| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 7:43:36 PM | One thing I don't understand nor agree with:
Why, when a person IS divorced, do they have to list their status, even on government documents, as 'divorced'? Aren't they really 'single' again?
Why has their status changed from, say, a person who's never been married before?
What's the diff? | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 7:45:39 PM | | i dunno. Maybe so everyone knows that they already screwed up at least once before. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 7:58:08 PM | Very true, single would be better.
Saying divorced only shows that your marriage didn't last....say's nothing about the person you really are. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 7:59:28 PM | __I don't think that to be divorced define that one has screwed up. LOL
__How about me? Was in a common law relation for 18 years and now have been alone (single)for 8. I am not divorce. Can I call myself single which I have been doing for these last 8 years?
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:07:56 PM | I personally think that it's discriminatory. Divorced people are just as 'single' as those who have never been married and are unattached.
Kinda like the Mrs. and Ms. issue from years back. It's a preference. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:09:52 PM | Babylonia....
That it is and should not be a part of who you are.....and with saying that.....if you have children......single does not quite fit either.....or does it???? | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:11:45 PM | | ^Well it CAN, seeing how so many people are single (aka never been married) but have kids. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:14:08 PM | I can see your point....wondering though about the attitude that many seem to have about that????? I guess for me.....the one true reason to get married would be to have children. Just a point of view..... | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:18:30 PM | Maybe we should be more PC and create a new term?
mate challenged?
bigbedalltomyselfist?
My creativity is in a slump but you get the idea...............
I do agree Babylonia, I hate the label of "divorced" and would much prefer to be considered just single. I guess because "divorce" has the stigma of failure so closely associated with it? | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:40:08 PM | | it's only a stigma if you let it be in your own mind.....if you perfer to be thought of as "single" then say single..who's going to come make you change it the "single/divorce" cops-- ;0) | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:41:07 PM | ^^TRUE! But they even have that 'status' on government papers.
Why? I just don't understand it. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 9:01:41 PM | heck who really knows...it's just a reason to be placed in a category of some kind for some one to be hired to count them..look at it this way......use to be under race there where like 3 choices now there are 6-10--why--usually because someone want to be called something other than those 3-----probably some idiot 1 day said hey i'm not single or married i'm divorced and i want to be counted as such...so guess what now it's on the list-- | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/28/2005 9:14:26 PM | | No...Single implies `NEver Married`...If you were married and now are not you are `Divorced`...Yes, that makes you single again...but in the eyes of the law you are divorced...Even tho that divorce makes you `single`...LOL | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 12:16:08 AM | | here's one i am curious about. i had no idea that the term even exsisted until i became one. i am a called a "widower" because i am male. women are called "widow(s)". why must there be a difference? yet i notice that personal/dating sites only use the term "widow". before losing my wife to cancer, i was a "divorcee", but didn't mind being known as such. i mind being a "widower" more than anything, of course. but, that's just the way it is. but, whether man or woman, the term "divorced" applies to both. hmmm.... | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 12:50:34 AM | I too am confused on how to refer to myself. Single to me is someone who has never married. I think many who would call divorce failure - have obviously not been in one. I have to agree with passinthru - if given the opportunity - would we be:
Previously loved?
Gently used?
Slightly seasoned?
Would love to see the simple word "experienced " when you see relationship status - lol! | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 1:11:31 AM | | Maybe it's like the auto industry where you have to declare if the vehicle has been involved in a serious accident in the past. Buyer beware... | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 5:52:11 AM | | Yes, I finally realized the categorization we’re all so inclined to be put into is not who I am so, my marital status is Single. I’ll gladly tell anyone I was married before but, that is the past. I don’t live in the past. Today, I am single. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2005 7:24:46 AM | Hi all,
I have to agree with happyone.........it is in how you view it.....if you still have alot of baggage maybe divorced would be better...if you have moved on maybe single...as for the goverment papers?....who cares lol they stopped making sence along time ago. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 8:02:30 AM | | Single tells people you are about to make the mistake for the first time, divorced tells them you want to repeat it. | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 8:49:33 AM | "Seasoned" is good, it makes me feel spicy. "Liberated" comes to mind but I suppose that could be misinterpreted when describing a woman.
From a bureaucratic perspective (and it's scary that I even though of this) I suppose "divorced" would be a paper trail tip - i.e., there are records that might be informative re: children, real property, financial and tax status, etc., which might not be available in the case of a "single" person. It might also be an indicator that a woman had a different last name(s). | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 9:53:10 AM | | People don't marry there children, well at least I hope not c deacon | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 3:40:42 PM | | if you're single they can't tell what your credit is like - if you're divorced they know it sucks... | |
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| Single vs. Divorced
Posted: 7/29/2005 4:34:18 PM | ^damn^
Do You Know if there some kind of Statute Of Limitations ?
I've been Divorced twenty years...I gotta be single by now | |
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