| | What does this mean for guys??Page 1 of 1 | | Just a quick question for the guys, I dated a guy on I met on here and it turns out he went to school with my recent friend I made in college a year ago. (Small world) He said he didn't want to be in any kind of relationship. Then one night he randomly texted my friend saying, "I'm seeing a half-black, half-mexican chick lol." Then he texted my friend again asking, "I'm gonna go to this party and go to strip clubs and get drunk lol hook me up with one of your friends?" So we were both a little thrown off because he deleted his pof, but hers is still up and active. I know he didn't want a relationship with me but I'm confused. What does "seeing" mean in a guys perspective? | |
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| What does this mean for guys??
Posted: 7/29/2012 11:36:55 PM | | I would assume he means he's dating her. Coming directly from a guy, he sounds like a bit of a looser. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2012 11:42:33 PM | 'Seeing' typically means dating/relationship etc etc unless he gives a literal context to it
(such as, I'm seeing this chick...later tonight, etc etc)
Ofcourse I think I'll just point out the elephant in the room and say:
What his perspective on the word 'seeing' means is irrelevant.
If he's going to put 'lol' at the end of describing you, doesn't want a relationship, goes to strip clubs and want his friend to hook him up with someone for sex, then it really shouldn't matter how he defines what you have with him.
Infact, the fact that he's able to define anything between the two of you is a dent in your own standards, so I'd recommend you focus a little more on breaking off contact and moving on. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:01:21 AM | | To me, when I'm "seeing" someone it means I'm dating that person but I'm not exclusive. When I'm in a relationship then I'll say I'm in a relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 12:15:58 AM | Are you really hung up on one word ("seeing") that you don't seem to pay much attention to the "I'm gonna go to this party and go to strip clubs and get drunk lol hook me up with one of your friends?" ?
I think you know what he means when he says he's "seeing" you and doesn't want to be in any kind of relationship with you. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 1:02:06 AM | It seems from these testimonials the only guys that have any luck on internet dating are the ones that are just here for a fling.
I would suggest possibly hiding the "creep deterrent" section of profile, I know its a real problem for many girls on these sites but its not going to stop them as it proves you fall for fakery and only deters the more genuine mens for that same reason. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 1:12:30 AM | i wonder if someone got hold of his phone and decided to play a clumsy little game.
did you actually see these messages? or did this friend just tell you about them? if it's the latter, maybe that's where the game is happening. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 3:37:09 AM | "Seeing" and "Dating" mean about the same thing, to most folks I know, male and female alike. No commitment is implied, and no intentions other than that the fact that the word "seeing" implies ongoing as opposed to "used to see" implies "done with her."
This sounds like an excellent replica of many guys I've known in your age range, who look upon all dating as fun opportunities for entertainment and free-form sex, and nothing more. In other words, he sounds to have been an honest, albeit a rather crude and generally thoughtless sort of youngster, who was bragging about "doing" you, while also looking for extra "strange" to augment his pleasures.
I don't understand why you find the fact that she kept her profile active has anything whatsoever to do with this story. According to what you say, he only contacted your friend to get her to supply a one-night-stand for him. Why would she need to close her account for that?
And that he closed his account, or hid it, might mean that he's switched over to Intimate Encounters only, or that he wanted to create a completely new profile, or any number of things.
If you are hoping this means he's in love with you, that is the LEAST likely scenario. Most guys who fall in love, do not celebrate that fact by getting drunk at a strip club with a stranger they picked up from another friend. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 4:43:50 AM | | If you mean you dated that guy, as in past tense, who cares what he is doing now? He told you he didn't want to be in any kind of relationship - which is pretty clear that he doesn't have an interest in you, as harsh as that is to say. Don't give it another thought. You're an attractive girl. You'll find someone else. Dont' waste time thinking about this guy. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 8:27:17 AM |
Are you really hung up on one word ("seeing") that you don't seem to pay much attention to the "I'm gonna go to this party and go to strip clubs and get drunk lol hook me up with one of your friends?" ?
I think you know what he means when he says he's "seeing" you and doesn't want to be in any kind of relationship with you.
I agree with this. He told your friend he's "seeing" someone but asked the same friend if she could hook him up with one of her friends. Obviously, "seeing" doesn't imply being exclusive to this guy. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 8:48:21 AM | | seeing someone means going out/dating . he sounds immature guy just trying puff up make peeps jelous /hoping for sex-your well rid | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 10:04:45 AM | Sounds like its pretty self explanatory.
He's bragging about seeing you which I believe for him means dating or sleeping with.
He sounds like he thinks he's a big time player. He is just out for sex though. SO if you did bump uglies with him, I'd get yourself tested for STD's | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 10:54:51 PM | | exactly what it is. i am seeing you occasionally. we go out for dates, talk about random stuff, ****, then i go home to the comfort of my dogs love. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2012 5:44:36 AM | | If he wants a relationship, he will ask. If you want a relationship, you should ask. However, based on the things he says and does, do you really want a relationship with someone who thinks in terms of race and goes to strip clubs? Because it goes without saying, it will be you (once you get with this guy) who is referred to as that "fill in the blank" chick. But, to each their own... good luck. | |
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