| | I choose to work a job with little pay......Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | Are there women out there that have the ability to look past my paycheck? For me personally work is just a means to an end. I have made "real money" and I no longer want that kind of responsibility in my life. When my loved ones want or need me I want to be available. This appears to be a crime to many, I don't get it. | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 7:16:50 AM | Looking for a women to look past your paycheck? Funny joke, next you will be looking for a women who is smart.
Im looking for someone who will see past my bad looks and except me for who i am. oh damn what was i thinking that doesnt exsist either.
I think ill have better luck finding a pot of gold at the end of a rainbow, or a real unicorn. i bet i would have better luck finding a live dinosaur also.
damn world is F-ed up these days | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 7:20:31 AM | Some people measure success by the size of a pay check and drive themselves in careers they don't love in order to define themselves in this manner. Most people mature and amend their measures of success to reflect what is important to them for quality of life. They might remain in their lifetime career but reduce their hours, they might retrain and take a position of employment in a field they enjoy but it's still a balance.
No one can live without an source of income but as long as you are self-sufficient, I don't see what else matters. | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 7:22:34 AM | An ex of mine once told me that my job is not really a job, after all he gets up at 6am and wheels wheelbarrows full of sand.....that's hard work he told me. He also told me he earns thousands from just one job, and he does, I know that.
I work as a personal carer with people with disabilities and older folks. Sure my pay is below average, but it is very rewarding.
The downside is the emotional effect this job has on me.
I feel more satisfied having cared about disabled/aged person than caring about someone's paver's looking nice.
One day my ex will need the services I provide and his paving day's will be long gone.
Now pass me that suppositry..... | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 7:26:49 AM | People like doing nice things. Unless you have a ton of savings, are born into money, etc., it's really hard to do a ton of nice things with a low paying job. For instance, I enjoy fine dining multiple times per week, going on at least one vacation per month, and flying somewhere at least in two, going to a sporting event a week, bar and restaurant hopping during the weekend, driving in convertibles in the summer, etc.
Because of that, I worked my way to a position where I would make enough income to do that and at the same time, have enough job freedom to be able to take off whenever I feel like. So if I added someone else in my life that didn't have much of an income, there's a chance that I would then have to pay entirely for her as well, which would slow down the number of things that I am able to do (or else do them without her, which wouldn't be good for the relationship). Thus, it's good for me to find someone similarly self sufficient.
I've met a lot of women like this as well - it makes perfect sense and is a reasonable way to approach dating. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:27:48 AM | | That is my thoughts as well, I choose to make the people in my life my first priority. In today's world employers don't tolerate that kind of thinking, it's all about the bottom line. Other than making millionaires into billionaires these jobs have any real value. I have been used long enough. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:29:06 AM |
Looking for a women to look past your paycheck? Funny joke, next you will be looking for a women who is smart.
No next he'll be looking for women who goes after a man with a good personality :p
(((sarcasim)))
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:30:06 AM | Yes, a lot of women are not interested in your paycheck. Smart women will observe to see if you live w/in your means and are financially responsible, but they do not care about your wealth or assets or lack thereof.
If you are meeting women who seem to mind, then figure out what might be attracting you to them.
I recently met someone who worked as a sandwich delivery person. That would have been a non-issue--except he would not tell me what he did until we met, and then he went into a long, boring, self-promoting monologue about how he ended up in that job. And by long, I mean at least 45 minutes. It was incredibly painful. I was so bored and irritated (it was not a "good story," which would have held me spell-bound) I almost blurted out over him, "Just tell me what the f*ck you do, because I'm about to reach over and smack you!" Thinking back on this, I kept thinking he would get somewhere with the story--but no, it was just endless. OMG. At least I had food in front of me :)
Yeah, don't apologize for what you do. Take pride in your choices. If anyone has a problem with that, it is HER problem. Move on!
good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:30:31 AM | Then you are financially set for retirement, stashed away a huge amount of cash for your golden years and have decided to take it easy and not deal with corporate stresses after a rewarding career?
Very cool.
If not, I can see where a woman may be concerned when ten years from now you may not be able to work your 'fun' job or need additional income, where will that come from? If you are looking for a long term partner then who gets to pay the bills if you get sick or are not financially liquid?
My Ex husband has an advanced engineering degree yet after burning out working 60+ hour weeks he decided to drive trucks for a living. He is basically screwed if he gets sick (no health insurance) and has blown through all his retirement money. I would not want to be in his shoes when he gets a nasty wake up call at 65.
Is he an awful person, no. But he would rather enjoy now than think about later. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:48:06 AM | Gavroche -
Actually, the majority of my closest friends have made very similar choices. In many cases, it was because they valued emotional or even intellectual satisfaction -- over the size of a paycheck, and their benefits.
In other cases – a lot – it was because they were gifted in the arts, or in similar areas that just do not pay all that well. Actors, a lot of writers, artists, musicians, etc.
Those are the finest people I know. I respect them more than the ones who instantly (hopefully?) assumed you have “all of your eggs lined up for retirement” or “put enough money away for later.”
So, yes, those people do exist. Just as there are those who place a lot more importance on “$$$.” There are all types on this planet. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 7:48:46 AM | Yes, what import said... As long as you are self-sufficient, that is all that matters. I think it is better to spend time with the family and actually live life than it is to work 60 hours a week to acquire "stuff". Although, it does cost a little money to do fun things and to participate in enriching experiences...but that is why both members of the couple work;).
