| | Is he interested ?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Ok so Ive been on a few dates from this site to no avail, some either just wanting sex, changing their mind before meeting up, going off radar after dates, or just that "chemistry " wasn't there to persue . About a month a go a guy started chatting to me, exchanged numbers and talked for about a week before meeting up. He ticked pretty much all the boxes for me in terms of looks, personality, conversation, and even sexual chemistry, in fact for me I found it too good to be true. We went on four dates up til the time he had a holiday booked ( a week in Zante with one single guy mate) and they were great, very affectionate, giving me all the right signals and pretty much implying that he was going to be good whilst away. I said lets wait till he gets back as I know what guy holidays can be like. Having said that I really like him and were making contact right up till he got on the plane.... Then nothing for a few days. He's been out there nearly 6 days and has contacted me twice, (I know maybe I should be lucky) the only thing is I've noticed he's added two girls on fb whilst out there but hasn't replied much to me. (yes it sounds a bit stalker like but just protecting myself) . He's back Friday and I'm looking for to seeing him, but is he serious about me? Or had his fun out there and I'm just a handy person at home when he gets back. Oh and we haven't slept together either.
If I like someone I won't date anyone else until I know if it's going anywhere or not . | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:33:41 AM | Why don't you just play it by ear since that's what you were doing anyway, and talk to him after he gets back? Is he interested, I'd hardly think a guy would take the time to message you twice during his mannish vacation if he wasn't, but really there's no way to tell where you are in the pecking order of those other two women and god knows how many others there are, while you're poking around on Facebook. I would say I don't think he's going out of his way to manage your perceptions if he's adding women to his Facebook page right where you can see them. Looking out for your safety, is that what they call stalking these days? Who knew.
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:44:03 AM | | I haven't actually added him on fb but can see certain things, haven't because I don't really want to know but human instinct is testing me as to be fair I don't want to waste my time if he's not that bothered. I know what your saying I've had contact so guess that's good? | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 5:01:58 AM | | This is going well so far. You guys aren't exclusive (implying doesn't count, though it was a nice gesture), so him adding girls to facebook, even if he IS dating them, is no big deal. He finds time to text you while he is on vacation, and so far he's kept his word. Seems promising. My guess is that he can't wait to see you again. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 5:10:19 AM | | No I didn't want to rush the "exclusive" thing I'm 30 not 18 . And He's always initiated contact not me. He did say on our last date that he was a bit of a closed book but I always think actions speak louder than words, just a bit of a kick seeing that happen, wish I never looked lol | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:15:59 AM |
and they were great, very affectionate, giving me all the right signals and pretty much implying that he was going to be good whilst away. I said lets wait
Maybe if he adds 3 more girls on Faceplant you may be ready to jump his bones when he gets back?
Sounds like the guy has been around and knows just what boxes to "check", while traveling and balancing his communications so none of the girls get complacent that he is too keen on them... | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:42:51 AM | Adding people to Facebook means nothing, really. "Adding friends" is as simple as accepting requests from people you don't even know, which is what a lot of people do just to get their prestigious count up. It doesn't mean he rushed to his phone and made sure he got them on the list. Or maybe he did? Who knows?
As far as not dating other people when you're dating someone.....that's fine and your choice, but remember, it does not obligate HIM to you in any way. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:45:54 AM | First of all, I think you are expecting too much at this point. If you like the guy, if you want to communicate with him more, it's time that YOU contact him as well. You don't have to become a stocker, but simply show him that he is not the only one showing interest. Now, realize that this guy may have the ability to attract girls, but that does not mean that he is sleeping with them. I personally do not include in my facebook page women I date, but if I meet a girl that is part of a group of people I may include her in my facebook page, not because I want to go out with her, but because I like her as a friends and may do things as a group later on. Do you see the difference?
Also, if I like a girl. Go out a few times, and she doesn't take any initiative to communicate and I have to do all the work, eventually I will slow down my communication with her and or start casting my line elsewhere. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 6:56:23 AM | I really wish I could capitalize on how often I hear stories where the end of the relationship SOMEHOW involves something that happened on 'face-break'.
Maybe as a statistical strategist for dating sites perhaps. But then I guess I'd actually have to sign up for a FB. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 7:08:38 AM | | And I have contacted him whilst on holiday saying hope he is having a nice time and look forward to seeing him when he's back so he knows I'm interested, just don't want too look like he's the centre of my world even tho he's definitely scratched the surface | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 7:15:13 AM | A couple things:
- Exclusivity after four dates wouldn't be rushing it.
- Chances are very good that his new FB friends are high school buddies. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 7:44:02 AM |
Then nothing for a few days. He's been out there nearly 6 days and has contacted me twice, (I know maybe I should be lucky) the only thing is I've noticed he's added two girls on fb whilst out there but hasn't replied much to me. (yes it sounds a bit stalker like but just protecting myself) .
Op my advice is stop stalking his Facebook page. It is far far too easy to take things the wrong way. My boyfriend is on Facebook. I got rid of mine a few years ago. I do not even look at his Facebook page unless he is physically showing me something or I catch a glimpse on my way by to the kitchen out of the corner of my eye. I know myself I would get jealous over some stupid woman commenting on his post, picture, and etc when he is innocent of everything other than posting. I trust him. He never has given me a reason not to. I am with him when he is off of work. He works 12 hour midnight shift with every other weekend off. He wants to see me when he is off. I spend those weekends with him spending the night. He uses Facebook to keep up with his car club buddies, friends, family co workers, and etc.
Just remember this....
Over-think ruins you. Ruins the situation, twists things around, makes you worry and just makes everything much worse then it is. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 12:21:23 PM | I would listen to OutMind and RockabilityPaGirl.
