| | is it this hard to find someonePage 1 of 1 | | Ok so I've been on this site for at least 6 years now. I have yet to meet anyone from this site. Have only received a few responds back and am now wondering what is up with women on this site. Does anyone else find it difficult to meet anyone here or even just get a response to a message? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 12:10:27 PM | | It's not just the women. I can go months without an e-mail, and none of mine are ever replied to. Been here on/off since 2004. Have met some guys, but nothing long term. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 2:37:11 PM | | What I would like to understand , is why it took 6 years to come up with this question ? Your patience should be a good sign , the ability to endeavor 6 years at a task with no reward is amazing .. Hang in there I guess .. ps . if you signed up in oct of 08 its not quite 4 years yet , and yup i understand you may have been here before under a different nick .. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:06:53 PM | I've always found it amazing that, at 40, when I decided to stop being a loner and look for my SO, I put one ad in the newspaper and he replied (we were together 17 years till his passing).
Here we have supposedly so many people seeking the right someone, and very few people ever seem to receive answers to their first-contact messages -- even those of us who write to age-appropriate local people, selected for quality rather than by visual attributes.
Why, is anyone's guess. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2012 5:36:26 PM | Do not expect to have her fall at your feet. You got to do the selling job.
I was here in 2005/06, met someone and had a wonderful relation that ended early this year, no fault of either of us. I returned in March and been seeing a lady for 3 weeks now.
Here's a few pointers.
Profile photo: You have a good one but how long it's been up. I changed mine once a week. Keep it fresh and state when and what you are doing in the photo. SMILE, SMILE, SMILE.
Sent mail: How many "hello" have you sent this week. I used to sent 3 or more a day.
If we shared 3 or more interests, "hi, I like doing **** too, How about....".
Do you use the MEET ME feature? I must have sent a MEET ME to every lady within 50 miles and replied to EVERYONE I got.
You see a new photo on a girl's profile....compliment her.
Always include questions in your messages as it will improve your chances for a reply.
And when you write to anyone, be a gentlemen, be polite, be respectful. Once you find a connection, then it's time to flirt, not before.
Once I get a reply, I push for a face to face introduction, coffee/walk/etc. Profiles are very shallow, we never look like our photos and the only way we know that we are compatible is to meet face to face.
I said in March that I will be in a relation by summer. Well, I missed by one week. "PoF is not working very well for me."
Doc Sage | |
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Posted: 7/18/2012 10:11:25 PM | I've been on the site several years, have met several guys - made some new friends... None have turned into a long-term romantic relationship, but I keep looking & sending the occasional "hello I like your profile because..." Each guy I meet helps me refine what I would like in a life partner. No, I don't have a long list of requirements, but I've refined what are deal breakers.
Doc is right - they aren't going to fall at your feet - you got to do the selling job. I see so many profiles by guys that state only " I like fishing, camping, hunting, atving" or variations of... I can't speak for all the women who search the site but this doesn't catch my attention, I cross them off my list. It's a bit like writing a resume. Some guys just don't get that they need to think out of the box a bit to attract a woman's notice. Our brains are wired differently. We usually love to read good content. What spark makes you you?
Photos - don't use your web cam to take a photo - for the most part they aren't very flattering. And use the interests/keywords section. From time to time I like to use that for searching any mutual interests. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 10:00:46 PM | | though i used first contact, didn't wait around to get messsages, based on location, interests and got lucky....., and I think dr sages suggestions are worth looking at, I also think that you live in a smallish populated area relatively speaking and your profile may not appeal to the general culture in the area. I would think that humour has to be used carefully in a personal ad, it can be taken wrong and a barracuda searching for fishy fishy ....for example....may be a tad aggressive humour for this purpose....just like someone using a marriage proposal title. Of course if it isn't humour those titles are after....then nevermind. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 7:58:55 PM | In one word, yes. Some of the women in this site are "players" or even "con artists". Just be careful.
Here, don't be afraid to ask then questions. If they ignore your questions, then just say, "good bye". | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 10:40:26 PM | Tell me about it
I get emails. but they never want to meet. this site is a waste of my time and everyones else like really dating sites are not the same anymore. I been on here on and off and I see the same damn girls on here from my city and Im like wtf. really?? and so I msg them and they just dont reply lol | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:15:46 AM | From what i understand of this site if you see a profile you like there's a good chance it gets 2-20 msn an hour. If you must use this site and expect results you got to play the numbers. We are talking about sending 10-20 msn to different girls every time you log on. And i know, its frustrating i go out and talk to a random girl on the street she is giggling asking questions and buying time to stay talking to me. On here it's hard to get so much as a "hi". ( sadly its terrifying to talk to randoms)
What i would say is get out of the house every chance you can. Try to go places by yourself (its hard to meet people when your with friends) and when your feeling down watch some Digits (http://www.youtube.com/user/digitsshow) dude goes around talking to girls that are complete strangers and getting there number. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:32:34 AM | | I want to stress going by yourself, how can you expect to entertain a girl if you can't entertain your self. And remember to talk to the girl notice things about her then comment. One last thing a conversation is a two way street if things slow down its not all your fault, don't feel like you need to bring up every topic. | |
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