| | Is There a Gender Population DisparityPage 1 of 1 | If you look at how many message responses men and women are getting on PoF, you would have thought there must be a huge gender population disparity among registered PoF users. There must be a high male to female ratio.
Why is that?
The general census on US population says there are slightly more females in the USA than males.
Is it because the average lady has a better chance to find a male for relationship in real life. So there are more frustrated males who have to go online to find some one?
But then, you know for every female who successfully find some one for relationship, her male partner also successded in finding some one. So there really should not be a disparity either. If a lot of males are frustrated in finding some one, there has got to be a lot of frustrated females, as well.
So why is there is disparity in the first place?
Can the ladies tell your experience on PoF? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 6:02:38 PM | | Shouldn't the question be "ask a guy?" since 10 guys for every girl? Guys all flock to what they perceive will be a ground ball and takes least amount of effort. Little do they know it takes more here.Dude ,are you new here? Real life is much easier for guys.Those same guys online probably still go out looking in clubs/bars. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 6:15:55 PM | Ask any woman and she will tell you that the problem is not numbers or quantity.
The problem is quality.
We are all seeking what we are seeking.
And when it matches up -- Yippeeeeeee
It can take a long time to find your match.
In my experience many women try things like bars and the internet and give up.
I can name quite a few from real life.
Sadly there are lots of people both men and women who tell fibs on the internet.
And women after a few hundred fibbers one after the other - give up.
Some of us have a very thick skin and delusions of hope.
So are still here.
Does that answer your question?
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Posted: 2/17/2013 6:28:39 PM | Aussiesealady, as usual, makes good points.
There's also a selection problem. Several attractive, accomplished women of my acquaintance on here, who meet men and get approached regularly as do most of us in person, report receiving very few messages here. As in, maybe five a week. Online is tougher for most women, as well. The very most gorgeous, on the other hand, are inundated and would happily share some of that attention if they could.
It's understandable men would think, "Well, what the hell, I have nothing to lose by writing to the extraordinarily beautiful," because you don't. But why more male would-be online daters don't spread the love to the more ordinarily good-looking women, as well, is a mystery to me, 'cause in person, they sure do. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 6:37:41 PM |
It's understandable men would think, "Well, what the hell, I have nothing to lose by writing to the extraordinarily beautiful," because you don't. But why more male would-be online daters don't spread the love to the more ordinarily good-looking women, as well, is a mystery to me, 'cause in person, they sure do.
Because in my experience(others also I assume) the rejection/ignore rate seems to be equal or more from such women. I am not a women so I can't explain why but seriously some guy should make a thread whining about why when they get replies(few that they do) its only from the more beautiful ones. Of course that's subjective but none the less what happens. Maybe I just live in the wrong place.
I am still waiting for some guy to make a thread saying how he never gets replies to" hi sexy", etc. A few of us been joking that those lines must work since guys never whine about them not working.Its always a whiner who writes Charles****ns paragraphs to each women. Makes you wonder;) | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:02:29 PM | You said: "Real life is much easier for guys.Those same guys online probably still go out looking in clubs/bars."
The problem is you don't have much of a real life to begin with, thus the whole idea of getting online to get to hooked up with some one. In the real life, you have an 8-9 hour day time job, a two hour commute to and back from work, 8 hours for sleeping, three hours relaxing at your little room you call home, cooking yourself a dinner, or reading some stuff on a computer. How much time do you get living in the "real life" after all that. Not much I guess. When you are out living the "real life", you can't put a tag on you saying: "Hey I am single, come meet me" can you?
Some guy would directly walk up to a random pretty woman he saw and try to warm up and ask for a phone number or so. I think I could never have the face skin thick enough to do that. What do you know about that woman other than that she may look pretty? It's probably a waste of time, or worse.
Going to a bar? Why should a guy like me who doesn't drink aocohol go to a place dedicated to aocohol drinking? Besides if you want to find a woman who doesn't drink, you will unlikely find her in a bar. Vice versa.
Online dating does not mean the guy or gal does not have a real life. I thought the whole point of online dating is to get two people interested enough in each other to arrange for a meet up over a cup of coffee. If the two clicks, the story continues in real life. If not then no big deal, just move on. Why is it so hard to even start the first step?
Why is it so hard for the ladies to even have the decency to respond and just say no, if she is not interested after receiving my message? Most of time, the message is just ignored, discarded, as if the person I try to contact simply does not exist. Maybe that's why. Maybe many of the PoF accounts are simply faked, or have long expired. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:30:44 PM |
Going to a bar? Why should a guy like me who doesn't drink aocohol go to a place dedicated to aocohol drinking? Besides if you want to find a woman who doesn't drink, you will unlikely find her in a bar. Vice versa.