I was a stay at home mom for most of the past 20 years and am now going to school so that I can become a nurse, and the main reason I am doing that instead of going ton school to be a teacher is b/c nurses start out making about 20 k a year more than teachers, and I have to get my retirement built up BC I have none... But I plan on living frugally and saving the majority of it, so that I dont have to keep working into my 90s, lol. | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 8:04:35 AM | Op,i dont know what your pay packet's got to do with anyone else?
When i was dating,i can honestly say i never,ever discussed money with my dates.......
As long as you're supporting yourself and not sponging off anyone,i dont see why its anyones' business. | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 8:58:49 AM |
For me personally work is just a means to an end.
This would bother me more than how much you made.
When my kids were growing up I always stressed to them to find something you love to do and figure out a way to make a living doing it.
I find that people in rewarding careers where they are excited and fulfilled are happier in general. | |
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 9:02:59 AM | | There are women out there but they're usually older and wiser - as long as you can at least take care of yourself, as in , aren't expecting to mooch off her. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 9:10:22 AM | You can handle your retirement years on your own?
You don't need someone on board to assist you with that?
If that is the case, then no problem.
Look for women who are in the same boat. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 9:20:00 AM | If you live pay check to pay check, and can not take care of all your needs, emergencies, and all those other things that life throws are you, and must either ask for help or unable to control your own life, then of course it will be a problem for many.
I can not tell you how many look for security and the one that will take care of them, not because of deep love and affection, but much more because they can not take care of themselves, and god forbid, another that might need their help, so they seek those that will do for them.
If you seek an equal and nothing more, willing to share with your week to week living, or know that there may be many times that nothing happens financially, socially, and emotionally, because all your efforts are tied up with finding ways to make it to the next pay check, then that is fine. But if you want to know and enjoy those that are independent, financially secure and building for the time that they can play when wanted, you will be looked at in a totally different way.
Those that I have dated and had no insurance, no savings, could not keep a job, and wondered why I was annoyed when they looked to me to help them, because they have made a choice to not help themselves, seemed so dismayed that my choice was to find a financial equal over being a guardian to someone that could not take care of themselves. No one says that you need to make more than I do, or to carry a five figure job, but for heaven's sake, be able to walk by my side, hold your own, and not need someone else to pay your bills, your dates, your car payments, your gas, on and on, and know that you are driving without insurance of any type, and if your health is hurting, society must take care of you.
So OP.....you can look at it your way, and that is your choice, but just as you do not want to have others judge you for not having enough to more than get by, so should you not judge those that feel that working as hard as they have, for all that they do enjoy, deserve others that share the same thought process and abilities.
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 9:38:37 AM | I never cared about a man's paycheck, nor his choice of occupation, but it was important to me that he did, at least, do some type of work, because I have little to no tolerance for a lazy man.
When I met my future husband, he was wiped out financially from his divorce, and worked in a facotry that paid mediocre wages. "Wiped out fiancially" is maybe not even strong enough, he was actually still in debt, come to think of it. I didin't care, because it was his personality and charm that I found attractive. Later, I was pleasantly surprised to learn that he's a work-aholic (in a good way) so he still has a mediocre job, a profitable business, and after twenty years of marriage, we're doing better than most, financially. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 9:48:40 AM | This appears to be a crime to many, I don't get it.
By saying that it appears to be a crime, you can appear to be the victim. Brilliant!
We all have our own criteria for whatever we're looking for in a date or a partner. You choose this, they choose that. This applies to both men and women, of course. You will never get to control other people’s personal choices. I think you'd be pretty darn pissed if somebody even suggested they should be able to control how you define whatever you want.
Meanwhile back at the ranch, I presume that whatever you're looking for here, it involves women meeting a certain threshold of attractiveness AS YOU DEFINE IT. Oh but when women do the same thing, it appears to be a crime.
Like a sir!
-.O
Are there women out there that have the ability to look past my paycheck?
Stated as if most of us are severely handicapped when it comes to making informed decisions independent of whatever you wanted from us as a man. Perhaps your real problem doesn't anything to do with our perceived incompetence, but our plain unwillingness in the face of your perceived sexism.
Muah.
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| I choose to work a job with little pay......
Posted: 7/19/2012 9:52:02 AM | Anyone can look past your paycheck if you are only casually dating, I usually go dutch and don't spend what I do not have so it would be nice to have a partner on the same page.
But again, long term you need to consider how you expect to live life as an elderly person. I hope to work hard now so that I can afford to volunteer and travel as I get older. 55 is just so young to only live paycheck to paycheck when your life expectancy could be 90. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 9:57:09 AM | | Perhaps some women at your age would read into it as more of a mid life crisis than an epiphany of conscience. I want to be there for my family is a nice gesture, if your well off & can afford to. I think women would view you as financial unstable if your living paycheck to paycheck & or just getting by though. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 10:15:24 AM | | It's not your paycheck, per say, it's what you do with it. Are you living above your means? Meaning, Do you have champagne taste on a beer budget? Suffice to say, how you manage your money says a lot about you as a person. And it's not a gender specific issue. | |
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