| | Lost and frustratedPage 1 of 1 | | Hi, if your reading this please help! I've gotten plenty of reviews and nothing. Is there something wrong with my profile? Ive spent hours on it and looked for tips on it and it seems everytime I work on it I get even less veiws! Any help would be great. | |
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| Lost and frustrated
Posted: 7/25/2012 3:52:52 PM | | List your interests. Not some quote. You're losing all your match views because you've listed none. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 3:56:48 PM | You have your interests written down like bullet points, it doesn't sound natural. Just put them into sentences.
Also i have noticed your 20 and your age range for people to contact you is 22. That's perfectly fine but maybe open it up a bit more up, maybe go as far as 30, at least then you will have more to pick and choose from. Maybe that's why your getting reviews and no messages because there out of your age range so they get automatically blocked. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 4:22:32 PM | | Thanks for the helps guys. I tried to update it like you said. Anything wrong with what I put up? | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 4:29:55 PM | Lose the pics with shades and the hat. You need EIGHT solid pics. Fulllength and closeup. Inside and out. No shades no hats no more then one drinking pic, no group shots or pics with other women. You need at least 4 that would be legal as your main pic so you can rotate them weekly. The one with shades isnt for example. It needs to have both eyes visible.
I can not overemphasize the need for EIGHT solid pics.
Now your profile. IDelete the current interest section. Your not getting it. These are comma delimited fields like your interests so people can SEARCH ON THEM. Think something like "hiking, swimming, movies, video games, family, sports, football" etc etc etc..
I hate the rest of the profile. Maybe its just me. Look you are SELLING YOURSELF. You are trying to get women to see things they would enjoy doing with you. Compatibilities, talk about you as a person , talk about things you would enjoy doing with a gal, the kind of gal you desire etc... That whole long detailes about work first paragraph should be a sentence long get rid of all the running fiber on telephone poles, name anme of the company hours ya work blah blah blah boring crap.
Mostthe bullet points should be in interests. Which you leaves ya like a 3 sentence boring profile.
You should be trying to sound FUN. Like you have a sense of humor. You are alive and like to get out and go places and do things not just watch video games and talk about work..
Man at your age on here there are like 10+ guys for every female . Competiton is FIERCE. You need to put up the best EIGHT pics you possibly can! You need to write a unique FUN SOUNDING profile! Not just a boring 1 paragraph list of interests if you expect to get replies. GREAT pics can get you more views. The profile seals the deal and gets replies. Think of things GIRLS WOULD LIKE! Will you dance? If not TAKE DANCE LESSONS NOW! Do you like music? What kind? Do you go watch live music? Where? Do you have favorite restaurants? Name two. Gals like to eat and sit out on the patio. Can you cook hopefully? Write a profile trying to sell yourself as someone that would be fun to meet and go out with. Yours has more about running phucking electrical wiring that I guarantee almost ZERO WOMEN WILL READ PAST. They dont give a shit about that. Your first two or three sentences have to HOOK THEM and make you sound interesting and fun. That first couple sentences set the stage and hopefully gets them interested. As soon as they hit a dull/boring part they will bail every time.
Your whole work related talk should be something like "I am currently an apprentice electrician. I enjoy my work but look forward to coming home to relax and live life". THATS ALL THEY CARE ABOUT! Ya got a good job. And you are fun when you get home. Perfect...
Ok I'll stop for now. Come grab me if you want more. I am NOT picking on ya. But you have to sell yourself on that profile. You are trying to write things that a women will be interested in and make her want to meet you. You are 20 years old. They want a cute FUN guy.
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 4:41:55 PM | | No man, Thank you for the input. Its definitly what I needed. I'll work on the pics and I did a little upgrade to my profile if you got a second. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 4:50:22 PM | Your headline: "Send me a message if you want to talk" OMG. So, so needy and they know what to do, man. Change it up entirely.
Use the "goofy" pic for your main picture. It's more visually interesting, there's no girl cut out of it, you're not two-fisting your drinks in it and it is more eye-catching. The goofy grin helps too.
"Wants to date but nothing serious" and "Hang out" are not helping you. An overwhelming majority of women on POF are looking for relationships. If they didn't stop at your headline then they stopped reading here. ALWAYS use "Looking for a relationship" and either "Dating" or "Long-term" preferably "Long-term" and here's why: If you're "looking for a relationship" and you meet a woman that decides she just wants to take you home for the night, it's fairly easy on YOUR part to swing from "L.F.A.R." to a one-night stand. But if you meet a woman who just wants to "hang out" but you really, REALLY like her, it is MUCH more difficult to swing HER the other way from "hang out" to "long-term". Get it?
Interests are searchable by other members (for common interests) so use shorter, simpler terms for your interests: "Mini Golf" instead of "Mini Put Put" ("Putt" has 2 t's), "Ice Cream" instead of "Going out for Ice Cream", "Beach" instead of "Going to the Beach", etc.
In your "about me" you have a bunch of spelling, grammar, syntax, punctuation and "tense" errors. Use a word processor, use the spell-checker, then proof read since the spell checker does not catch errors where you spell the word right but use it wrong, which you have done. When your text is all correct and pretty, cut & paste it into your profile. Don't name the company you work for. Lose "Well, anything else you want to know or if you want to talk, go ahead and message me.", they know what to do.
Also, I am going to agree with the previous poster who didn't like the content. I was going to mention it but my review was already getting wordy. The other member is right. Period.
Judgement call here but, you might make a good, strong suggestion gor a first date. Many women want a man to "take charge" of this. If they don't like your suggestion, they can suggest an alternative and you can avoid the "What do you want to do?" conversation.
Someone made the point to me that it may not be a good idea to filter your messages using "mail settings". You can easily filter your inbox messages later. Just remove ALL the filters, then delete messages from people you don't want to meet.
