| | How does a city slicker date in a country world?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Okay, my type around here is very limited, almost non-existent. Living in the South, girls here are strongly attracted to country boys. They like guys who have big trucks, wear camo, boots, like to go mudding, hunting, fishing, anything and everything redneck. I'm the exact opposite of that, I love the fast paced lifestyle of living in a city, and do not see the appeal of anything related to the country lifestyle. So being the opposite type of what females find attractive, what do I need to do in order to get ahead in my area? | |
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| How does a city slicker date in a country world?
Posted: 7/13/2012 10:05:21 AM | That will only be some girls, not all.
There will always be girls in small towns that yearn for the faster paced life, just as there are girls in the city that yearn for a slower paced life.
You just have to figure out which ones are which.
No need to change who you are, just accept that your percentages won't be the same, and if necessary visit the larger towns/cities to increase your dating options.
Also, just because a girl likes a 'country boy' doesn't mean she won't date a 'city slicker'. As long as the rest of you is appealling, you'd be surprised what a Woman will accept. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 10:13:14 AM | Looking like a dweeb out in the country
sure doesn't help with picking up chicks!
Paris Hilton and that other chick had that
TV series for awhile where they tried to
fit in...maybe you can learn something while
watching reruns....I doubt it though ! lol | |
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| How does a city slicker date in a country world?
Posted: 7/13/2012 10:39:41 AM | Living in the South, girls here are strongly attracted to country boys. They like guys who have big trucks, wear camo, boots, like to go mudding, hunting, fishing, anything and everything redneck Actually I have lived in huge metro area like LA and Dallas, Houston etc. And I have lived in very rural areas. Country gals (your NOT rural where you are either) like real folks. Liars, scammers and people pretending be something they are not just dont do well. But its nice for the stereotyping grasshopper. I'm a country boy that can slide perfectly well into a porsche and a suit and make big time presentations for major corporations. I can also slap on jeans and boots and spend the day happily chopping firewood in front of my cabin for the winter. I have lived the high life in corporate america. And I have sat in a snow storm in a pasture in the mountains at 2 am after doing shots of jack black untill midnight when momma found us in the saloon screaming that dottie was h aving a baby and to get our asees home and I caught a baby foal as it dropped out of its stupid mother that would not walk into the barn to get out of the snow to give birth. One of the most special moments of my life. Trust me I will always remember that instant far more then either wedding I went through for sure.
I am all contradictions. But I can play both scenes because beneath it all I am just a good guy. Honest. Dont lie. I care about people. Those qualities sell well anywhere you go. Country boy? City boy? snort. Try and focus on growing up to just be a GOOD MAN. Keep THAT as your friggin goal. Your goal should be that when you die you have a good crowd show up and they all murmur and say "He was the BEST MAN I ever met". If you do that you lived a good life.
I'm the exact opposite of that, I love the fast paced lifestyle of living in a city, and do not see the appeal of anything related to the country lifestyle. THEN MOVE and quit whining. I moved from Dallas and working for a prestigious consulting firm in the 80's to an old miners cabin near aspen Colorado up on the frying pan river, that was built in the 1800's. and actually helped run a herd of buffalo for one winter on horseback and living in a tent with waist deep snow. And gawd made no critters dumber then a buffalo I swear. You think YOU have it tough. Oh give me a friggin break and cry me a river.
GO DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! Quit whining about it. YOU control where you live and what you do.
So being the opposite type of what females find attractive, You know I have found being honest, kind, and having a good sense of humor works just as well when I am in a meeting in an expensive suit in LA driving a mercedes as it does in front of the CO-OP supply store in jeans and knee high moccasins in Carbondale CO with a long pony tail in a beat up old 4 wheel drive van. Good folks can quickly figure out who is a fake azzhat and who is just a good guy. Good guys can wear suits and party in the city too. And its easy to tell the good guys from the azzwipes
You know what gals where you are find attractive? Let me clue ya in. They want a good man that is attractive and fun to be with. If your failing go over that list a couple times and try and isolate where you seem to be failing.
Trust me it wont matter where you go. They will figure out what you really are. And the "Howdy Howdy" to start your profile will fool no one.
If your not happy where you are DEAL WITH IT.
Funny as my ex grewp in a very small town in the Valley outside Aspen. She always dreamed of living in the big city as she never had. She pictured it like the "Friends" TV show. She was 15 years younger then I when we got together. I took her back to Dallas so she could live her dream. Made tons of money. We partied Dallas to the ground.
And in 5 or 6 years she wanted to move back to the mountains. When you are instilled with good morals and good values its amazing how that can transcend city or rural living.. Examine yourself closely for those values as I would wager your lacking in one of those key areas.
Go live where you want and date who you want but PUHLEEEEZE quit whining because the country gals want more then you have to offer.
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 10:45:41 AM | I don't have much sympathy for the OP. He's 6' 2" , first of all, which gives him a huge advantage online. I get annoyed when tall guys complain they can't get dates or whatever. They're always doing something else wrong.