And, OP: you asked HIM to wait until he got back to pick up with you. There is no exclusivity, nothing promised. No reason at all not to see him again in my book, if you both still want to get together.
Surfaceofficer:
"Face-break"
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Posted: 8/1/2012 1:59:16 PM | How does he know if he's "serious about you" when he really doesn't even know you very well after only a few dates?
And how could YOU know if you're serious about him? You don't even know who he is yet.
Don't put your life on hold waiting for him or to see where it goes-- obviously he's not doing that. He's a single guy on vacation and I guarantee he's having "fun". I mean, come on-- he went to Greece !
He's entitled to meet people, have fun, date you, etc.
You're allowed to do the same.
Just relax and see what happens when he gets back. Get to know him better before you decide if you should consider him someone to be serious about. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 4:36:07 PM |
Op my advice is stop stalking his Facebook page. It is far far too easy to take things the wrong way.
Yes! Stop going to his page looking for reasons to not like him...
You're shooting yourself in the foot -- you do know that, right?
Facebook friends MEAN NOTHING!
Don't let it consume you.
Wait until he returns and pay attention to the things that DO matter. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 5:45:39 PM | I agree with axemurderer
Wait until he gets back. Dont stress and try to second guess him. He is entitled to see and contact other girls and you are free to do the same. You are not in a relationship. He sounds too good to be true and I hope he is not married, for your sake. I wonder why he is on a dating site and come to think of it why a girl with your looks, is here. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 2:20:21 AM | | Ok, well update is the guy had contacted me 3 times whilst on holiday he got back Friday but heard nothing. Contacted him sat and got a reply saying he had a really nice time but came back with a bug, haven't heard anything since. In the meantime, taking advice and due to the non exclusive part I replied back to another guy on the friday who asked me on a date this Tuesday. After seeing a picture of him I asked him to send out of all odds the guy happens to be his friend! So I decided to speak to the new guy on the phone to explain as didn't want it looking like I'd done this on purpose even tho the guy initiated contact with me. He knows the guy pretty well, said was surprised he went for me as he tends to go for slightly younger and that he was a bit of a poser, I said if he wanted to cancel the date that would be fine but he said no he'd like to meet. Now is this 1/1000 chances of coincidence this happening or is there more to it? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 2:28:08 AM | Most folk's lives are just complicated enough to rob them of the luxury of believing in coincidences. This doesn't pass the smell test. It's almost as if you are being out through some sort of test which both guys are in on.
I could be wrong of course, but with so many other options out there...I see no reason to chance it. Besides, it could become a pretty uncomfortable situation if you and guy number 2 hit it off depending on how close to guy number 1 he is.
Besides...he called his own friend a 'poser' to the face of the woman who is supposed to be dating him? His bro card should be revoked immediately. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 3:22:51 AM | | Personally, this chap ins't worth your time and effort of your patience. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 10:41:41 AM | Your whole thought process is off kilter.... and apparently you have stalker tendencies... your not in a relationship 4 dates no sex............... lol and then you hv a friend of his contact you and set up a date for tuesday that you said ok to when in your orginal post you say....
If I like someone I won't date anyone else until I know if it's going anywhere or not .
..... WOW............................. best of luck | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 10:52:58 AM | I'm really starting to feel sorry for this guy.
He meets a lady. Goes out with her a few times. Goes on a vacation he planned well before he met this lady. On said vacation sends her a few text messages. He gets sick on the vacation (something that has happened to me a few times).
You don't hear from him in two days and now his friend is hitting on you and you are thinking all sorts of conspiracy theories.
Oh, and you also think he's adding women he wants to date on his facebook page.Women that are maybe workmates or high school friends or realatives, or even (gasp) friends from his childhood.
All he wants to do is date a nice girl. Do you REALLY want to inflict all this drama on him? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:26:41 AM | | She needs to chill out and NOT date the guy he knows......however we are all creatures of habit and experiences. If I meet someone and he is not into me and/or is dating others at the same time usually I am gone. I do not wait around for him to decide if he likes me or want to play second fiddle to someone or be his back burner gal. A man will find a way to contact a woman if he likes her, some get all weirded out and play the ignore game(dodged a bullet unless you have dated long enough to know he might have cold feet) | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 12:21:57 PM | [ I said lets wait till he gets back as I know what guy holidays can be like]
He said he would be good and this is you reply to him....and you told him to wait till he gets back...
He is not even back yet so why are you thinking anything about this. You are not even going by what you told him.
Maybe he took it as you not wanted to 'be good' while he is gone.
And jeez..he contacted twice while being gone. SO what is the problem? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:58:49 PM | | Please stop the insanity already, damn you met him on line, that doesn't give you claim papers on him already, everyone isn't like you , just because you like someone and make it a choice not to see anyone else, well that's your protocol, that's why when you meet someone you should discuss the mutual expectations, hell some people like to test many ponds while in search of their great lake, ok that was surely a stupid analogy but it just popped in my head, anyways...I know you get my drift.. Woman always assume to much when it comes to men, that's why we are always disappointed, just breath, enjoy the moment, and don't read more into it that there is...is it really that hard to just go out with men without putting stipulations on him, really, trust me you will have more fun if you expect nothing. It doesn't necessarily mean he's not interested in you, maybe he just wants to date several people before he decides on one or maybe he doesn't want a mono- relationship, see these are things you can't assume you should know his stand on this already after a few dates, hell I inform guys BEFORE meeting them what my intensions are so that way noone is suprised, hurt, decieved, and it takes all the stress out of meeeting one another. So relax and here's a thought why don't you just ask him about the things you are concerned of ...HMMM | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 3:44:10 PM | Wait a minute-- did you tell the original guy you were going out with his friend, or did you tell the friend guy you had already dated the original guy?
In either case-- why??? | |
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