| | UK chat / fun threadPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | When I enter the forums the description at the top of my webpage includes the word "chat". I am very much aware that chat is not allowed and am sure this thread is breaking rules too, but it's becoming more apparent that many of the forum regulars DO want some lighthearted discussion sometimes. I am also aware that there is a general forum for"humor" however this isn't UK specific of course.
Is there anything we can actually do about this? Threads which touch on the issues / fun threads are being deleted without warning or explanation despite them often being the most popular threads. I don't wish to criticise the mods or the POF rules at all here - I think this is a valid issue which needs addressing. Having a separate forum for more "fun" topics would reduce the moderator workload and keep this forum for the serious issues which are also very popular. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 9:09:49 AM | There is an Off Topic forum, again not UK specific. I was wondering why threads that don't fit the UK forum couldn't be moved there instead of being deleted.
I don't understand the reluctance to allow people to converse and get to know each other by way of chatting, without it being restricted to one on one messaging.
If "Friendship" is an option on PoF, then why not let people make friends and have multi-way conversations? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 9:12:25 AM | | The forums ain't too good, that's why. Too many rules makes things boring. Plus my friend can never even post because it always says message too short. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 9:20:14 AM | I guess the general argument is that chat can be done via PMs whereas the forums are/were intended for the expression of opinions.
I'm actually with you on this, that chat amongst a group of friends/individuals can be very entertaining and indeed a big draw....(meaning more customers for POF services and more potential revenue  )
Perhaps Mr Mods/POF could look into adding a new chat only forum but as I have no understanding whatsoever as to their workload maybe the best option would have been to contact them directly rather than starting a thread that'll probably get deleted anyhoo.
Please don't Mr Mod as this thread could be very good market research for you  | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 9:50:08 AM | one of the reasons is because of this.
If you put chat room on pof into the 'search' you will get the answer.
It is recommended that a search is done before starting new threads because if the question has already been asked and answered it probably gets a bit tiresome for the mods.
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VVVVVbut there are quite a few fun threads as you stated, just not u.k. specificate.
Also the point you make about not advocating 'Hi good morning type drivel' how on earth will you be able to have control over that.
Its nothing new on here you know, threads being deleted, it has not just been those few threads. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 9:52:27 AM | Don't get me wrong the last thing I would like to see is "morning all" etc drivel which I have seen on other sites. I'm not looking for a chatroom as such, more a forum where we can discuss less serious issues, go off thread and have a giggle without fear of being in breach of rules. More serious debaters don't need to enter so shouldn't be bothered by "trivia".
Edit .. I appreciate that Goldendaze but the goalposts seem to have shifted over the last few days... three popular threads have been removed. This seems to be a new trend as I've not seen light hearted threads/threads criticising aspects of POF be removed before. This thread is related to what's happened recently therefore old threads aren't really entirely relevant.
Edit again ... Grump,as above. I don't need to get over it; I just think it's a shame for those of us who are actually here in our spare time to have an enjoyable discussion. Clearly it IS an issue for current forum users as it has been well discussed over the last few days and despite the fact that we don't pay for this site I'd have thought our opinions may be of some interest to those who run it.
NB The first two threads quoted are not relevant - I don't think chatrooms are the answer; just a thread where we are allowed to have less serious debates under the rest of the current rules. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 10:34:59 AM | didn't we have a thread about something similar the other day...? or has that one been deleted?
i dunno... i dont really understand to be honest... why do you actually want this on here...? like i said in a previous thread, there are millions of chat / banter type sites on the internet, if that's what you really want why not amble over onto another site..? why persist in implementing something, when it clearly isn't what the site owners intended nor what many of the regulars want..?
Is there anything we can actually do about this?
well the obvious answer is to start your own site and run it however you like... or you could always join the other sites that have started as a spin off of this one.... if they are still going that is.. :-/ | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 10:40:52 AM | why persist in implementing something, when it clearly isn't what the site owners intended nor what many of the regulars want..?
Could the regulars who don't want it not simply avoid it? I don't want to join in the political debates so I don't.
I suspect you're missing the point (which I've made several times). I am not asking for a chat room. Just a less serious forum which is subject to the same rules but where we are allowed to play infantile games and discuss less serious issues ... like the recent thread which stayed in the top 10 or so threads for about a week until it was deleted.
i dunno... i dont really understand to be honest... why do you actually want this on here...? like i said in a previous thread, there are millions of chat / banter type sites on the internet, if that's what you really want why not amble over onto another site..?
Also.. and let it be known I am currently in a relationship with someone from this site and not looking... it IS a dating site... not a debating site. Surely a decent FORUM (NOT chat room) where people feel able to communicate with others without necessarily having to express strong opinions is conducive to good matching? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:10:12 AM | I agree with Kags. The ability to talk about a variety of interesting subjects with a wider group is very helpful in the whole matching process.
I ended up talking to a few really nice guys purely based on the things they posted on the forum. I would not have 'met' them if it wasn't for those threads.
