| | Need dating advice pleasePage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Hey everyone, So I just moved to a new city 6 months ago, Iv'e asked out a few women since I moved here but haven't had any luck getting any dates. And recently this new girl started at my work and one of my friends told me she is really into me. So shortly after hearing this I asked her out and she said yes. We made plans to go out one night but she had to bail because she was asked to stay late at work, and the day after she left for a 3 week vacation to go back home to Toronto to visit family, but we have been texting each other sporadically for the past few days. I'm really into her and apparently from what my friend told me she is also really into me. One side of my brian is telling me to play it cool so I don't scare her off but the other side really wants to get the ball rolling and I want to ask her if she wants to chat on the phone, or should I just wait till she get's back from vacation? I know this sounds like stupid high school crap but I just wanted a 2nd opinion.
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Posted: 7/26/2012 2:38:35 AM | | You should wait. Your excited enthusiasm is like a dirtbike or a peppy young horse -- one of you has to be the boss for your own safety. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 6:38:14 AM | Wait... she will be back soon... when she comes back... give her a call... ask her out... the two of you will have plenty to talk about because of her vacation.
She'll be back... don't worry. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 8:41:11 AM | | Yes it would be a good idea to ask her when might be a good time to call her so you can have a real conversation. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 9:52:19 AM | | at 29 if you can't decide if you should ask a girl to talk on the phone.... and come to the forums.. u should not be dating............................. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 10:22:26 AM | I think it's a bad move to date someone you work with, but whatever!
she is really into me. So shortly after hearing this I asked her out and she said yes.
I hate that - people asking someone out just because they heard they were 'into them'. Sounds really desperate.
Why do you like this girl, because she likes you?? Just wait until she gets back, you're seeming very desperate. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 11:22:05 AM |
I think it's a bad move to date someone you work with, but whatever!
I agree, but the damage has been done already, and if he's really into her, then he can't really stop anyway. I think though, that one should take a very very casual approach to things and NOT force anything with someone they work with, when they can't help themselves.
Sounds really desperate. Why do you like this girl, because she likes you?
I don't think it's desperate. He liked her, and he got confirmation that she liked him, which upped the ante of his emotions. It's a relief when there is known attraction off the bat. It would make someone more eager to get a date out of the way.
However, due to her situation, it sounds like she MAY just have mild interest, and not as much as he. Or she of course, could just be playing it cool because they work together.
IMO, just play it out in a cool way until she gets back. Don't push an issue, don't ignore via text. You don't want to become 'that guy' at work. Feel out her interest level after she gets back. If she's "busy" again and can't go out on a date or cancels, after her vaycay, then yeah, she isn't that interested. | |
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Posted: 7/26/2012 1:52:35 PM | | Go ahead an call her...she could end up dead gunned downed or in a car or plane crash the next day, or end up chockin on some food...then you'll be sittin there late at night with a bottle of whiskey, a box of pizza, a box of kleenex wishin you had made the call...while watching some late night tv. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 7:19:05 PM | | I'm simply asking for a second opinion .. is that so wrong? why bother replying if your just going to be rude? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 7:23:01 PM | | And metal vixen.. I was interested in her before I even herd that she like me, so how does that sound desperate? I'm straight up If I like someone and they like me why bother waiting to ask them out? | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 7:33:06 PM | I don't play the waiting game. Remember Mr V., fortune favors the bold.
I see what I want I go after it... | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 1:34:44 AM |
I hate that - people asking someone out just because they heard they were 'into them'. Sounds really desperate.
Why do you like this girl, because she likes you?? Just wait until she gets back, you're seeming very desperate.
My thoughts exactly.
OP, just ask her to marry you already. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 5:10:57 AM | | I think let her enjoy her vacation and see how things go when she comes back. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 11:49:51 AM | Do people just come on here to put others down? Definitely the last time I ask for advice on a forum..
Old Hag that's pretty rude, next time read the posts please. I asked her out because I like her as well, how does asking someone on a date seem desperate when you both like eachother!?
I asked for a little bit of advice and I got it from most people and I really appreciate that.. but I don't understand why people lurk around the forums to belittle others. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 12:00:29 PM |
Do people just come on here to put others down? Definitely the last time I come on here to ask for advice..
Old Hag that's pretty rude, next time read the ****ing posts.. I asked her out because I liked her as well.
When you ask the general public(public as in the pof community), you are going to get diffferent advice and sometimes bad ones(I am mean bad is in the eyes of the beholder[ie you]). Advice also means you do not have to follow that person's direction so you can just ignore what one says and move on rather than getting angry over something you do not like. Now, in my opinion, those judging you with only knowing this little bit about you is a bit hasty, but at the end of the day people are free to say pretty much anything and you need to respect that.
Anyways back on topic, as many others have said, be patient and wait until she gets back. It will give you two lots of time to talk and a good oppertunity to ask her out again. Try not to rush anything until you are sure both are you are ready to take it to the next level. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 12:39:44 PM | Your absolutely right, there is no need to be rude, if we can't help one another, what good is the forums?
My personal opinion is with the majority. She's visiting her family, so try to wait till she returns. Good luck to you and this young lady. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 1:40:16 PM | OP, your in a good city.
I see many beautiful women on this site and others that are in your city. Your so lucky.
Your going to have a good time dating and meeting women there for sure. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 4:38:53 PM | once you start calling try to call more then you txt but dont call instead of each txt you want to send if you know what i mean.
i dont knwo why everyone is so afraid to call but will easily sit down and txt for an hour .. when you could say it in 5 min. and get on with your life.
call her if you want to .... dont ask her in txt if you can... women like a man who take initiative as long as you dont call all the time its sweet. and if it isnt shes not into you | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 9:11:29 PM |
Old Hag that's pretty rude, next time read the posts please. I asked her out because I like her as well, how does asking someone on a date seem desperate when you both like eachother!?
Hey you asked for advice and I advised you to marry her.
Not my fault if you don't like the advice. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 1:50:20 PM | chill out, wait till she comes back and then take her out to a bar and talk about her trip
shes visiting family and friends so she'll be busy. give her some space | |
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