowhere. Online an unsolicited email with a minuscule number of exceptions is typically from the exact opposite of what I am looking for..
Give it your best effort online and if it still sucks most the time... Well.... join the club. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:26:45 PM | it seems to me that women on dating sites mainly respond to guys for one or all of the following reasons like guys that are, 5'10 or over, big muscles, lots of money, or a straight up rated 10 if 10 is the hottest.
Operant word: SEEMS
Here is a more correct statement: your assumptions are unseemly.
Hey, this might be a little off-topic, but did you do the landscaping in all of the pics behind you?
Edit:
I've said it before
and no, it's not debateable;
if you engage in online dating
you render yourself undateable.
"All the girls who turn me on turn me down." | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:30:59 PM | I've said it before
and no, it's not debateable;
if you engage in online dating
you render yourself undateable. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:31:38 PM | Operant word: SEEMS Here is a more correct statement: your assumptions are unseemly
Exactly.. How do you know the profiles you emailed even respond to anyone? They could be just fishing for a mailbox full of ego fuel for all you know.. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/9/2012 11:46:59 PM |
But it seems to me that women on dating sites mainly respond to guys for one or all of the following reasons like guys that are, 5'10 or over, big muscles, lots of money, or a straight up rated 10 if 10 is the hottest.
How the heck would you know?
Just because no one’s replying to YOU, they're all superficial ego trippers? You're such a nice guy. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:05:34 AM | | Well bro honestly on a dating site normally i would say they are going to select the better looking men if they have that option my first night on POF i recieved 181 messages all women from my town i was like wtf ? my first time on the dating site or any dating site and i swear i felt like the new piece of meat lmao . But i think theres alot of midgrade women out there i was talking to this one who was sooooo gorgeous she wanted a man financially well off and good looking well i messaged her and i swear to god this girl found out everything about me i was shocked she found out i was a local large buisness owner and figured i was worth millions (which i will not disclose) so she was on me like butter on toast she was smokin hot but very materialistic and superficial and i was looking for someone who did not know who i was figured i was an average joe btw im tatted down which really throws people off for me haha i love it but have found a few nice semi attractive girls with much greater personallity and brains anyway i dunno if this helps or not i kinda feel like im rambling on about me which is not what i was after by any means peace and goodluck | |
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:14:01 AM | Hammdog...
Watch your who viewed me section and what you post online.
A couple minutes after I made post #6 on this thread I looked at my who viewed me and started to watch it. There were a number of new views immediately after it and most of them much more attractive than the others for the day and with a high maintenance oriented outlook in their about me section.. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 12:29:12 AM | Op,its like saying men are just looking for young,slim blondes .................
We all have our likes and dislikes and so many men think big $ equates to attraction.
But,who would want a 'Goldigger' anyway?
*shrug* | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 12:40:36 AM | Hunks are known to be douchebags, I'll pass.
By the way, what you described cannot be found on POF. Believe me. | |
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Posted: 7/10/2012 12:41:24 AM | you men are very very picky, and have all sorts of hang ups that intertwine your egos with the physical beauty of the woman that you are with
I'm picky when it comes to what's inside, as long as she's at least reasonable on the outside. If she's an evil, nasty, manipulative, egocentric person.. then sure, I'm picky. Or if she's sharp as a marble.
If I had to, I'd put my ex wife at a 5 on the outside, but she was smart as hell and that's what attracted me to her.
I don't think most men are as picky as you think. And those that are, aren't deep enough for a guppy.
Hunks are known to be douchebags, I'll pass.
By the way, what you described cannot be found on POF. Believe me.
I believe you may be right, just in the same way that very hot women are as I described above. They know they can get anybody, any time, so they chew them up, and spit them out. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 1:47:58 AM | physical attraction plays a big part. But not everyone is looking for hunks. I know I don't.
I actually just fell in love with the landscape in your last picture. lol | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 1:54:27 AM | | I have found that "nice" guys are not that nice and like the women who chase the hunks, they seek the supermodels. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 1:59:23 AM | | Well for the fun of it I put up a different fake profile that I took down, but I put in a different pic of a hunk, said I was 6'4, a plastic surgeon, and said I was in the same place I'm in. But I used my exact words on my real profile on about me and all that. Within in a half an hour I had over 200 emails from women who were practically ready to marry me. So that kinda goes to say something doesn't it? I really don't believe that all women could be this shallow. But most small and nice ( not macho big guys) that I know don't even get second looks and are usually single. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 2:28:38 AM | | Maybe you could have met up with some of these 200 women and act all confused when they don't recognise and blame the computer. The women on here I've met tell me that the guy often turns up looking nothing like the person in the picture anyway. | |
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| Are women just looking for hunks?
Posted: 7/10/2012 2:38:46 AM |
I really don't believe that all women could be this shallow. Shallow because they want a guy they think is attractive? LMAO Hardly.
No you dont have to be a "hunk". You do have to message women that can at least look at your profile and say "Well he is kinda cute I guess".
Maybe you are not as shallow as me and you are messaging the overweight ugly women on here. Personally I guess I am shallow as I message the cute FUN sounding ones. Not the super models but I honestly have to find them attractive to ME anyway. But I dont whine about the shallow women that dont reply to me. They HAVE to find you attractive on some level to reply. Different gals have WILDLY varying vies on what makes a guy attractive. Just keep messaging. A normal guy with a normal boring profile on here prays for maybe 3 replies out of a 100 it seems. Some would dance nekid in the street for just 1 per hundred.
So the bottom line is probably that you are messaging women that do not find you attractive. Perhaps you should reexamine the attractiveness of who you are messaging. Lots of very average looking guys way WAY over rate how hawt they are and seem confused as to why the attractive women do not reply. You are simply messaging women that do not find you attractive. Try and work on that maybe...
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