Boy I agree with you there.
I see where you're coming from on all this, but what I realised on this whole internet dating thing, make a decent, well structured section on the "About me." put up some decent pictures, and just wait, I don't send out messages due to the fact that most woman I seem interested in must receive a few on a daily basis. I just wait for them to come to me, if I get a message then I know there interested, that's how I do it, it works for me and I have no problem with that, I know others would disagree and say "I need to be sending out messages." but the above seems to work for me, I still enjoy the site.
If you're getting frustrated over this, take a break from internet dating, it can be a daunting process. I usually delete my profile and give it a few weeks or months until I feel like giving it another shot, I have fun creating the profile, choosing pictures and redoing my about me section, sometimes you remember stuff that you did not write on the last one and really refining it. Like I said, this works for me, you have to find the process that works for you, no need to get frustrated over or on the internet.
After All the internet was created to share cat pictures and argue with strangers. ;) | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:37:15 PM |
There's also a selection problem. Several attractive, accomplished women of my acquaintance on here, who meet men and get approached regularly as do most of us in person, report receiving very few messages here. As in, maybe five a week.
As opposed to five a month for equivalent men.
Online is tougher for most women, as well.
No it isn't.
It's understandable men would think, "Well, what the hell, I have nothing to lose by writing to the extraordinarily beautiful," because you don't.
Change that to "I have nothing to lose by writing to the extraordinarily average" and you've got it right for average looking males on here.
But why more male would-be online daters don't spread the love to the more ordinarily good-looking women, as well, is a mystery to me, 'cause in person, they sure do.
I'm assuming this is because you're older, where the dynamic has shifted a bit, but in the lower age bracket, it's pretty much everything with a pulse, vagina and that doesn't look like it crawled out of a swamp gets tons of messages. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:48:27 PM | Do a search in your area for both men and women.. Then voila you will see exactly how different the male to female population is.
As I understand for America its mostly males on these sites. Australia being mostly females for some reason.
For my location there is 162 females and 552 males within 50 miles ages 18-46. Almost 5 to 1 odds. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2013 11:50:17 PM | I thought the whole point of online dating is to get two people interested enough in each other to arrange for a meet up over a cup of coffee.
I am pretty sure the point of most on line dating sites is to make someone a lot of money.If you have ever went to a site that charges to be on it you will get a ton of emails from gorgeous ladies.Problem is that as soon as you pay so that you can message them back the emails stop and you get no response back from any of them.I assume the free sites are not much different.
These dating sites are just like people trying to lose weight. People running these [businesses] things are able to take advantage of people like us that are wanting to change their lives and make money from it.
We all know that good looking women sell thus they only need a few ladies to make this work. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2013 2:21:16 AM | For my location there is 162 females and 552 males within 50 miles ages 18-46. Almost 5 to 1 odds. Yeah well you also included the 12 to 25 year olds. Try YOUR AGE. Mid 30's. It will look better by filtering our all the teens and 20's you are not going to be dating.
The population disparity gets a LOT better with age. Lots of stats on this actually. For FREE sites like POF
10+ to one in young 20's
6-8 late 20's early thirty
3 or 4 to 1 30's
2 or 3 by early 40's
almost equal by 50.
No idea why but it gets much better at late 40's to 50.
I have lived in 10 cities in 6 states on POF so far. (ky, tn, de, ca, tx, co) In every case when I lowered the search radius close enough to get real numbers the males to females were almost always right at 50/50 and a couple times favored the females. OBVIOUSLY this will vary by location.
Dating here for 20 year old males is just brutal. It gets much better as you age trust me. You are 44 its NOT that bad. Thats NOT why you do not get replies.
I actually think many of the young women bail off here quickly due to the immense early crush of pathetic messages from pathetic guys. POF probably does not seem a good option to find quality men. Hot 20 year old women on here get bombarded with messages and chat requests. Most from guys they would not touch with a 10 foot pole. Guys on here message women they would never dream of even speaking to in real life.
Cheers
Cowboy | |
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Posted: 2/18/2013 7:57:48 AM | | Lounges/bArs from an owners point of view is to sell drinks. Patrons go to socialize. No one makes you have to actually drink. Join meetup groups. For decades people work and commute same as you. Internet dating is a fairly recent in our history and has a very small success rate. Some say it has peaked already. In anycase just hang in there and I wouldn't wish an inbox of replies of non interest on my worst enemy. Well maybe for Cowboy on his birthday:). You want positive replies not BS "your not my type" generic spam. | |
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