| | Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?Page 1 of 1 | I have never been married so I'm searching for the same in a woman. So when I do a search for single woman I expect to see profiles of never married women. For the most part this is true but I do find profiles that after you read them clearly show the woman is divorced. Others aren't so clear and I don't find out until I start chatting with the woman.
So why do some divorced women list themselves as single when divorced is an option listed for marital status? As I understand it, single is a never married person. Kind of like being a virgin, you can't be a virgin again! Am I misunderstanding what the status of single is? | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:22:16 AM | Same reason men do. Who knows !!!!! What is more fun is the married or separated ones who list themselves as single.They feel the marriage is over, so they just assume they are single. And they learned their * status * on here will not get them any replies, so hell...why not lie !
I will comment that at your age, you will have a hell of a time finding someone who has never married. Why not be a little more open, and just find one legally divorced with as little drama as possible????
I am Divorced and I put that because it is still a legal thing people need to know, I am LEGALLY divorced. If I end up in a relationship again, the guy has a right to know I have been married. No big deal. If you were married before, you are divorced. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:23:44 AM | | I've been divorced for 8+ years and have had a long term relationship since then. I don't view myself as a divorcee since their has been another relationship. Yes it is a part of my history but it is far enough in the past that it isn't a current issue. Currently I'm single. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:24:00 AM | I think you're misunderstanding. As long as they're officially divorced (rather than separated) they're single. Since they are mentioning the divorce in the profile they're being honest and I don't see what the issue is. If I were divorced I probably wouldn't put it up front and centre and instead mention it in my profile because I think WHO I am now is a bigger factor in compatibility than WHERE I've been in the past. After all, it takes all of less than a minute to read most profiles.
Good luck in the search! | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:36:21 AM | Because they didn't check with you first to see if it was okay with you.
Because they feel single.
Because at this point the difference between "single" and "divorced" seemed moot but single sounded better.
Because they thought "divorced" implied baggage and they don't think they have much. LOL.
Because they wanted men like you to self-eliminate but only after you read their profile. Carefully.
Because they're stupid, or liars, or both.
I agree that divorced is divorced and single is single. Beware the women who don't see it that way and feel free to say whatever they want on their profiles, which is what we're all doing anyway.
You keep readin' those profiles now and rejecting the women who don't properly measure up. That's what profiles are "fer". | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:37:21 AM | | I was raised to believe marriage is for life so I'm looking for someone that has never married or is a widow. Of course I won't complain if I find a lady somewhat younger than myself. It worked great for my grandpa. Grandpa was 22 years older than grandma. First and only marriage for both. But I guess things were different back then.... | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:40:39 AM | I would question why you've never had a serious relationship at 46. There has to be a reason, and I don't want to deal with that.
I found his problem right here "That might be a challenge since I watch FOX news."
I was raised to believe marriage is for life
You were given wishful thinking and delusions. That's not how it works in the real world. Things change, people change. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:43:29 AM | I've been divorced for 8+ years and have had a long term relationship since then. I don't view myself as a divorcee since their has been another relationship. Yes it is a part of my history but it is far enough in the past that it isn't a current issue. Currently I'm single. Sorry Darlin it doesnt work that way.
Just like a virgin that has sex with one boy friend. Breaks up and has no sex for ten years. She is NEVER A VIRGIN AGAIN.
You start as single.
You get married
You get separated
You get divorced or become widowed
You STAY THAT WAY until you marry again
Single on a dating site denotes NEVER MARRIED. I dont care WTF you in your mind consider yourself now YOU WERE ONCE MARRIED.
You never ever become Single on a site like this once you have ever been married. There is no
but it is far enough in the past that it isn't a current issue It has nothing to do with it being an "issue".
Its about telling the truth on your profile. YOU WERE MARRIED! You will never ever be single again. You are DIVORCED. Thats no shame in America at our age TRUST ME. Nothing to be asgamed about by being divorced. There is no stigma in being divorced. Divorced 4 times raises red flags. Honestly atyour age claiming you are SINGLE and this have never been married would raise WAY more red flags for me then beeing divorced.
Why would they have both divorced and single here if they meant the same thing? Because they DONT.
Single indicated you have NEVER BEEN MARRIED. Both single and divorced means you are available to date legally. You are not in a relationship. The difference once again is that single means NEVER MARRIED. Its not your current DATING status its your life long MARITAL STATUS.
To me you are lying on your profile and are no better then someone that puts divorced while separated or single while married. Most consider you to be a "liar". Sorry but get with the program here.
I think you're misunderstanding. As long as they're officially divorced (rather than separated) they're single. Bullzhit. This is NOT your DATING status its your marital status. Once you are divorced you stay that way unless you remarry. I dont care if you live to be 355 years old and never remarry . YOU ARE STILL DIVORCED.
Well OP this should be obvious now why they do this. They are delusional or simply misinformed or just liars. I go with liars myself. As soon as I found out they had been married and argued they were single I would move on.
