| | Girls, would you message me back?Page 1 of 1 | Not asking for a profile review here. Just based on my picture, if I sent you a message that basically said "I saw in your profile that we had X and Y in common and I thought I'd say Hi to you. I'd love to talk more sometime and see if we have anything else in common" would you reply, or not?
I'm asking because I think I am pretty average looking, but apparently I am invisible online. I'm not sure if it's just my region of the country, or if I am vastly over-estimating my looks when I say I look average? I'm pretty unused to this internet dating thing but I've jumped in with both feet. And the water so far has been frigid.
So give it to me truthfully. :o | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:19:00 PM | | I just read your basic setting and no I would not. Didn't even look at your pictures or read your profile. Just the settings and it's a no from me. Plus your headline bored me. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:27:29 PM | | If I were going to respond based on a picture, I would be more inclined to respond to the one of you on your couch... its less forced looking. One of your main problems IMO is that you list "want to date but nothing serious" and end your profile with "if you want to be friends". Most women in your age group are have enough friends, and are looking for a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:28:01 PM |
I just read your basic setting and no I would not
I'm not really asking for a profile review, but OK thanks. So picture and message had nothing to do with it, for you. Too boring... ouch. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:30:04 PM |
If I were going to respond based on a picture, I would be more inclined to respond to the one of you on your couch... its less forced looking. One of your main problems IMO is that you list "want to date but nothing serious" and end your profile with "if you want to be friends". Most women in your age group are have enough friends, and are looking for a relationship.
Thanks. I thought the couch picture was the cheesier one - I didn't even have it in, at first. The others were when I was having a really good time. I'm just sleepy on the couch lol. :p | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:38:23 PM |
Amen to that gal is veary shollow i hope she finds the kind of jirk she deserves
Thanks, but she's just from New York - they're pretty well known for their snap-judgements. Profiles are there for a reason though - to help people sort out who they're not interested in from who they are. I'm glad she's being honest, though it wasn't about what I had asked. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:43:35 PM |
I'm asking because I think I am pretty average looking, but apparently I am invisible online. I'm not sure if it's just my region of the country, or if I am vastly over-estimating my looks when I say I look average? I'm pretty unused to this internet dating thing but I've jumped in with both feet. And the water so far has been frigid.
No I think you nailed it perfect with "average". Lets say the top 20 percent are hotties. The bottom 20 are fuglies.
That middle 60 percent are average. Your average and so am i. MOST guys are just average here. Pics and profile are what gets replies here. Most your pics are crap. Put up 8 solid pics of YOU. Not your car or anything else. Closeup and full length. Inside an out.
The message was sorta lame but acceptable if SHE LIKED YOUR PICS AND PROFILE. See thats the key thing here about messaging. She has to like your profile/pics to reply. 90 percent of the guys here are all messaging the top 20 percent of the women. See the problem?
You are messaging gals that just didnt find you attractive basically. Just keep fishing.
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:44:23 PM |
Well aren't you a shallow b!tch... T_T
Well thank you if that was meant for me. Sure I'm a b!tch, but shallow, hardly.But you're 19 and things like this offend you so you resort to name calling because your lack of anything other constructive to say, prevented you from giving a valid answer. Poke me when your legal and I'll really rip you one.
Anymindlessquestionthathewantedatruthfulanswerto, Did you actually read his settings? He doesn't fill out half of them.
Profession I'll tell you later.
Do you want children? Undecided/Open
Do you have children? Prefer Not To Say
He is 37 years old and doesn't know the answers to these questions? and if I was shallow, and I'm not, I would of looked at his pictures. They mean absolutely NOTHING to ME if the person can't be bothered to put the basics on the profile. And his heading IS boring. Go on and pick it out of the thousands of other profiles on here. Don't get your panties in a bunch fellas when you don't get replies.
Also "TomK1357", back at ya...may you find the man of your dreams too. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:44:56 PM | Online they are a tough crowd. I have had Midwestern Transplants to CA be as snippy as any LA or NY type. Oh and I have lived in NY and LA.. Studies have shown that online women think 80% of guys are beneath them looks wise.. My own study of making passes out in the wild (real world) is that for the past year I have about an 80% success rate. I have filled everything out and online just a response is the exception to the rule and only 1 in 100 emails sent results in a date.
