| | keeps creating new profiles to message mePage 1 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | Hey all,
I'm getting creeped out by this one guy. He kept messaging me and I'm not interested, so I blocked him. Then some time later he creates a new profile and messages me again as if it were the first time messaging me. I blocked that profile too. Then he created another profile and messaged me yet again (like it's the first time messaging me) and I blocked that profile too. Today I check my messages again and there he is messaging me again with yet another new profile :( I never said anything to him, I just keep blocking the new profiles. But should I say something? Or will that just add fuel to the fire? I don't feel like arguing with anyone. What's up with him? Has this happened to anyone else? Is there a way to report this? I am also sick of ignoring men and then they keep messaging me. And the "thanks but no thanks" messages do not work because then they curse me out. I have 64 men on my block list. Arg! Or is there just nothing I can do? Sorry for the rant, but why don't some guys get the hint :( | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:48:45 AM |
But should I say something? Or will that just add fuel to the fire? I don't feel like arguing with anyone. What's up with him? Has this happened to anyone else? Is there a way to report this? Do not reply. Block him.
Sure you can report him using the report user link on the bottom of his profile(s). But honestly all POF can do is delete a profile and as you well know he can make another one in 3 minutes.
Ignore and block is the best course of action
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:51:06 AM | | You could try hiding your profile for a month or so. You will still be able to message people that you want to, and they will be able to reply but your profile won't come up in searches. He may give up looking for you if you disappear for a while. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:51:31 AM | I've got the same problem. My profile is currently hidden but it's a piss off I shouldn't have to "hide".
Creeps me out big time. I must have spoken to him originally (and stupidly signed off with my first name) because sometimes the subject line will read "hi Xxx". I live in a small town so also the possibility I actually know him. Often takes a message or two for me to recognize. Strangely, I don't usually reply to profiles with no pic but this one is somehow always engaging enough to prompt my reply.
Since i don't linger on email and usually suggest a pub meet for drinks/appies . . . it becomes evident quickly because he suggests instead "playing cards at your house" or "campfire on the beach with bottle of wine". Ackkk !!! As if !! Some of his profiles are married and just looking for email friends (so why wanting to meet at my house?). He's a total freak.
On another note - I also once had someone I emailed off here promptly recognize me, said "you're the girl that lives in the house on corner of X and Y - - you're hot lets get together". I was SO SCARED !! I work from home and a few days later my business line (which is in my home) had a strange number leave a text message "What are you wearing". Thank goodness I have two big dogs.
With my original pest though, once I recognized "him" in email I would indicate so and eventually block. Kinda wish I'd have just blocked without a word. Next time. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:52:38 AM | | Treat it like junk mail. Blocking someone takes ONE mouse click. Why are you allowing this to bother you? You can't control other people's actions, either here or anywhere else. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:53:34 AM | | gcdeb, good idea but why I should I suffer and change my ways for him. I guess maybe that could work, but then I wouldn't get any messages from anyone. I really don't do searches and message men, I just rely on the ones I receive. but thanks though! I mean if it gets worse I might have to do that though... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:53:47 AM | 64 people in your block list, holy crap
I would seriously consider going on a subscription site, where members have to pay to message you. I imagine you would get more quality people messaging you than POF.
Since you're in the top 10% of women who get something like 2/3's of all the messages sent by men, I'm not sure there is much you can do to avoid this problem, as long as you're on the free dating sites.
Maybe if you kept reporting the guy, they could IP block him, but then he might get around that too.
You could just keep doing what you been doing, and just keep blocking people wholesale.
Just get in the habit of blocking men right away, don't even bother reading the message if you know from the profile you will not be interested. I don't think there is a limit to the number of people you can block. 64 might be even a too low number for you.
Just block, block, block, block, block. Just keep doing it until you don't have to think about it, like "muscle memory". | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 6:56:10 AM | In case I wasn't clear:
block block block block block block block block block blockblock blockblock block block block block block block blockblock block
That is your new mantra for POF
Everyday when you wake up, it's not how many messages you will read on POF, it is how many retards you will block today.
Get your block list into the high three digits | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:00:02 AM | the long spring,
lol yes I do a block a lot but I shouldn't have to, you know? People should just get the hint and stop the messages. Once in a while I'll send out first messages, and if the men don't respond then I leave it at that. I don't go crazy and keep messaging them. I'm glad there's no limit on how many people you can block though!
