| | Is there something wrong with my profile?Page 1 of 1 | Hi all,
I've been on the site a few weeks now and get views but very few of the women who view send me a message, so I'm wondering if there's something wrong with my profile? I think I've been as honest as I can about who I am and what I'm looking for, but is that considered a bad thing with online dating?
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| Is there something wrong with my profile?
Posted: 7/14/2012 6:35:51 AM | I would change the Fish Personality to "None", it just adds clutter.
I personally don't like the Headline.
Views means your primary pic is working. You have some good ones, but could improve the variety. Rotate the primary weekly.
<-- click my History for my pic guidelines.
Interests and profile text are good, except for asking them to message you in the last line. They know what to do.
You don't have any of the typical bad stuff that most guys do. But, you also don't have anything that really makes you stand out from the crowd. Adding more "personality" through humor, creative writing, a song lyric or poem would help.
Are you sending messages to women? Typically, men need to do that. Use all the various site functions on the menus, they each have their unique benefits.
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Posted: 7/14/2012 7:31:13 AM | | thanks for your feedback, have made a few changes, not sure about how to make myself stand out like you say but i will think about it. yes i do send messages but rarely get replies! | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 7:55:57 AM | For messages:
Don't mention how attractive/hot they are.
Don't ask them to look at your profile or message you.
Pose one or two simple questions they can answer.
Here is an example of a simple and successful message:
I sent this to a Steelers fan with no pets:
(The Steelers and Browns are arch rivals.)
(Had a date in less than 24 hours.)
I root for the Steelers, as long as they aren't playing the Browns.
Is that okay?
Not allergic to dogs are you?
firstname
For you I would say:
You do sound ambitious. A Masters Degree will be quite an accomplishment.
I recently saw Men In Black 3, great ending!
Have you seen it?
How often do you play badminton?
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Posted: 7/14/2012 10:59:34 AM | | Hey Bud.they profile for the most part is light and fun but it lacks any depth,a glimpse into your soul..what your looking for on a more romantic level if you will..girls need some thing to read into. your profile as it is ,it's a little to much on the surface. just a thought.( don't doubt your looks or humor) no I'm not gay.just to many guys on here freak thinking that thats why no response. just work on being a little deeper on here for the girls sack.D | |
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Posted: 7/14/2012 5:09:24 PM | With dimples like that, you completely wasted a great smile in your gallery. THAT one should be your main.
The Interests are varied and specific. Good!
The profile is a good base, but doesn't really get into who you'd like to meet. "Make your life exciting" is a tall order. Can you be a bit more specific?
Be aware also that many women can view you in 'stealth' mode. Imagine how many more have looked and passed?
What are your introduction messages like? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 12:57:34 PM | Coming together quite nicely. For me, I'd have liked to have seen a little more of your style of humour. Are you able to 'twist' a couple of the lines to get chuckle out of your viewer?
Do also remove all the email restriction except for NO Smokers/Druggies/Married or IE. The rest are truly negotiable.
I'm going to cut-and-paste some notes I made from another thread on sending first messages. The guy had "Fishing" as an Interest:
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Try this template which may help you get over the 'writer's block' for first messages:
Message: 3-4 sentence at most, light humoured, including 1 question only so she has an easy way to respond. Sign only your first name.
Do not say:
- Hi, Hey, Hello or How are you (wastes time)
- I read your profile (should be obvious)
- you're cute/pretty/beautiful (creepy in a first message)
- let's meet up for .... (again, creepy/pushy in a first message)
- check me out and email me back ( they know what to do already)
- hope to hear from you soon (sounds like begging/desperate)
Don't blather on about yourself - your profile is supposed to give information about you.
If I were writing to you, I'd use the specific interest of Fishing. Actually, that is the exact interest I used when I first wrote to my (now) husband.
Message: I just learned how to fly fish, but haven't actually caught anything yet. I much prefer spincast river fishing - fewer casualties! Have you been out yet this season? YGF
See? No pressure, obviously I read your profile, open a conversation, easy way to respond if you choose. | |
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