| | Females who like to be controlledPage 1 of 1 | | Okay, I just want this answered for my own curiosity, but I'm seeing a lot of profiles from females in my area where they state they like a man who is bossy and controlling because its what the man should do. I'm also surrounded by females who are in controlling relationships with men who are allowed to do whatever they want, and it puzzles me. Why would a female allow herself to be controlled and told what to do, and not enjoy living her life? This behavior just really disturbs me. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 3:13:56 PM | People are very, very weird.
Don't try to figure them all out. You never will because some things just dont make sense, you'll get a head ache. | |
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| Females who like to be controlled
Posted: 7/11/2012 3:20:59 PM |
they state they like a man who is bossy and controlling because its what the man should do. I'm also surrounded by females who are in controlling relationships with men who are allowed to do whatever they want, and it puzzles me
Well young grasshopper, there is much more in default human behavior and in life which you may find "disturbing",
as you mature and gain some experience it will disturb less. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 4:07:24 PM | they like a man who is bossy and controlling because its what the man should do.... it puzzles me
Based on the other threads that have been around, I blame Mr Grey myself. The phase will pass. It's fashionable at the moment - enjoy.
EDIT - Just not fast enough, was I ? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 5:16:36 PM | | Ah Hah!!! Another mystery solved thanks to POF. I couldn't fathom why that book suddenly appeared on my nightstand, as if from outer space. NICE TRY. >:[ | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 5:18:11 PM | | I think its part of the laws of masculinity and feminity that have been around since the beginning of human life. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 5:24:26 PM | It comes from power and relates to dominant and submissive in a mental capacity. Who is really in control? The submissive one.
*Of course I speak generally, not all.
Women want a man, they want that feel of protection and toughness. When someone keeps calling and asking where you are, some women feel that means he cares, hes worries, he can be jealous and it makes them feel special in a sense. How? Keep in mind what people find to be joyful and full of life. Some people have a tendency to make a person their life. That's their interpretation of it.
*I'm guilty to a degree, I'm use to being the boss and telling people what to do. When I come home, I rather he make the decisions most of the time. Of course, its a relationship but I love it when he takes over, but in moderation. I do not want to be controlled or stalked at anytime, I just like to feel wanted/needed. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 6:20:04 PM | Well this disturbs me too.
I can tell you, as a girl, I'm looking for confidence, smarts and self control from a man, not arrogance, stupidity or a control freak.
You're the one seeing through your own eyes, could some of what you think you're seeing actually be women asking for a strong man?
And there are some things I will yield to for a man. But there will also be some things I would expect him to yield to me on as well. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 8:12:26 PM | "Why would a female allow herself to be controlled and told what to do, and not enjoy living her life? This behavior just really disturbs me."
Possibly because they can't use the brain in their skull? There are some people in this world that just don't know how to think for their own self and like other people doing it for them. It baffels me as well. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 8:12:38 PM | | Hmm... Maybe it's not really controlling their lives but more that they're attracted to men who actually know what they want and are dominant? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 9:39:32 PM | ^^^^^ That hurt my little girl brain.
Do they want vampires, too? Or maybe international playboy spies? Good grief… choosing traits based on fictional pop culture.  That truly hurts my brain. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 9:46:24 PM | Not to mention, that tons of PEOPLE, male and female alike, want to be told how to live their lives in various ways, for the simple reason that they feel protected from having to be responsible for themselves that way.
It's the "substitute for daddy" syndrome. In exchange for giving you the ILLUSION of dominance, you give them protection, financial support, worship, and the sense of security that comes from being told they are doing things right all the time. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 3:55:39 AM | The pattern I see, is women with a low self-esteem who are lost.
This tends to be the type of woman who would seek such a guy. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 6:18:48 AM |
The pattern I see, is women with a low self-esteem who are lost.
This tends to be the type of woman who would seek such a guy.
I think you've hit the nail on the head.
Probably also why many men find it such a turn off. Not everyone of us is looking for a handbag to hang on our arm, or a play doll that can't think for itself. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 12:08:04 PM | | I think there's a huge difference between a controlling man and a "man's man". I think most women are looking for a "man's man". You know...he's good at fixing random things, maybe he smacks her tush during sex, he opens the door, he can push her up against the wall and ravish her with a kiss, he doesn't shriek at spiders, and he recognizes that you can't reach things on the top shelf in the kitchen so he'll get them for you. Maybe they're just using the wrong adjective? Because I honestly don't know many women that are ok with being controlled, so it seems odd that you come across so many that are ok with it. | |
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