I am on match.com right now, but there's not much of a selection there, not having any luck with that. I haven't even logged on in a few days.
Thanks! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:05:17 AM | haha keeps making new ones, smart guy. blocking is for people who are scared.
you should just message him back and see what he wants. ignoring him and blocking him will just piss him off and he will keep doing the same thing. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:19:37 AM |
Posted By: crabs_in_mouth on 7/19/2012 9:05:17 AM
Subject: keeps creating new profiles to message me
Message: haha keeps making new ones, smart guy. blocking is for people who are scared.
you should just message him back and see what he wants. ignoring him and blocking him will just piss him off and he will keep doing the same thing.
That's what makes him a creep. She's not scared; she's not interested.
But yes, OP, block w/o comment. Don't feed the trolls.
Hiding your profile for a spell is a good idea, as is getting used to taking the initiative by emailing men. Most men enjoy hearing from a woman, because it does not happen for them as much. You have a lot more control over who you meet, too. You might even learn to enjoy it.
Relax, block, enjoy. Good luck! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:28:32 AM | Best to just ignore and block those that don't get the "hints"..
I do a block a lot but I shouldn't have to, you know? People should just get the hint and stop the messages. Once in a while I'll send out first messages
People should all just have normal manners and have been raised just as we were, with consideration of others feelings and never evince any neurosis, pathological psychosis or even a touch of narcissism..
When people show/tell you who they are, believe them. The immature extremes may keep trying for attention even if ignored, but that juvenile behavior reveals enough about them to justify the blocks.
Wow, 64 blocks. Probably half of them the same 5 guys. IF I was Johnny Depp would I get a similar response from young ladies like you on here?
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:32:01 AM | how can she not be interested if she doesnt even know the guy, thats what im wondering. you have to talk to people to get to know them.
Ive never blocked anyone even when they were a holes and being annoying. i at least write back to people and have a conversation with them even if im not interested. it would just be rude not to. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:39:01 AM | " if the men don't respond then I leave it at that. I don't go crazy and keep messaging them"
Not to say its right because it isnt that the men go crazy however a pretty girl like you will get tons of messages so you could never get angry because your inbox will be filled with messages from men who want to meet you. Think about it from prospective of the guys that get no messages so if they keep getting rejected its very hard on them. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:41:52 AM | Better just to ignore them and delete the message. Hiding your profile only allows them to intimidate you. If you block them you don't know where they are and you will keep wondering when they will pop up again. I am not sure how the report feature works here, but it does not seem like it is a helpful option from what I read in the forums use it anyway.
Take one opportunity to write him a message telling him you want him to stop contacting you. Save copies of all communications(print them out too). Keep a log. Then forward everything to POF customer service. If he threatens you, you can go to the police and take all the evidence. If police is not helpful you can contact a DA. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:56:13 AM | I used to never block anyone, it's something I started doing a few months ago (been here on and off for 2 years). I don't like to do it, but I guess it just has to be done when someone is rude to me or keeps bugging me.
I do get a lot of messages but I get a lot of rejections too. When I send out messages I would say half of the time they don't respond, and the ones that do respond don't always take me seriously. I've had my share of men who just randomly stop talking, ask for my number and never call, say we will meet and never come through, I've been stood up, I've gotten weird or rude messages, I've gotten "negging" messages, I've had men respond back with with one sentence when I write 3 paragraphs. I have plenty of men just looking for hook-ups when I clearly state I am looking for a long-term relationship. So I guess it is great that I get messages, and I know how men must feel of maybe not getting messages, but it is hard and frustrating for me too. I mean don't get me wrong, I hate to complain, like I'm glad I get messages and go on dates, but it's not always this great experience for me either. I am sorry if there are men who face rejection and don't get any messages, I hope I don't come across as bragging about this in a way. Like "poor me I get so many messages," no I hope I'm not coming across that way!! And I see your point how ignoring messages may be perceived as rude. In my perspective, I don't want to talk to someone unless I truly like them, because I don't want to lead them on. And to be honest I don't have the time to have conversations with multiple people throughout the day.
But thank you everyone for your feedback!! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:59:38 AM |
how can she not be interested if she doesnt even know the guy, thats what im wondering. you have to talk to people to get to know them.
