| | Okay ladies, is this fair?Page 1 of 1 | | Honesty is key with me. I understand I am not the perfect man, but I'm happy with who I am and things are only getting better. All I ask, is if you recieve an email from me please respond and do so honestly. I'm 26, I'm a big boy, I don't need sugar coated responses. If you don't think I make enough money tell me thats why you are not interested, if my apparence doesn't appeal to you, tell me. I'm not going to reply angrily, that's childish I'm looking for a relationship not a sexual encounter, I'm just not the hit it and quit it kind of guy, so when I show an interest in someone I need to know what they may or may not see that turns them off. All I want is a bluntly honest response, is that fair? | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:46:42 AM | I'm a big boy,
Seriously? Then why are you whining about people not answering your emails like a 5 year old? 
that's childish
I need to know
other people aren't responsible for your needs. that would be your mommy. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:50:31 AM | Your asking too much... no one is required to respond to you and be honest if you turn them off.
To even imagine someone owes you that, on a dating site, shows you really have no clue. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 4:51:34 AM | | If you * need * to know why people will or will not date you, you will have major issues in life. It doesn't work that way, on line or off line. Most men I have found who want blunt answers get nasty back and whine. So, no response is better these days. Truth hurts. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 4:57:40 AM | No it isn't fair of you, and no, you aren't being honest.
With yourself. You really don't want just an honest no thanks response, you want more. Just like every other person who comes on here, posting this same exact fuss. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:25:33 AM | You cant tell us to respond to you.
We will if we want to.
Its our decision,not yours! | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:32:49 AM | motown_cowgirl
I didn't know asking a question about how people reply was considered whining thanks for the heads up.
Nobody said they were responsible, I was asking...
LilliMarleen
You don't get to dictate how people respond to you, either here or IRL
I need to re-read what I wrote, I thought I put is it fair to "ask" for an honest response, guess I actually wrote. "People need to responed the way I say or else"
holycowwow
Your asking too much... no one is required to respond to you and be honest if you turn them off.
To even imagine someone owes you that, on a dating site, shows you really have no clue.
You're right I really didn't have a clue that asking for honesty could be so hated.
MsGirlyMuscle
If you * need * to know why people will or will not date you, you will have major issues in life. It doesn't work that way, on line or off line. Most men I have found who want blunt answers get nasty back and whine. So, no response is better these days. Truth hurts.
Well I take a certain pride in knowing that I am not most men. And not knowing why someone doesn't like you, not as major a life issue, cutting ones self, thats a major life issue, not knowing why someone doesn't like you, much more a common thing for both men and women.
IgorFrankensteen
No it isn't fair of you, and no, you aren't being honest.
With yourself. You really don't want just an honest no thanks response, you want more. Just like every other person who comes on here, posting this same exact fuss.
Another thing I am very proud of is I am a man of my word. If I say I want a bluntly honest response then that is exactly what I want.
Pinky127
You cant tell us to respond to you.
We will if we want to.
Its our decision,not yours
Thanks.
So what I've gathered is on a site where most people's profiles say they are looking for honesty, asking for honesty is asking to much... got it. Well I appreciate the input everyone, and I do mean that sincerely. Thank you. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 5:39:45 AM | ^ This is why we would never respond to an e mail. You turned it all around by some whiny ass answer, that asking for honesty is too much. You are one of these * nice guys* who If I e mailed you back you are too over weight, you would snap, argue and go off the deep end. Rest my case. :) Honesty hurts. Doesn't it?
I used to tell men why in an e mail and this is the EXACT same bull shit they pull. All the explaining, boo hoo crap. Just amazing....** rolls eyes**. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:41:40 AM | If you can accept a rejection certainly you can accept a non response which usually means the same thing.
You also don't get to dictate a response or explanation from people you don't know. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 5:42:59 AM | | OP: You're a manipulative little shit, aren't you? Just who in the hell do you think you are to control others? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 5:44:49 AM | you just gave at least half a dozen examples of why most folks think honesty is completely wasted on people like you. congratulations.
