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|hi im a first timer on any dating website... :/ i have no idea what i am doing or if im doing the right thing :/ been on here 4 days messaged a few women im interested in however ive not heard one thing back.... what am i doing wrong? i dont want to exaggerate myself so have been honest in my profile... and am beginning to have doubts that any lady is going to find me good enough for them. i no im not the most attractive and work alot but i just want to be happy :( somebody please give me some advise and tips |
Posted: 8/3/2012 12:55:32 PM
|This is a reading medium, try writing in full sentences with proper grammar and punctuation. I think you will appeal to a certain type of woman, it just takes time. Four days is a very small amount of time and the guys on here often say to expect only a 10% or less response rate.|
Posted: 8/3/2012 2:06:12 PM
|Ok, first, I'd delete the first sentence about your kids, I'm sure you love them, but I don't think it's relevant to women you'd like to meet, certainly not the first thing they should read about you.|
I'd also delete the bit about it being your first time on here and not knowing what to say and just being honest, everybody on this thing feels a little vulnerable, and everybody's not sure what to say. Keep the thanks bit, I have the same on mine, I've always felt it seems polite and shows manners and a touch of class.
Expand "Music - Rock and Punk" - "I really enjoy old school rock and punk, (or whatever) I'm a huge AC: DC fan, I once saw them live, it was the greatest concert I've ever been too (again, making stuff up but you get the idea)
Talk a bit about your work "I work as a maintenance engineer, it's hard work and long hours, but it's always interesting, and I work with a good group of people. I like working with my hands, it's nice to feel like you've done something productive at the end of the day".
I'd delete the bit where you say "drinking on my nights off" I'd say "I enjoy a couple of drinks with friends"
When you talk about your hobbies, talk about it, most people don't know much about carp fishing, they might be quite interested
"In my spare time, I love to fish, especially for carp, it's quite challenging. Some day, I'd love to catch a 40 pounder!"
No one wants to hear about you not getting any younger, no one wants to hear you griping about your job, so you should delete those bits.
Your photos are ok, they show that you've got a life, but get a friend to take one full length one of you in a shirt and slacks, with a proper camera and a smile on your face.
Posted: 8/3/2012 3:24:01 PM
|Work on pics.|
<-- click my History for my pic guidelines.
I'd delete the first sentence about your kids, I'm sure you love them, but I don't think it's relevant to women you'd like to meetWrong! With kids (under 18) you should identify how many, how old and how often.
Now how the heck do you have a "step daughter"? It says "Single" (never married). Are you still married? Looking for someone to hang out with on days off?
Your text is really poor. So are the Interests and Headline. Start over. Be positive and upbeat, genuine and sincere, show self esteem and self confidence. What works is being different, standing out from the crowd. Good/great profiles have "personality". Use humor, creative writing, a song lyric, something different.