Unfortunately 3 of those threads got deleted.
Also....I am not having much luck with the guys who message me based on the matching system or my profile. I like my men to be talkative and intelligent. To show quick wit and the odd sarcastic comment thrown in. That type of man posts on the forum. I don't get them messaging me purely from the dating side of this site.
So yeah, Having the ability to converse with people in group modus, without being restricted by 2/10 rules or no more than 2 back and forth replies in 24 hours. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:33:55 AM | | I know there are various spin-off forums and spin-off fb chat groups which are easy enough to set up and can be more laid back with virtually no rules. But it’s worth noting that sometimes it’s wise to be careful what you wish for as when people there kick-off it’s not pleasant and you begin to realise why there are rules in the first place. Furthermore they’re a monumental nightmare to moderate. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:40:02 AM | Yes but that's not what I was suggesting at all! Just a slight relaxation on the "debating" rules! I've been a member of Faceparty, UK chatterbox and other chatrooms in the old days and believe me I've seen the effects of lack of rules / moderation. No way would I want to see that kind of mayhem in here.
To re-iterate... it would just be nice to be able to have a laugh in here without worrying about breaking rules (see "kiss or pass"). I'm sure there is some middle ground. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:51:05 AM |
Also.. and let it be known I am currently in a relationship with someone from this site and not looking... it IS a dating site... not a debating site. Surely a decent FORUM (NOT chat room) where people feel able to communicate with others without necessarily having to express strong opinions is conducive to good matching?
correct me if im wrong, but i think the forums are intended for debate and are not really intended to enhance the matching/dating side.... unless you want to share your experiences in which case there is a forum for that..
kags you already have a beau.. chat to him :-) | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 11:56:00 AM | 12.....'mayhem'? Pmsl....the mind boggles what was actually goin on in there
Faceparty .....god, thats a name from the past | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:06:39 PM | kags you already have a beau.. chat to him :-)
I do but I don't start and end my world with someone I've known a few weeks. And even if/when we become each other's all..I hope I will still be be able to contribute to conversations which don't include him.
Sorry I am not getting the issue here. I can ignore threads I don't want to contribute to. Why can't others? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:11:26 PM | | I do wonder if the powers that be (members like us right?) are a bit too trigger happy but from what i've read it's been like that since the beginning. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:30:35 PM | | People who voted to delete the fun threads are those who are miserable and dont know how to smile or laugh! I just don't understand why they just can't ignore the fun threads and just contribute to the other threads just like the most of us do. They are always going on and on and on about freedom of speech but yet they can't respect others having laugh and always crying like a little baby and report to the mod. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2012 1:51:19 PM | | It does seem that the moderation is getting too heavy handed. Having looked again at the rules regarding what can and can't be posted, I can't see any reason why at least two recent threads have besn deleted. Either the posting rules need to be tightened up so its mors obvious where the line is, or possibly the validity / fairness of the reporting system needs to be looked at. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 2:51:13 AM | A forum where people are allowed to flirt and have actual small talk would be great but they've already said no to this.
I am a very talkative person and find it extremely restricting just talking about politics and current affairs, it's actually pretty boring and not the sort of discussions I'd have in real life. I think our forum personas paint an often negative picture of our personalities, especially when in political debate.
We are never really able to get to know each other unless we start talking via private message, there has been a few I've wanted to message but can't because of the age block. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:21:04 AM | Oh sorry trader, ill remove my 'must not have mess..... and then you can message me.
I'll get deleted now for chatting. | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:35:24 AM | I'm inclined to think that chatty type threads would encourage less people to use it. And as for watching people get cliquey or flirty in a thread.....awkward! :)
I like it the way it is......brrrr humbug! | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 10:57:49 AM | Although I do contribute to some of the fun threads, even when I know they are doomed to be deleted, I can understand why they are not allowed. For those of us who have been around here for a long time we can remember when the politics and religion threads we openly available and saw the absolute carnage that went on in there. It was absolutely vitriolic and abusive beyond imagination. The Mods had an absolute nightmare trying to keep things decent and readable. Every now and again they, the Mods, implement a zero tolerance to rule breeches and IMO it is both right and proper and absolutely necessary that they do that to keep order. The UK forum was no better at times than the politics / religion forums and some of the worst Trolls and serial women abusers resided in here, some until only quite recently.
This site is provided, for the main part, free of charge but it is still intended to make money for the owner Marcus. One of the most valuable assets he has are these forums and their value is increased exponetially by the ommission of banal chit chat and abusive posts. In the long term he will make far more money from these forums than he ever could from advertising or the paid parts of the site and he is right to maximise that value by implementing the rules that he does IMO.......... | |
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Posted: 8/8/2012 2:23:19 PM |
I hope I will still be be able to contribute to conversations...
primarily its a debating spot for a multitude of topics, some are serious and some are less so...
our leaders dont want conversations... :-/
stick with it kags.. we arent involved in decisions and and are not likely to be :-)
and i dont think you are going to get your chat thread :-( | |
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