| | Friends after a break up. Is it possible?Page 1 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | My ex and I, got along great while we where togther. But then later it whent sour,
don't know what it was that caused the break up. But we did say to be friends and to be there for each other. So is it wrong to still try to be a friend to give support and concern and just ask how are you? And say its been awhile would you mind to visit
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 7:09:33 PM | Demand it. Ask how she is doing but don't ask it, if you know what I mean. You said it went sour meaning you didn't realize when the getting along wasn't good enough? My ex will basically report to me when shit goes wrong in her life because she knows if I press her I'll trip her up in a lie. She was never a lier during our 15 year relationship. Only when she started dating after the divorce. I was never really her friend, I was her daddy and hubby. We had a great patnership.
What kind of support? Why not just say you need someone to talk to? Make her feel like you need her if you don't really. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 7:10:39 PM | It's not wrong. I just don't see myself wasting that sort of time on a woman who decided that I wasn't worth her affections.
That's just time that I could be spending on a more worthy prospect. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 7:17:09 PM | Of course it's possible to be friends after a breakup. My former boyfriend (2007 to 2009) and I are going hiking tomorrow. When we were a couple, Dan and I had fun hiking, downhill skiing and lifting weights together.
Right after the breakup I found it too painful to be around Dan. But I got over that as time passed. I look forward to seeing Dan tomorrow as a friend.
As friends, I helped Dan by rewriting his resume. Last year when I had an early airplane flight out of Seattle, I stayed in Dan's guest room. Dan kindly drove me to the airport at half past zero o'clock. We will be friends for life.
I am friends with my ex-husband. We see eye-to-eye on parenting our daughter. I help him with landscaping projects, and we water each other's yards when we are on vacation. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 7:19:19 PM | | I think it is OK to remain friends as long as your not expecting to get together down the road, remember you guys split for a reason and there is someone better out there for you. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 7:23:24 PM | | Well we both shared a loss I was by her side 100%. Doing everything I could. She also wa there for me to. I email her obce ib awhile vut haven't got a responce back. I let her kbow every time I'mhr always will be there if she needa a friend. But I will frtry to be a bit more stern and direct to her. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:02:26 PM | | I am friends with two of my ex's and a few guys that I dated.... it is possible... sometimes you just aren't right for the dating/romantic relationship... but make great friends... | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:09:21 PM | | I'm friends with 3 of my ex's and if another one popped back into my life, I wouldn't ignore him either. I think it depends completely on the kind of the relationship you had and the kind of break-up you had. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:33:10 PM | I am not FRIENDS with any of my ex's.. yet if they contact me I AM friendly... Friends means a certain level of trust and caring.. Myself, I fail to see the reasons why I would want to try to piss up a rope. Maybe you could enlighten me.. Ever read about Prometheus? Why let some one be your Zeus?
The punishment of Prometheus as a consequence of the theft is a major theme of his mythology, and is a popular subject of both ancient and modern art. Zeus, king of the Olympian gods, sentenced the Titan to eternal torment for his transgression. The immortal Prometheus was bound to a rock, where each day an eagle, the emblem of Zeus, was sent to feed on his liver, only to have it grow back to be eaten again the next day. (from wikipedia)
In the Western classical tradition, Prometheus became a figure who represented human striving, particularly the quest for scientific knowledge, and the risk of overreaching or unintended consequences.
You are pissing up a rope. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:46:05 PM | A few things seem troubling to me.
OP's name is "Heartless12"
There seems to be no reason to insist on
remaining in contact even, never mind friendship
because there are no kids!
and ....
I will frtry to be a bit more stern and direct to her.