OP, many of those "country" guys are dumb. Notice I said many, so that's not to knock all country guys.
Many of those women might be looking for something different, and you're not going to know, unless you reach out to them. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 11:13:15 AM | @ Cowboy, I think you're looking way too deep into my post. It has nothing to do with me being inadequate, its simply just trying to get advice on how to meet and connect with females for dates when our hobbies/lifestyles are vastly different. I grew up in the country, my dad raised me in that lifestyle, and took me hunting, fishing, etc and I hated every moment of it. The lifestyle just doesnt click with me. Country girls arent my type, and I'm not looking to meet one, just trying to figure out what options there are when my type isnt readily available.
@ LongSpring, It's not sympathy I'm asking for, and it has nothing to do with me doing something wrong. I'm just having an extremely difficult time meeting someone similar to my type. Nashville is an hour away, great city, but I dont have the time to travel to meet girls there. I'd like to, but working a full time job that works me from 11am to sometimes 2am and doing it again nine hours later, having the time for something far just isnt viable at the moment. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 11:39:37 AM | You need to move.
I get what you're saying; even big cities have suburbs with identities and high percentages of certain types. For instance, downriver in my area has the same demographic with the same types of people looking for the same types of things stated in your original post.
Your only real choice is to move, or hope you get lucky enough to meet that "diamond in the rough" in your area. There's no real way to 'control' for certain types in a non-diverse location. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:04:46 PM | | Not all women in Kentucky, Florida, or Georgia are interested in the "country life style" . I agree with Cowboy that you need to overcome this mental block believing that a certain lifestyle is restricting your dating options. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:06:18 PM | A hour away is not that bad, you can always set something up on a weekend. If you work every weekend, that could be a problem.
If you start talking to someone in Nashville, and it seems like there could be something worthwhile; heck, make the drive.
I know people who commute a hour and half to work, you can drive one hour (and back) to a date on a Saturday or Sunday. | |
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| How does a city slicker date in a country world?
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:17:29 PM |
@ Cowboy, I think you're looking way too deep into my post. It has nothing to do with me being inadequate, its simply just trying to get advice on how to meet and connect with females for dates when our hobbies/lifestyles are vastly different. Not sure what you missed but MOVE IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY. You make shitty remarks about the men and women that surround you. Well they feel the same about you. MOVE TO WHERE YOU WILL BE HAPPY and not constantly making belittling remarks about the fine women and men that surround you. Those are the most real people you will ever meet. To bad you are not mature enough to appreciate them
Get your azz back to the city and then come post about how you dont understand why the city gals dont appreciate you.
if you dont like the country THEN MOVE. For gawds sakes just quit whining about something you control 100 %.
Hell I have lived in SIX states so far on POF and lived in a dozen different places. Crap your young just learn to pack smart and lean and you can live in a dozen places in the next few years and experience the life you dream of. You know NOTHING right now. Get out and actually LIVE LIFE.
Geez
Cowboy
Quit trying to pretend you are something your not. Get your butt back to some filthy dirt city and have a blast. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:27:27 PM | | I plan on moving to Nashville, but its at least a year away. I'm building up a resume at the local hospital for my CNA position, and am wanting to attend a PTA school next fall, while working at a hospital down there but like I said, its a year away before I can set that up. Gotta save up for the move, for school, and to guarantee myself a job down there. | |
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| How does a city slicker date in a country world?
Posted: 7/13/2012 12:31:12 PM |
I am all contradictions. But I can play both scenes because beneath it all I am just a good guy. Honest. Dont lie. I care about people. Those qualities sell well anywhere you go. Country boy? City boy? snort. Try and focus on growing up to just be a GOOD MAN. Keep THAT as your friggin goal. Your goal should be that when you die you have a good crowd show up and they all murmur and say "He was the BEST MAN I ever met". If you do that you lived a good life. - post #5 from cowboy.
Too bad he's too young to "get it" because that entire post is worth rereading, well written and genuine. Maybe another reader in a quandry will take it to heart. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:41:28 PM | I get exactly what Cowboy is saying, be someone of character, and I try to be, but its hard to meet a woman when there is little diversity where I live, and I have almost nothing in common with the types of females that live here who seemingly go for men with the same lifestyle as them. Country girls just arent my type, and I wont fake interest just to get a date.
I highly doubt most here would pretend to be a certain type just to date a girl they find attractive. This has nothing to do with being a good man, character, etc, its just how to go about meeting someone when you cant find your type. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:47:45 PM | JDH1120
I have little in common with "country gals" in Florida, but since I am genuine they seem interested in me. Furthermore, I like the idea of doing different activities, because I don't want a woman that is in essence a clone of me. But do as you wish, but you will find that "city girls" are no different than "country girls" if you can't keep their interest.
You say you are not attracted to "country women", but if you have never been to NYC /LA/CHI, etc how do you know you are attracted to "city women"? :P What if you are a suburb type of a guy lol (just like me o.O)?
