| | how to say to a guy that you're not into himPage 1 of 1 | I just unhide my profile from POF, Usually i prefer to go in the forum. So, alot a guys msg me but unfortunately didn't found a matches. To be polite i whrite them back and said : *thank you for your interest and I really apreciate. I seem to me that you're a great guy but unfortunately I don't think you're the one for me and vice versa I don't want to be rude but I prefer to be honest with you. Thank you and good luck *
I got some good feedback but also some few who said that i was ignorant and that i was judging without knowing them...and bla bla bla...is there a right way to tell a guy that im not interesting without being blast or maybe its best to dont answer back at all. thank you | |
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| how to say to a guy that you're not into him
Posted: 8/1/2012 12:00:54 AM | It sounds to me as though you found a nice way to inform them, but they chose to rant on you in response. It would seem you have two options (at least). (1) Stop answering if you aren't interested, or (2) answer as you have and either not read their responses, or block them if you get an unacceptable result. POF has empowered you, but your parents also taught you (apparently) to be gracious. You hold the keys!
By the way, I have had more non-responses than responses declining interest. Don't know if my personal statistics will help you?! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 12:40:14 AM | sexy geisha, I'll be blunt...
Geisha | Define Geisha at Dictionary.com
dictionary.reference.com/browse/geishaa
Japanese woman trained as a professional singer, dancer, and companion for men
With a username that almost screams "prostitute" you are going to get a lot of undesirable responses...
Then add the photo selections which don't exactly contradict the username... | |
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| how to say to a guy that you're not into him
Posted: 8/1/2012 1:57:54 AM | ^That's akin to saying that women whho wear short skirts or low cut blouses or are asking for it.
Strippers and prostitutes have a right to be free from chastizement and abuse, contrary to popular opinion. This young lady does not come across as any of those, if thinking men paid attention. | |
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| how to say to a guy that you're not into him
Posted: 8/1/2012 2:18:35 AM |
*thank you for your interest and I really apreciate. I seem to me that you're a great guy but unfortunately I don't think you're the one for me and vice versa I don't want to be rude but I prefer to be honest with you. Thank you and good luck *
Lol, you got to mix up sometimes. "Sorry, I just don't find you attractive" or "Sorry, i just got out of a relationship, normally i would date you in a heart beat" or " GO AWAY!!!!!!" . | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 2:57:50 AM | The fact that you reply to those that you aren't interested in makes you a rarity please don't change.
If I received that message I would reply with a thank you for actually taking the time to reply and wish you the best of luck in your search.
I think that I did get a reply once..... | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 3:34:21 AM | I think you're doing it as tactfully as you can. Some guys just can't take rejection well, pretty much.
Reminds me of this guy I knew back in the days, who thought he was a pimp--with a low self-esteem.
He would hit on women left and right, but had a hard time accepting rejection. He would just fire off into a tirade of insults to any women who dared turning him down. "That's why you're walking, (insert sexist insult)!"
I would say continue what you're going, however if things are getting crazy, just save yourself the headaches, and simply don't reply to those you're not interested in.
A non-reply gives an equally powerful message. Most guys will likely get it, and those who don't, you can *then* relay them the message as to why you didn't reply. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 3:41:30 AM | Most women simply don't reply at all, yet even that is no guarantee that you won't get a rude email from someone who feels they are owed a response.
Maybe just state, "gentlemen, I get too many emails to respond to all of you, so I limit my replies to only those who interest me, thanks for your understanding".
True gentlemen will respect that, insecure men won't sorry. There is no way to totally eliminate "rude" messages from those who can't handle rejection. IMO | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 8:25:18 AM | You're under no obligation to tell a guy who sent you one message that you're not interested. Doing so is not "more honest."
Chances are he's written to several people and won't think twice about who hasn't replied. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 2:13:48 PM | First, I think it's cool that you message people back in the first place. I think it's rude to not message back when someone puts in a genuine effort to reach out to you (of course, if it's just a really rude message you receive it doesn't really matter what you do and they certainly don't deserve a response).
I like getting a message that says something like, "Thanks for reaching out. You seem nice, but for several personal reasons I do not see us as a match. All the best!"
If they don't take that the first time, respond back and say "Persistence in this case isn't going to help my interest in you. I'm not going to be comfortable engaging in further dialogue with you"
Block them the 3rd time unless they are just saying "Thanks and good luck to you too" | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:59:41 PM | | The OP's situation is why a lot of people just ignore correspondence from those in whom they are not interested. When people get rude with me I usually give them an opportunity to fix it, but I'm pretty thick skinned (some might argue thick headed). For most people it is probably better to delete and block the rude ones as soon as possible. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 5:04:55 PM | Age between 35 and 42.
Live in Canada
Must not have messaged users looking for intimate encounters or sex.
You must have a picture to contact this user.
Must not be looking for Talk/E-mail
Must not be looking for Other Relationship
Must not be looking for Intimate Encounter
Must not be looking for Activity Partner
Must not do drugs
Must not be married
Theres really not much to be able to choose from there mss G. Some men as well as women have made choices in life as well as here on pof. For example: Activity partner: maybe some would love a little more bike ridding, roller blade'ing, see a few more professional sporting events they have missed out on raising a family in a previous life.. have you thought of that? Prolly not. Or the fella looking for intimacy due to his previous wife/gf bled him dry and he's looking for love rather then a gold digger. Your a nice looking lady... some of the fellas may not know what to put in there profile. Ease off on a couple of em and see what may happen is all. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:27:43 PM | Is not into him the same as you love him ? Because that's what my X kept telling for two months ..Then walked off and cheated on me ..
So yeah just tell em he doesn't make your engine run .Or what you wrote very nice.. Would love to read something like that then nothing ..Wish more women where like you .Then maybe this E dating thing wouldn't suck so much .Because frankly I think its a waste of time .. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 8:27:35 PM | | If you've been chatting with him on a regular, and then he invited you out, then telling him you are not into him is understandable. If he asked you out on a first email, then you don't have to feel obligated to tell him anything. Emails like that are not worth answering. | |
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