She's not interested in knowing him. By creating more user ID's to get in a few more words, he's just reinforcing her decision. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:02:29 AM | | I'm going to keep my profile and not hide it, keep him on block, if he contacts me again with a new profile and message I will definitely save it. I don't think all of this profiles were deleted though, when I look on my block list I see at least 2 of his profiles there. I will definitely contact POF next time and see if there's something they can do, well let's hope I don't get any more messages from him... But the weird thing is he doesn't sound angry and he's not threatening me, just messages me like it's the first time. strange... | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:09:35 AM | how can I be not interested if I don't even know him?
Well, I've got a good idea of what I'm looking for through my years of dating experience. I can tell by what is written in the profile and the way they write, the kinds of photos they have up, the first messages they send, but sometimes I'm not physically attracted to the person either :/
And sometimes their true colors show without even conversing with them. This one guy sent me a really sweet message, but I just wasn't attracted to him so I ignored it. He then sent me another message cursing me out and telling me I'm crazy for not responding to him and giving him a chance. Geez, well now that just makes me more glad I didn't respond! Some people weed themselves out lol. But I know you don't truly know what someone is like if you never conversed or met, but sometimes you can get a good idea! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:19:21 AM | lol yes I do a block a lot but I shouldn't have to, you know? People should just get the hint and stop the messages.
That's just utopian ideology. There are a lot of things in life people should and shouldn't do, but they're not going to change just because you want them to. The block button is your friend---use it. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:35:19 AM | Here is something you may want to try...
You need to provide this fish with tastier bait than you are ;-)
Create another profile, find real pictures of a good looking thin woman, write a credible "about me" that is slanted towards the things the creep likes (don't overdo it though). Make sure the city of residence of this new profile is the same as his. Given his personality, he'll probably go for someone that is into... intent:"looking for relationship" for:"dating" (he'll figure he has better chances).
He seems to like educated women. Given that you have a master's in psychology, I'd suggest a masters or even a P.h D in a soft science such as linguistics or history (something he won't feel threatened by).
Don't message him using the new profile.... simply view his profile and let POF dangle your new one in front of his nose... he will eventually bite. When he does, reply a few times (get him firmly on the hook) then after a few times tell him you don't think you are a match... he'll have a tantrum... block him. That will give him a new target. Once he does that, let him bang his head against that profile and leave him behind. It's will take a little work and patience but, with a little evil on your part, you could even enjoy it.
For other ideas... read Sun Tzu's, Art of War ;-)
I forgot to mention...
To create a new profile, POF will ask you for an email address.... don't use your normal email address... instead go into your email and look for an email you got from a spammer... give POF one of the many spammer's email addresses ;-)
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Posted: 7/19/2012 8:36:00 AM | There was an ongoing thread about what Dr. Phil said: If you do something repeatedly you are getting something out of that, a payback. However, in your case I would say: If you do something repeatedly and getting the same results that you didn't like then it's time to do something different.
Choices...you could choose to (1) block, (2) ignore or (3) laugh at the weirdness of some people. When you block him...he gets the attention, he won. When you send a message asking to stop, the same thing...he gets the attention, he won. When you report him...he gets the attention, he won. if you hide your profile, he won. The only harm that it will cause you is fill up your inbox. Why would you choose to get affected? What do you think is the best choice?
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Posted: 7/19/2012 9:12:45 AM | Justlooking and i-am-rei,
Lol you guys are great, and I love Dr. Phil. But yes maybe I shouldn't be so annoyed at silly messages. It's true, I should find more humor in things instead of getting all mad. But that's why I didn't respond, because that just gives him more power if I did. I guess there's not much I can do, too bad POF can't block IP addresses. Oh well, I thought maybe there was some other way. But your right, I cannot let people like this get me down :) | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 10:17:18 AM | Personally, I would just find it amusing and not let it bother me, but I'm also a big guy and have less to fear than a woman being pursued by some of these guys.
But, when people ask why guys do this... Well how many times has a woman on the forums posted about a guy that she ignored and he kept messaging her for months, never giving up, she eventually found it endearing, and agreed to meet him. And then she asked everybody on the forum what to do about this latest jerk. And then rants about how all guys are jerks...
Guys do it because it gets results, just like any other method. | |
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