| | Please review my profile. Promise I won't bite!Page 1 of 1 | Hey all, just looking for some honest reviews of my profile. I get some good responses from it, in the form of unsolicited emails, but, I find that I do not get many responses from the women I email. I realize there are many reasons for this, from simple lack of attraction to more complicated issues. However, it can't hurt to have the best profile possible in my opinion. So any and all feedback is appreciated.
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Posted: 7/20/2012 5:35:38 PM | If it aint broke, don't fix it.
I would change the Fish Personality to "None", it just adds clutter.
It is working because of the primary pic. That will fall of as more women recognize it. You should try for about 3 that you can rotate weekly.
<-- click my History for my pic guidelines.
Enter your Interests so they search properly, sentences belong in About Me. "Photoshop, Cultures".
DO NOT SHOUT!
Delete:
Happy fishing! ;) Assumes failure and invites them to move on.
You may need to work on messaging skills. What are your messages like?
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Posted: 7/20/2012 6:41:28 PM | Thank you for the input. I've made the changes you suggested.
As for my messages, I say: "Hello soAndso, you seem like you might be (good traits go here).
(insert comments about things I like about her and things we have in common)
(fairly standard closing that states that I think we have a lot in common and enough different to keep things interesting. Check out my profile and tell me what you think. With a few things about being friends if things don't work out thrown in for good measure)
(my name)".
I'm sure these could use some work too. It's hard though. It's hard to convey all the right things in a short message... especially as most women seem to prefer a bare bones approach to profile writing... not giving me much to work with ;) | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:05:39 PM | I like it.
That headline is over-used. Change it up.
Last pic, Mr. Obvious says add "Me at right" to the end of the caption. Second pic is not-so-great. Bad exposure. Got any pics with a nice, toothy smile? Use those. I like the main pic.
Simplify your interests. Try for one-word entries, as they are searchable by others. Try "comedy" instead of "stand up comedy" and "camping" instead of "cottages and" get it? More readily searchable terms.
I like the "about me" except for the inefficient use of white space, too much scrolling involved.
I like the "first date" too.
Use "mail settings" to filter foe distance, ege-range and encounters you are NOT open to. Want a pen-pal? No? Say so here. Good luck.
PS: About your messages, it's like a re'sum'e, you should tailor it to the person you are trying to impress. Women can smell a "standard" message a mile away. I like the "check out my profile and tell me what you think" in fact, I am going to use that. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:14:53 PM | First, as I said if it aint broke don't fix it!
Age, distance and basic settings like Talk/Email, Hang Out, will hurt your responses from people looking for LTR's and Dating. There are numerous reasons not to use those, unless your Inbox or dating schedule is getting full.
For messages:
Keep it short and simple.
Don't mention how attractive/hot they are.
Don't ask them to look at your profile or message you.
Pose one or two simple questions they can answer.
Here is an example of a simple and successful message:
I sent this to a Steelers fan with no pets:
(The Steelers and Browns are arch rivals.)
(Had a date in less than 24 hours.)
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I root for the Steelers, as long as they aren't playing the Browns.
Is that okay?
Not allergic to dogs are you?
firstname
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Another successful one:
Wait a minute!
You say "I don't believe a house can be a home without pets."
But your profile says "No Pets".
What is up with that?
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Posted: 7/20/2012 7:58:17 PM |
That headline is over-used. Change it up.
Yeah, I figured it probably was. Just changed to it today. I'll replace it and I'll simplify my interests as well. The pictures are something I need more of. I'll get to work on that ;)
PS: About your messages, it's like a re'sum'e, you should tailor it to the person you are trying to impress. Women can smell a "standard" message a mile away. I like the "check out my profile and tell me what you think" in fact, I am going to use that.
You're welcome for that ;) As for the messages being like a resume... I do tailor them to the person I'm sending the message to. There is only about 25% standardization to my messages. Things I always want to say.
Thanks for the help! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 8:01:34 PM | | _campfires_ : I definitely like the simplicity of your messages. Why do you believe that it is a bad thing to say "take a look at my profile and tell me what you think"? Does that seem like I need their approval? Now that I say it, it kind of does seem that way... and nothing good can come of a approval seeking ;) | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 8:16:34 PM | Correct, needy and demanding as well. You are giving them an ORDER.
When you pose a simple question with "?", you achieve the same result.
This whole thing is about subtle subconscious psychological reactions.
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Posted: 7/21/2012 5:09:38 AM |
This whole thing is about subtle subconscious psychological reactions.
Agreed! Wish I had taken more psychology in University, lol.
One more question for you about messages. Do you think it's a good idea to attach your picture to the message? Do you attach more than 1 picture? (assuming you have more than one) Do you attach them all? | |
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Posted: 7/21/2012 6:22:11 AM | If their Mail Settings say "Must have a picture", I attach one, so that it does not automatically attach all of them.
One of the reasons that your primary pic (in thumbnail view) is so important is because the thumbnail is displayed in their Inbox. | |
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