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Posted: 7/25/2012 5:44:32 PM | | Well I tried my best. Will definitly add more photos when I have some. Actually got 1 reply so far. Blaming it on the help you all have given me. Thank you! | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 6:43:51 PM | | If anyone else who veiws this and checks out my profile, please, feel free to still pick on me for my idiotic mistakes. I really do like the help! I hate looking like a idiot. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 6:56:18 PM | | Lose everything after "I am a great guy once you get to know me". | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 7:17:48 PM | Its TONS better. Still needs a spell/grammar check. But so far you did OK. Its like night and day. It can still get a little better.
Think about the things a 20 year old gal is thinking about.
Some may be thinking about school. But tons are thinking "Wow I wonder does he dress cool? Can he afford to take me to the new Batman movie on Friday? I wonder if he likes to party on the weekend? " I wonder if he likes to go to the mall". This is not an indictment of all 19/20 year old women DO NOT WRITE ME WHINING.
But generally they are not thinking 20 years down the road right now exactly. They are thinking next weekend. Focus on things fun for next weekend. Partying at the pool is good. DANCING is huge usually. Parties are good. Think of things 20 year old gals near you do? Places they party. Places they go. Make it clear YOU WANT TO GO THERE ALSO! lol
List your last 3 favorite movies and one you want to see soon. Name a couple local places you enjoy going and name one you have never been but cant wait to go to. Paint a picture for her of things and places you enjoy so she can hopefully picture herself there also. You mention you like country music. Say you have been dieing to take swing dance lessons and would love to have a partner to do this wiith or something. Come on man think outside the box here a little. Heck swing dance lessons is a blast anyway if you dance country I HIGHLY recommend the venture even by yourself. Its a GREAT way to meet other gals and there are usually way more women then men unlike POF.
Good Luck buddy!
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 8:08:01 PM | | The problem is really the male to female ratio. Most girls won't message you back no matter how good your profile is. The really attractive ones get 10-15 messages a day, so its usually no your fault. Fix you profile up as best you can, after that, its a number game | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 8:28:17 PM | | I disagree. The goal is to fix your profile and your emails so that you are the best out of the 10-15 they get a day. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 8:32:59 PM | | I think you look kinda cute, you need to shower before taking a pic. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 8:45:59 PM |
The problem is really the male to female ratio. Most girls won't message you back no matter how good your profile is. The really attractive ones get 10-15 messages a day, so its usually no your fault. Fix you profile up as best you can, after that, its a number game Total bullzhit. Sure the hotties get a lot of mail but they reply to the ones they find attractive and have interesting fun profiles. If you are not getting replies its because your pics or profile are not as strong as you think they are. Guys on here COMMONLY way way overestimate how attractive they are. If I had a NICKLE for every very average or even way below average guy that posted in these forums claiming he KNEW it wasnt the pics because he was attractive I could a round of tequila shots for everyone that reads this thread.
If you sound boring or they dont find you attractive they dont reply. Gee what a shocker that is. I dated gals on here that got 70 to 100 messages a day and they could go through them in 20 minutes. Most they glanced at the profile for 10 seconds max. If they liked the pics they read the profile until they saw to many red flags or deal killers.. Tons of messages never got read after glancing at the profiles. Would never take more then 30 minutes to go through 70+ messages in their inbox.
Your emails are NOT getting lost under some mountain of messages here. You need the best pics you can possibly put up and the best profile possible.
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:26:45 PM | You need more photos. Include some outdoors with your whole body (in clothes) showing. The only thing that bothered me about what you wrote was the first date. No sane woman is going to go out for a surprise on a first date. She is going to drive herself (possibly with a friend across the room to spy) to meet you in a public place for a drink, snack, lunch or take a walk around a safe paved path. Surprises are fun by about the 4th date. You need to get to date 1 first! Don't mention that people tease you about your car being girly. Just say the thing about the great gas mileage.
Okay I'll tell you why in general a man might get a lot of view without messages. I've been on here for a few years. Between having real people to go out with, I sometimes hang out on here and do searches, although probably not as much since I met the forums which are much more interesting. I addition, I have the POF app on my Droid (yes going to get an iPhone instead soon). On the phone you can't see or read anything without clicking on the photo which is too small to see even with glasses on. So I'm sure I've looked at a lot of the same guys many times before seeing the trigger of why I don't want to meet them. Doesn't mean they are awful people or ugly. I am lucky to live in an area where within 15 miles there are probably easily 250 men that meet my initial search criteria. Even on the computer, a lot of men are starting to blur into a familiar looking blend. I have written to a few men, not met anyone at all on here. I have met a couple men on the other similar site although there are fewer to choose from there. I am not in the age group where I am getting a lot of messages and most of the ones I get are from men who are older, fatter and farther than I'd be interested in meeting. I often do write back a short, polite "no thanks". I'm retired, am clearly addicted to my computer, it's no big deal to write a 3 minute message. Young women are busy and getting tons of mail. I've been told if they do try to be polite and write to say no thanks they get insulting messages back. So they stop doing it.
Good luck but please don't think of this (POF) as your most valuable place to meet anyone. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 7:48:05 PM | Headline is still a goner. What, are you only "kind of" an a$$hole?
Check the spell-checker! Spell checkers miss when you use a word wrong but spell it right. Example: " just enjoying life. Its wait to short!" spelled "way" (not "wait"), "It's" (you left out the apostrophe, it's a contraction of "it is") and "too" (not "to")wrong . Spelled 'em all right, but spelled 'em all wrong too, for the usage. That's why you proof-read.
"When I am out of work" sounds like you get fired a lot. Try "When not working" or "In my spare time". | |
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