If I say I want a bluntly honest response then that is exactly what I want.
that's what you got here, and yet you failed to recognize every single example of it for what it actually was. because you are petulant, argumentative, huffy, ill-humored, and (last but not least) controlling. not surprising, because most people who childishly insist on "blunt honesty" are unable to appreciate it when it finally hits them in the face. they don't LISTEN, because they aren't really open to the criticism they're begging for while sitting around waiting for whatever they *demanded* to hear. what they really want is not honesty, but to manipulate other people into being responsible for their own nasty feelings. that's why you railed against every answer you asked for here. whiner.
here's a news flash for you prince charming, you don't get to make other people's decisions. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 5:47:19 AM | | Go back a read the other 100 threads about why women don't respond, including the one from a few days ago about the inappropriate responses we receive when we do reject someone. Yes, you are asking too much. No response IS a response. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 5:54:07 AM | | There are only two reasons why people don't reply. They either don't like the way you looked or don't like what you wrote. So if those are the only two reasons why do they need to put it in writing for you. Can you change your looks, NO. Can you change your personality, NO you can only fake a different personality. So not responding to you tells you exactly why. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 5:55:06 AM | Ahaha, OP.
Yeah, you proved it to us for sure now.
You can handle the truth like a man alright.
Hilarious! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 6:06:54 AM |
All I want is a bluntly honest response, is that fair?
Ok then.
You sound very needy. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:24:16 AM | | I sure can handle the truth. Its immaturity I have the issue with. For instance a mature response to what I wrote 'COULD' have been (not had to be) "No it is not fair. Many guys say they want honesty but really don't. Or sometimes girls just don't want to responed and that's something every body needs to deal with" Instead I get, " You whine like a five year old, you must have a major life issue if you don't know why people don't like you", and was called a liar that I wanted honesty. I understand some of you may have had some messed up dating experiances but attacking every guy that asks a question you've already heard not a healthy response when looking for a relationship. But thinking I'm controlling because of asking for a certain type of response or calling me manipulative or needy only shows you are generalizing me with all those people you met in the past and are overly sensitive. Sorry you all took my words as offensive but sometimes a guy is just trying to figure out why he can't find love and the all too common "You're gonna make a girl real happy someday, just not me" response doesn't help. This isn't me playing the victim or the sensitive man and no I'm not crying about this, please. This is who I am, if you don't like it thats fine. There are more mature ways to be honest, maybe some of you don't see the difference or perhapes I should have specified better, either way thanks again. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:32:05 AM |
...Sorry you all took my words as offensive but sometimes a guy is just trying to figure out why he can't find love and the all too common...
You can not find love because you have no met the right person, not because of how you act, how much money you make or any other variable.
So it does not matter why someone did not respond, the only thing that matters is you tried.
So stop trying to be something you think women want, and start being you. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:36:42 AM | | I don't want to know what they don't like about me so I can change it, I already know my flaws and any changing done will be changes I want for myself not for the wants of another. But sometimes its just better to know what a person doesn't like about you, maybe not for everyone but for me it helps. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:40:36 AM |
But sometimes its just better to know what a person doesn't like about you, maybe not for everyone but for me it helps.
No, it doesn't. I know you've got your mind made up that it helps, but it really doesn't. How do you think it will help, you will change something about you and someone will suddenly be attracted? It doesn't work that way. If you really want constructive criticism, you'd do better to ask the people who actually know you. Go ask your boss, how can I do a better job? He will probably fall out of his chair. Meanwhile if somebody likes you, your flaws won't matter very much. But if somebody isn't attracted to you, there's nothing you can do to change it. Self-development is *great*; do it for you instead of trying to please somebody else who wasn't interested.
Most people are not a match for each other; you are no different than the rest of us. You are basically asking people to either insult you or lie to you. Stop doing that. When you paint people into a corner like that, they will either lie their butts off or just avoid the question. | |
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| Okay ladies, is this fair?
Posted: 8/2/2012 6:49:45 AM | Okay OP I will bite on this and help ya out with the response your seeking.
Ahem....
***Using my best girl voice***
OP, I'm sorry that we aren't a match. The real reason that I can't date you is that your face is to hairy while your hair is to short, and your features are well, kinda masculine for me. Moving on, I notice that you don't really have any breasts and I personally love breasts. Finally, the last thing is you seem to be lacking ovaries, a womb and a cervix not to mention it appears that you have a 3rd leg and well... you know, between your legs.
So OP, now you know why I won't date you. Does this help? | |
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