| | To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?Page 1 of 1 | I get some worthwhile messages here and there on this site, but to be honest, about 90% of them are from girls that I absolutely have no interest in whatsoever (wether physically or just from their interests on their page), or their messages are so full of absolute nonsense (grammar mistakes, immaturity, poor spelling, etc...) that it makes me frustrated that I ever got it.
So, my question to you ladies, is do you think it would be better for me to just completely ignore messages like this and not respond, or respond and tell them why I'm not interested?
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/2/2012 8:59:59 PM | | There is no right or wrong answer. Some people prefer a "No thanks" response. Some people prefer no response. Some people like myself don't care if they get a "No thanks" or no response on the first email when the other person isn't interested. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/2/2012 9:23:53 PM | | You asked if you should tell them why you are not interested. Are you going to tell a woman that she is not pretty. There is nothing she can do about it and it would be mean and hurtful on your part. Ignoring a message is kinder. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/2/2012 9:37:35 PM |
Are you going to tell a woman that she is not pretty.
Of course I wouldn't say it like that. But a lot of the people I don't respond to always send me multiple messages afterwards asking why I won't respond. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/2/2012 10:09:08 PM | Op,there are millions of Threads on this Topic and the general consensus is that
No response IS a response.
Case closed.
If you answer you dont feel you're a match,you can end up with further unwanted emails. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/2/2012 11:06:45 PM | | The ironic thing is that I never usually get any emails sent to me at all when I am single. But the second I start dating somebody new, they come out of the woodwork. Almost as if women can sense it. I always respond back and let them know that while I am flattered I only date one woman at a time and I am currently seeing someone. I have always gotten nothing but sincere and polite responses back where they thank me for my honesty. I can see it if a woman doesn't respond to every email because they get so many of them. However, it doesn't take that much effort for guys to send a polite decline back. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/3/2012 3:28:52 AM | | Yeaj i agree with most people said here, no response is a response. Given the hundreds of thousands of profiles here, you might end up spending your time sending "no thanks". just erase and move on. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/6/2012 3:03:23 PM | ^^^^^ lol
As to respond or not, sometimes the response is worse than being ignored. Once had a women with a list of reasons. Boy that was a ray of sunshine in my day. Sometimes I ignore sometimes I answer. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/6/2012 3:31:36 PM | I've had messages where I didn't answer. They sent another. I still didn't answer. They sent a third, demanding an answer and I blocked.
If I'm not interested for whatever reason, I don't respond. I've had strips torn off of me for the "Thanks, but no thanks" responses, so now I don't bother. They pester me and I block them.
If I'm interested and think something may come of it, I'll answer. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/8/2012 9:46:22 PM | I have the same issue, because if someone messages me and I'm not interested, I don't want to hurt their feelings by ignoring, but honestly just don't respond. It would be a waste of everyones time.
Sometimes I'll respond back just because we could be friends you know? But you don't want to lead someone on either. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/8/2012 10:57:47 PM |
No response is a response ? WOW, The other person might not even know if you got the e-mail in the first place. Messages can get lost in cyberspace or say they were sent when they really weren't. Just a quick no thanks, not interested or more if you feel the need is all it takes; if you're afraid they will respond again just block them after you send the no thanks e-mail. To just ignore is rude. I don't know where ignoring someone became a form of communication in this country but it's not. The responses on this thread is a small example of a bigger problem of why marriages fail,people fight,wars are started, etc. lack of COMMUNICATION. | |
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| To respond to a message or to not respond to a message?
Posted: 8/9/2012 8:30:47 AM | This is what I do when I get a message from someone I'm not interested in (for whatever reason):
"Hi, thanks for contacting but I do not think we're a match. Happy fishing." And leave at that. If they respond, don't even open the message delete. If they send something again, block.
Simple. Easy. | |
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