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Posted: 7/13/2012 12:55:58 PM | | HKO, I understand what you're saying, its important to have diverse interests, but growing up in the lifestyle its just not for me. I cant expect a woman to do everything I enjoy if I'm not willing to do what she likes as well. And in regards to the country lifestyle I just cant enjoy it. I remember last month when the rodeo came to town and every girl was creaming their panties because of all the cowboys they would get to see, and riding horses and bulls. Something like that, for example, just doesnt appeal to me, and as such I have little to nothing in common with the females in my area. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 1:04:49 PM | You don't like the lifestyle, but do you have a comparison point (have you ever lived in a big city)? Your profile states you will be moving soon, so I suppose that may solve your problem as Tennessee has an active night life in the cities, which is surprisingly fairly similar to what you see in Europe. But the big city life style like Dallas, L.A. Chicago, Houston, Miami, New York are way different than what you will encounter in Tennessee or Kentucky.
Maybe pay one of these major cities a visit as a tourist first? ;) | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 1:05:36 PM | I'm with Cowboy all the way, OP. You keep making it more and more clear, repeating over and over, that you don't like the women around you, don't respect them, aren't interested enough to look past your many and detailed prejudices about them, and are entirely unwilling to adjust yourself in even the timiest of ways.
Yet you post this thread, conversly titled "How does a city slicker date in a country world?", apparently just to proclaim even more thoroughly that you detest all the people around you.
Since you have the attitude and opinions you have made VERY clear here, then the answer to your question is simple: YOU DON'T DATE. You said yourself, that you don't WANT to. So stop fussing about it, and go back to admiring yourself in the mirror until you can move away.
Too bad I can't vote for thread deletions any more, this one would go into the bin under the label "SHOULD BE OBVIOUS." | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 1:19:34 PM | lol.... if your not into country girls maybe u should change the 1st 2 words of your profile... howdy howdy
you sound like a whiner..... every1 has a preference, would not consider where u live country, and I'm sure there's a wide variety of females there. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 1:35:27 PM | | Don't take it personally, but you have to understand different view points. I have lived in the big city, rural, suburb areas, and in the end people are not really different. I understand you are not attracted to the country lifestyle, but if you want a different lifestyle move. But you have been warned that people are people regardless where they live. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:18:49 PM |
I grew up in the country, my dad raised me in that lifestyle, and took me hunting, fishing, etc and I hated every moment of it. The lifestyle just doesnt click with me
Yet, on YOUR very own profile YOU have a pic with "love hiking and nature :)" as a heading. (I'm assuming the "happy face" and the word "love" means you really don't "hate EVERY minute of it", do you??????)
You're not "attracting" what you THINK you want,because you,yourself, are still growing and figuring out what you actually want. Evident. At your age you should let life flow before you start eliminating people out of the rest of your life. Seriously. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 5:45:51 PM | You didn't ask how to date when you are a "fish out of water," you asked how to date when you despise and look down your noses at all the women around you. Make up your mind. Even better, turn off you insanely bright ego lamp for a few minutes, wait for the glare spots to fade from your vision, and go back and read what you posted about how little you think of the women you propose to go after.
You didn't SERIOUSLY expect everyone to take your side, and advise you on how to fake being a Country Boy so you could get laid, did you? | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 11:51:08 AM | | oh boy...i hear you...i am in the same boat...a city girl stuck in the 'burbs/sticks. it really sucks. i can't believe that a girl wouldn't want to date a guy that didn't drive a stupid pick up truck. i am sorry, i just dont' get it. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 12:13:35 PM | OP, I've been in a very similar situation. My thought is if you stay you can maybe find something, but moving would probably up your odds. If you're not in an area where you can really 'attract' then it can be tough. Real country girls shouldn't have much problem with you as you are--they would probably like it as a change from what they usually have to deal with. It's the poser country girls that need you to be 'country bubba' to make themselves feel country that are likely to snub you. I've been finding there are lots of the posers that need some corn-fed dude, with a truck with camo seat covers, an arm band tatt, goattee etc. that are desperately trying to fill an image. If you want you can try to dress/act like the wannabes...
i can't believe that a girl wouldn't want to date a guy that didn't drive a stupid pick up truck. i am sorry, i just dont' get it.
I don't know why it is THAT important for some. I've known a few that even required it to be diesel....some require it be lifted. I don't really get it either. | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 1:03:50 PM | Oh I love your city slicker stereotypical view. Having a big truck, occasionally wearing camouflage, hunting and fishing, does not equate to redneck; Perhaps the mudding part though is a little redneckish. I love to go fishing on the occasion and I am no where near redneck. In fact I don't even have a southern accent. When people hear me they usually ask me where I am from and when I tell them I am from Arkansas they usually say something like "Why don't you have a country accent?"
Just because a girl is into a "country" guy doesn't mean she may not be into a "city slicker." I think if a lady bases her liking of a guy based off of if he is country or city then something is wrong. I would hope she would base it off of personality and physical attraction first rather than "Oh.My.Gosh he wears wranglers and boots! That's so the guy for me." or "He's such a hipster!! He's the one!" | |
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