| | Chat requests - EVER a good time?Page 1 of 1 | I know that it's pretty universal that women do not like/respond to 'blind' chat requests from guys they are not familiar with, and chatting doesn't work well with cell phones. When people seem to 'warm' up to someone nowadays, chat is basically never used because they go straight to the cell phone number - and texting begins.
I guess my question is, is there really ANY need to have a chat feature on a dating website anymore?
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Personal note; When I was on dating sites a couple years ago - people DID chat; and it didn't seem to matter if it was a 'cold' request or not. On different sites as well. Lately it seems like the only chat solicitors (at least for men) are the east African scam artists fishing for a phone number or email password. Am I wrong? | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:17:29 PM | Sure. It is an essential tool for millions of time vampires (chataholics) that want to suck the life blood right out of you.
I tell folks I ONLY chat with women I have met in person first. And when we do we use yahoo IM not the crap software here for sure.
If you want to actually meet someone then chatting and texting are just stupid diversions to get you distracted. 4 or 5 GOOD emails here. You get on the phone. You call and ask her to meet. Do not get sidetracked with all the nonsense prior to meeting. chatting and texting is not a step forward in any way or form.
Focus on locating people that are serious about meeting, and know what that means.
Avoid the chataholics that want to sit on chat or IM programs 12 hours or more a day. Send them to a Chataholics Anonymous meeting so they can start a 12 step program or something. Do not get sucked in!
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:32:17 PM | | I personally can only warm up to someone in person. Not chatting, not e mails, not texting, etc. Not even knowing who the heck I am talking to is weird. So I am not sure how someone * warms up * to typing. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 3:55:38 PM | | It's nice to have if you send a few emails back and forth, you're both online and would rather talk that way then continue emailing. For the most part, they're annoying and people who have never emailed me are the ones sending chat requests. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 4:48:46 PM | | Some people like chatting, some don't, and some do only under certain circumstances. I'm in the boat that doesn't like chatting ever. I don't online chat with anyone, whether I know the person or not. It's just not my thing. I also don't text. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 5:33:51 PM | | I blocked the chat function because I kept getting requests from people I had never messaged with before. When deciding if I want to talk with someone, I like to read their profile, look at pictures, etc.... Chat requests out of the blue simply don't give me time to do that before having to decide if I'd like to get to know someone. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:01:59 PM | I'd prefer to chat than to e-mail back and forth, personally. Flows more like an actual conversation.
As always, though, a woman's probably not gonna respond to your chat request if she doesn't fancy your photos/profile. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 6:54:53 PM | I could sit here and chat with you or I could walk down to the pub and flirt with some dude throwing darts and actually have a chance to check him out.
Or..you could get off your rear end and join me. Fair warning, I'm pretty good at darts. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 10:07:34 PM | Seems pretty unanimous that chat features in an online dating site are about as useful as t*ts on a bull.
Or..you could get off your rear end and join me. Fair warning, I'm pretty good at darts.
I set up a dart board last winter in my basement and was getting good, but now I have carpal tunnel, and playing volleyball isn't helping the pain much. Rain check? | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 10:11:02 PM | Man walked into the doctors office. He says "Doc, it hurts when I do this."
Doc said "Then dont do that!" | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/26/2012 10:59:19 PM | Chat and text have become insanely dull, and I used to be a chat nut back in the day. I think a lot of it has to do with age, and evidently growing out of it. Losing patience for it, which I have. I get bored very easily with emails, and text. Not to mention the constant annoyance from younger guys telling me to text their phones. I will no longer be sending text messages, unless it is with family and friends.
I keep the chat feature off, because I don't want random dudes sending IMs my way. If they can't send an email, then they don't need to be sending pms either. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/27/2012 7:46:53 AM | Another question - would a VIDEO chat function (i.e. Skype-type) be more acceptable as a 'standard' chat function instead of just texting IMs?
I realize not everyone has that capability yet; but there's a million plus Smart Phones that can do video chatting, plus several PCs and laptops that have webcams. of course, it would force a lot of online daters to put some clothes back on before chatting with someone --- or maybe the opposite? Eeek. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/27/2012 10:13:00 AM |
If you want to date a computer screen, I suppose that would work.
I'm talking initial meets, not dating - don't pull that out of context. There's a lot of people that can't trust online profiles even to save their lives - some of it is justified - but a lot of it is not. Video feeds have audio AND images, so that extra info makes it a better 'Lie-breaker' than just talking or texting on the phone. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/27/2012 10:27:01 AM | Video images don't work as well as a brief meeting.
There's nothing like the real thing.
Since you are so steadfast in your argument, I can only assume you really like sitting on your butt in front of the monitor. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/27/2012 11:04:52 PM |
Another question - would a VIDEO chat function (i.e. Skype-type) be more acceptable as a 'standard' chat function instead of just texting IMs?
Not to completely burst your bubble, but i think this would be a terrible idea, I am pretty sure there would be enough guys turning it into a chatroulette style interaction, and then the women would be even more disgusted with dating sites.
Just my two cents. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/28/2012 1:17:58 PM |
... i think this would be a terrible idea, I am pretty sure there would be enough guys turning it into a chatroulette style interaction...
For every decent idea, there's a way to make it indecent. It's getting more and more difficult to convince the world I'm not a pervert, just by virtue of being a man. The majority of guys out there are NOT going to be like that, but when the dirty-minded and desperate are the first wave to instantly contact a new prospect, the rest of us have to deal with digging out of a deep hole of bad assumptions. It really sucks. | |
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| Chat requests - EVER a good time?
Posted: 7/29/2012 8:27:06 PM |
For every decent idea, there's a way to make it indecent. It's getting more and more difficult to convince the world I'm not a pervert, just by virtue of being a man. The majority of guys out there are NOT going to be like that, but when the dirty-minded and desperate are the first wave to instantly contact a new prospect, the rest of us have to deal with digging out of a deep hole of bad assumptions. It really sucks.
Totally agree with you. I am not trying to be a debbie-downer, but I could see that getting WWAAAYYY out of hand, especially on a free dating website. anything could go. | |
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