cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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| | I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I doPage 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Its from women I'm not attracted to at all.
If its because I'm unappealing or unattractive then I'll delete this and try other avenues in dating.
But looks aside..What do women want,really? I take care of mysef. I'm healthy,go to the gym,tall,have all my teeth and hair,work for a living....I sold my car recently but that's another story.
I've wrote to women that interested me on some level but no replies.
Did I say something annoying or irritating in my profile? This isnt a pity party,it's a legit inquiry as to why I've had no success on is site.
Be brutally honest please | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 5:27:04 PM | Food for thought...
- The first photo has strange lighting to me for some reason. Picture 2 seems better in that sense. Just a subjective opinion. In general, your pictures are good.
- You don't have time for negativity, so don't entertain it. Don't give space to what you're not looking for. I would suggest deleting these 5 pieces:
"I’m kinda picky so I totally get it if you’re too. You don’t reply to my message = you’re not interested - it is what it is! I don’t reply to all messages either - for which I want to apologize in advance - but it doesn’t make sense leading anyone on and wasting their time"
"Don't bother contacting me if you have one photo of yourself. If you don't have photos of yourself in this age of technology than you're either lying or you're hiding some thing"
"...as I have no time for negativity whatsoever"
"I'm an active person and don't like wasting away on the couch" (redundant, you've said this already)
"Thats about it.." - feels a bit weak to end with
- Include these (and ideally some more - they are searchable to women) in your "Interests" list: tennis,softball,basketball
- You could elaborate a bit on the "first date" but that's up to you.
Good luck! | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 6:16:58 PM | OK, brutal honesty: First, dump the headline!
Think of a newspaper headline. It has to be eye-catching and grab peoples attention in order to stand out from the incredibly long list of headlines in the list. If that headline were on the front of a newspaper, would you buy it? Same for your main pic. It should be eye-catching and stand out from the crowd (and remember, it has to clearly show your face).
I would add at least one full-body shot to show off your physique and fashion sense. That should help but remember, no shirtless pics! (rules)
More interests. Anywhere from 9 to 15. Remember, interests are searchable (for common interests) so use simple, easily searchable terms, preferably one or two word terms: exercise, working out, bird watching, antiquing, you get the idea.
Re-write the about me. Accentuate the positive, ELIMINATE the negative. Cut the first two "paragraphs" completely and start at "My pics . . ." Don't talk about what you don't want, talk about what you DO want. A couple of points: you say you have "no time for negativity" but there is an awful lot of negativity in your profile. Contradictory. Also crunch it up a little. Fewer little paragraphs in favor of a couple of longer ones. Add a paragraph about the qualities you are looking for in a potential partner.
"Drinks" is not a great first date suggestion. She can do that anytime, anywhere, without you, and probably for free. Try for a couple of good, solid, positive, interesting suggestions. Show that you put a little thought into it.
Since I don't know what your messages say, I can't comment, but other people on POF are better at addressing that then I am.
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 6:23:20 PM | | Being honest. You make me feel like I actually have a shot on this site, lol! I ain't gay or anything but dude! I'm surprised you are even on this forum. You seem to have your shit together, you are tall and a decent lookin dude. My profile on the other hand has rendered quite a few responses form the ladies. Although, I use allot of over the top humor and shock value. I don't know, seems to work to some degree so I go with it. keep on truckin brother. | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 7:39:00 PM | | You are good looking and didn't say anything that annoyed me. The 2nd photo looks the best. I think you already know the answer that if you are not attracted to everyone, everyone is not attracted to you. You only have to find one that both of you feel attracted to each other and find out if you also like each other. Don't give up on here yet. | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 8:29:08 PM | Yes, take the negative statements out.
You sound hyperactive and demanding . You don't sound sensitive and romantic.
Remember, men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.
You might channel your energy into learning something women like such as social or ballroom dancing lessons.
Then you will meet women who are as active and into fitness as your are.
Good luck to you.
Sue | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/23/2012 8:36:52 PM | Wow,Sue.. Well in this day and age ballroom dancing isnt some thing most women in my age group have interest in. Thanks for the suggestion.
And IMO I'm not very demanding at all.
Also where was the negativity? I don't recall any kind of negativity in my intro | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/24/2012 8:57:25 AM | | yea, im having the same issue, alot of pretty women view my profile, i even message then and i get no replies.It really sucks women on here are so freaking hard to get regardless.I don't know what they want either. I'm thinking about giving up. | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
Msg: 22 | |
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| I get viewed a lot but do not receive many messages and when I do
Posted: 7/24/2012 7:02:03 PM | Well...tbh Im a little bored with your profile its almost like you have nothing else to offer but your looks..so what you coach for kids, workout and go to concerts who cares?... anybody can say that what else about you is unique compared to every other guy that claims the same things you do?
We get it your active youve mentioned that three or four times...
You dont really talk about what type of person you are
And you have not stated what you are looking for in a woman. Isnt that why your here? for a woman?
I dont know what youve had before but all I see is a boring pretty boy...sorry thats my opinion :/
The last sentence is sweet so I know you something else in there that you should put on your profile show more personality and you should do fine :)
Happy fishing | |
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cj22a
| | Joined: 7/9/2012
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