That field denotes you MARITAL STATUS and you never ever become single again once married. The whole POINT of that field and its use is to denote if you are currently or EVER HAVE BEEN married.
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:44:09 AM | | As to never being in a serious relationship at 46. That question seems to reappear.... Lets see.... I work nights, live in a rural area and go to a small church. I'm not the type to ask a total stranger at the grocery store out on a date. At this point it seems like a job interview. You can't get a job unless you have experience but how do you get experience when no one will give you a job? | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:48:46 AM | | The Glenn Beck thing? Well I'm a conservative so I'm weeding out the liberals also. I know over 50% of women support Obama so I guess I will have to be happy being single! But if I find a nice, single, conservative woman I want to chat! | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:49:21 AM | I couldn't care less if a divorced man list himself as single. If I want to know about his past relationships, then I'll ask him. I'd take that over married men listing themselves as single just to con others.
Frankly, I think you are making a big deal out of nothing.
You were raised to believe marriage is for life? I guess that throws the sky high divorce rates out of the window. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:01:19 AM |
I've been divorced for 8+ years and have had a long term relationship since then. I don't view myself as a divorcee since their has been another relationship. Yes it is a part of my history but it is far enough in the past that it isn't a current issue. Currently I'm single. Sorry Darlin it doesnt work that way. Just like a virgin that has sex with one boy friend. Breaks up and has no sex for ten years. She is NEVER A VIRGIN AGAIN. You start as single. You get married You get separated You get divorced or become widowed You STAY THAT WAY until you marry again Single on a dating site denotes NEVER MARRIED. I dont care WTF you in your mind consider yourself now YOU WERE ONCE MARRIED. You never ever become Single on a site like this once you have ever been married. There is no but it is far enough in the past that it isn't a current issue It has nothing to do with it being an "issue". Its about telling the truth on your profile. YOU WERE MARRIED! You will never ever be single again. You are DIVORCED. Thats no shame in America at our age TRUST ME. Nothing to be asgamed about by being divorced. There is no stigma in being divorced. Divorced 4 times raises red flags. Honestly atyour age claiming you are SINGLE and this have never been married would raise WAY more red flags for me then beeing divorced. Why would they have both divorced and single here if they meant the same thing? Because they DONT. Single indicated you have NEVER BEEN MARRIED. Both single and divorced means you are available to date legally. You are not in a relationship. The difference once again is that single means NEVER MARRIED. Its not your current DATING status its your life long MARITAL STATUS. To me you are lying on your profile and are no better then someone that puts divorced while separated or single while married. Most consider you to be a "liar". Sorry but get with the program here.
Harsh much?
Once I got thru you calling me a liar, I can see the perspective you are coming from and I will put some thought into it. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:03:22 AM | While it would be great to find someone compatible, single life isn't bad. I do what I want when I want. Are there any political sub-boards here? I see there are some liberals here that I need to set straight!
@ _Iconoclast_, for some reason I can't post a new message. Anyway, I bet you are one of those freedom hating liberals! I found the off topic section and will visit it after I get some outside work done.
@ _Iconoclast_, stupid? I have visited a lot of forums over the years and a 21 message limit is a new one to me! But I'm new to this forum and didn't know that rule. Saying that I have noticed the off topic forum has topics with over 21 messages. Ignore me if you want, I have no use for freedom hating liberals. Think I will go outside and do a little target practice. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:04:47 AM | You need to set someone straight?
This is a DATING forum. How clueless are you?!
Edit for below: The "big deal" is that people who are unable to sustain relationships have no idea how relationships function. They feel the need to set others "straight" as if other people exist solely to conform to their narrow demands and labels.
Meanwhile, those who live in the real world will carry on, ignoring the demands of the emotional fascists who feel the need to correct all that is not to their liking.
Pro tip: No one owes you an explanation for why they reject you. They can reject you for whatever silly reason they want. I can list about 30 reasons why I wouldn't date the OP and none of them have anything to do with politics, but he would still rather blame it on the liberal boogeyman because that is the way he sees the world.
He's also too stupid to realize that threads get locked at 21 replies (even though it says so very clearly in big bold RED text at the top of the forum) and has joined my blocked users list for harassing my inbox. | |
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| Why do some divorced women list themselves as single?
Posted: 7/26/2012 7:06:02 AM | What is the big deal if the OP has never been in a relationship for more than one year? I know many who were in relationships for 3 years or longer and two years plus of that relationship was constant arguing and utter misery. So I do not put too much thought into that number. There should be a side bar to that field of "how many years of that relationship were you miserable" lol......
Also, no guy should even think of marriage or anything serious until after age 30. Guys mature slower that women and a guy needs to get his "wild oats" out of his system, get his career and life established, and get a good base/root in his life for success. Just see the current divorce rate for peer reviewed source on my opinion.
Overall maybe the OP just did not find the right one for him yet. | |
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