....seems like some major control over another person
is desired for what can only be an unhealthy reason, from
where I stand, anyway ! | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:47:31 PM | | Yes, it's possible if the breakup wasn't bitter and both parties are mature enough to realize that while they may not be good as partners, they may be good as friends. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:48:44 PM | | Yes Romeo I do still love and care for her very much. And Im not looking to gain nothing out of her like getting back togther or FwB. Just a good friendship. See she was the very first one I conected with on all kinds of lvls,she actualy was the first one to see myself worth.. Plus I have show her that love comes in many forms not just sex. Like what she was use to. And shes not the only one i think about can care for. But with her I was the one who stood there let her take her agravation out on no matter who or what caused her to be upset. I helled back or raised a fingure when she would explode on me. I understood where she was comming from at all time. And we where able to read each other and some times new what the other one was thinking. But as im concerned all im asking is to go out some where catch up on things talk, or just have fun. But some times i feel like giving up. even being on here i feel like giving up.. and wounder if its actualy worth being on here looking for friends also. i miss her alot and just miss the laughs. and she is a memeber on here so i dont know if she will read this or not or a few other people who i would still would like to try to have a friendship with. So i think alot bout this question so i just got ballsy and posted. and i think you all who replied gives me some hope maybe some day i will get something back for all the good i have shown. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 8:51:26 PM | | Absolutely! I contact my ex-wife once in a while or I'll run into her now and then. We get caught up and then part. It's nice that we can see each other now and then. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:07:21 PM | | Exactly.. But how can I go bout it showing the ones I want to be friends with that? When I do email em I either get no responce most of the time or what do oyu want you just want sex. Which is not the case.Or is it that thye might feel so bad about how they whent about breaking up with me that they feel ashamed. Cause thye pertty much got down right mean and I was like in a whirl wind trying to figure out what is going on and what caused it. So thats why I picked my name is do to all the harshness done to me. but yet I still care enought to try to show them hey Im your friend not a bad guy to cause you harm. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:15:04 PM | Stalking is a crime. Perhaps you should leave those that want to be left alone...alone. I am getting the impression that your "friendship" is not welcome and you are trying to force yourself on this one and/or others. Stop Stalking!
I highly doubt they are not talking to you because they feel ashamed. They are not talking to you because they want nothing to do with you. Are you so dense you cannot get that through your head. They probably got "down right mean" because it was the only way they could make you go away...but, yet and still, you seem to have not. Again...Stop Stalking!
I am completely prepared to see another thread by unknown female talking about the restraining order she's had to take out on a crazy ex that would not leave her alone. Just saying.... | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:17:16 PM | | burn the damn bridge, There an ex for a reason. :-p on the serious side, yes you can be friends but make sure it stays that way between the both of ya. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:27:17 PM | I think it's possible. I feel if you took that much time getting to know them then just because you weren't romantically compatible doesn't mean you can't still be friends.
Learn to think outside the box and don't be shallow. Sometimes the greatest healing can come from our exes. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:30:13 PM | I'm also friends with some exes.
One of them, he dumped me, but then begged me to be friends, it took me a long while but I did, and now we are great friends.
On a side note, he is married, and lets just say their marriage is like war of the roses , so I kind of like how he does seem to feel bad or regret that he dumped me. Even if they divorced I'd never go back to him, he's better as a friend anyways than a bf. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:31:12 PM | Sounds like you caused the friendship to break up. This is why you are feeling bad or sad:( Life is short just call her up and let her know you are thinking about her. Having a name heartless, just kind of sucks. I hope the best for you and remember to always tell someone you love them! Because you might have wished you did, and now they are in heaven.
You might then have lots of regrets. Wish you the best! | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:35:30 PM | | As for being called a stalker well one im not going to thier work every day or sending themn countless emails everyday. all im asking if its possible to be friends with exes no matter what the case was for the brake up and two the very last time i heard from her she was happy for me that i was doing good and stuff and wanted to visit but here lately i sent out three email in the last four mounths just asking hey how are you? is every thing good? hows work? and thats it. but to me i get the imperssion fro myou that any woman with a ex needs to put a order out on him just cause they say hey once in awhile.. and yes i do take a bit of offense to oyur coment.. cause one you dont know the whole story two im trying to keep everything nice and friendly as possible cause she is a memeber of pof and im not trying to make her out to be bad. wich she is not. shes very sweet and kind hearted after waht we been through i care and worry that she might ned up some where like she was before i met her. and i am think full for all the possitive remarks every one has made but yours. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:38:36 PM | | Yeah I picked my name not causee of my ex. but cause off of the bad realationships i had before. as for my ex this was the best realationship i have ever had. and to quote the song i would have not missed it for the world. and if i had a chance to do it all over yes i would have done some things just a bit different. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 9:44:07 PM | | It is possible. It may not always happen right away but with the proper agreements in place, it can happen. Especially when you're young. | |
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| Friends after a break up. Is it possible?
Posted: 7/21/2012 10:38:15 PM |
as for my ex this was the best realationship i have ever had. and to quote the song i would have not missed it for the world. and if i had a chance to do it all over yes i would have done some things just a bit different.
So, you don’t really want to just be friends, you want to rekindle the relationship, and you're trying to do it under false pretenses. And she (or them) isn’t interested in rekindling anything with you. Respect that and back off. | |
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