Antecanis.. That photo no es bueno... But deal with that on the appropriate thread. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:48:51 PM |
Thanks, but she's just from New York - they're pretty well known for their snap-judgements. Profiles are there for a reason though - to help people sort out who they're not interested in from who they are. I'm glad she's being honest, though it wasn't about what I had asked.
You can thank him all you want, but YOU asked for the TRUTH in your OP, did you not? YOU asked if someone would write you back. I said no and I gave you the reasons. I'm sorry my balls are bigger than yours. Must be cause I'm from New York. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:49:56 PM | Did you actually read his settings? He doesn't fill out half of them.
Thanks again, though again not really what I was asking.
The undecided/open is an honest answer, not me forgetting to fill it out. With the right woman, sure. Otherwise, I'm not looking to just knock some random chick up just to have a kid.
Antecanis.. That photo no es bueno... But deal with that on the appropriate thread.
This is the appropriate thread ... but ... you aren't a girl! | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:53:26 PM |
You can thank him all you want, but YOU asked for the TRUTH in your OP, did you not? YOU asked if someone would write you back. I said no and I gave you the reasons. I'm sorry my balls are bigger than yours. Must be cause I'm from New York.
Actually, I agreed with you and took some of your suggestions. And I thanked you for your opinion and feedback. And they are right, you are kind of an ***hole. But thank you non-the-less for your contribution. It has actually been valuable. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:55:06 PM | This is the appropriate thread ... but ... you aren't a girl!
Apparently you don't read forum rules either. Either sex can post here or on the ask a guy forum. Deal with it.
I think she gave you an answer to a question you were not directly asking but should have. They decide to reply or not based on more than just the title of your email and your thumbnail. So get the other shit straight first. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 8:57:54 PM |
They decide to reply or not based on more than just the title of your email and your thumbnail. So get the other shit straight first.
I'm looking at that, but keep in mind she is one woman - and over 40 at that. And her profile is a complete mess. So don't get upset if I take her advice for what it's worth, but continue to look for varied feedback from other women as well.
And I wasn't saying you aren't allowed to comment - I was implying that I'm not gay, and so I don't care what your opinion is on this topic. But feel free to respond all you like. :) | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 9:07:43 PM | I don't judge guys looks and by suggesting that you put up a better one I did not know you would assume that I was not straight. I have looked into studies what types of poses, expressions and settings get results.
It is absurd that a guy who is into fitness and very manly things like combat sports has a photo with his head on his hand.. Sorry... but it's the gayest thing on this thread.
I get feedback from profile views and meet me results on POF. On another site with the same photos and profile there is a 1-5 rating I have been getting plenty rating me 4-5.
The ladies feedback is good to get.. Sometimes guys who were getting nowhere at first then made changes are a great source as well.
I had two dates last weekend from a online dating site. Both were successful , educated and gorgeous. A year ago I would not have got a response from that type with my online game. Now I can land a date even when I flat out tell them I am leaving for a 1yr deployment next month. It's tough to pull that one off but sometimes I can. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 9:10:23 PM | I've never felt "invisible" here, and I certainly don't have anything on you appearance-wise. If I were to make a suggestion, it would be to ditch the "teddy bear" act in the profile. Maybe the ladies here can comment, but I find it hard to believe the "cuddle and talk" act ever manages to elicit intrigue on a base/biological level, even if they wished it would.
I never really thought the profile headline mattered much--at least, I don't pay much attention to it--but I couldn't help but notice you're using a tagline from Wayne's World in yours. If you hear your phone ringing, it might be 1993 calling to ask for its joke back.
I know you didn't want profile feedback, but let's face it--the problem you're professing to have is that you feel "invisible", so to get to the heart of the matter you might as well accept that the photos and text need to work together. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 9:44:20 PM | | Are there ANY women who would respond to a guy solely based on his picture without looking at his profile? Doubt it. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2012 9:46:22 PM | "I just read your basic setting and no I would not. Didn't even look at your pictures or read your profile. Just the settings and it's a no from me. Plus your headline bored me."
He wasn't asking for a profile review. Most people don't care about headlines anyways. | |
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