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 anthonyalan
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 1
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So I had a birthday today and I realized I'm still a young adult but I'm really on the verge of just what I would call an "adult". Now we all know a 30 year old that targets 18 year olds is a bit strange but what about 25? What do you think fellow fisherman?
 bottleguy
Joined: 3/22/2011
Msg: 2
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:28:35 PM
Not at all. But then again, if I could date an 18 year old I would, so . . .
 Vicki159
Joined: 1/27/2013
Msg: 3
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:31:43 PM
There is a world of difference between 18 and 25. Not much between 25 and 35. Id say its not illegal, its not immoral and if the 18 year old is mature for her age then its ok. But.....there is a world of difference betwenn 18 and 25. Id class 18 as a kid and 25 as an adult, albeit a young adult.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 4
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:35:59 PM
half your age + 7
 3ffervescent
Joined: 7/1/2010
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:39:11 PM

half your age + 7


...unless, it is your 18 year old daughter that the 25 yo is sniffing around.

Personally, I think that teens should date teens --
Once you hit your 20's, date whoever you want.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 6
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:46:08 PM
well, ofc. Cuz the youngest for 25 is 19.

And everyone knows that to a father, NOBODY dates his daughter unless it's the father's new best friend.
 Walts
Joined: 5/7/2005
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 3:51:10 PM
A couple of things.

Remember. Remember back when you were 18. Can you remember back then??????? Now think what you were doing and what you were "thinking" and "planning" when YOU were 18.

Now, today. What are you "thinking" and "planning"????? Any differences????? (you better answer yes) She doesn't need a 25 year old BOYfriend right now. In fact, she doesn't need any BOYS right now. Leave her be and let her start worrying about her future.(you SHOULD have the mentality and maturity now,at your age, to know better)When she turns 28,,,you'll be 35. At that time,maybe look her up.
 tooborednow
Joined: 1/13/2013
Msg: 8
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:03:16 PM

Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?

Depends.

How are you meeting 18 year olds?
Are you hanging out at high schools on the hood of your trans am at 3 pm asking every girl that walks by "what up...you 18?"

Are you going online and using the advanced search feature to look for 18 years olds, and only 18 year olds?

Or are you just living your life, maybe going to parties, and you met someone you "connect" with and she happens to be 18?
Or you click on a cute picture, read their profile, and think you have a lot in common and they happen to be 18?


Now we all know a 30 year old that targets 18 year olds

IMO anyone that "targets" someone specifically or only by age is doing something "wrong."


I realized I'm still a young adult but I'm really on the verge of just what I would call an "adult"

That makes me very very sad, just in general.
"I'm 25 and I'm not 'really' an adult yet. Not like an 'adult' adult. Don't expect adult things out of me!" is basically what you are saying.
 tickle_me_pank
Joined: 9/6/2012
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:10:57 PM
"Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?"

How about this. Is 23 too old to date a 16 year old?? That's only rolling back the calendar a little bit; two years. In practical terms, not much difference between 23 and 25, but generally, there's a HUGE difference between 16 and 18.

So buckaroo, not in the eyes of the law is it "too old". However your interest in an 18 year old at this point raises a hell of a lot more questions than it answers, just based on some of the other stuff you said. And good luck with that.
 anthonyalan
Joined: 9/20/2007
Msg: 10
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:30:35 PM
This is referring to the last 2 posters but why do I always seem to get the jerks on my posts? Its a simple questions. Some of these forum folks are just dying to criticize someone. I bet you jokers spend all day waiting for the chance to insult someones character. Get a life. Answer the question or mind your business lol. No one cares about your unsolicited assessment of character
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:36:16 PM
Teenagers are children with adult body parts. Yes, it could work out-for about 3 or 4 weeks.
 IgorFrankensteen
Joined: 6/29/2009
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:45:50 PM
The jerks will show up on any post. You think they pick on you, because you don't read enough of the rest of the forums.

I support the "it depends" answer.

It depends on all sorts of things. College guys at 25 are too old for high school gals of any age.

A few women are fairly mature at 18, but almost ALL of them THINK they are "more mature than their peers", so you can't go by what they say, and usually not by how they act.

Some guys are not all that mature by 25.

One of the biggest problems with that particular age gap, is that lots of mid-twenties people are ready to get serious, both emotionally, and practically. But almost no 18 year olds are even remotely ready, again, even though most of them think they are. Hence, there is a very high percentage of mid-twenties serious people, having their hearts broken by fickle and flash-changing teens. There are also lots of destructive "lessons" being taught to the teens, by self-deluding twenty-etceteras.

In the main, I would say that mid twenties trying to mix with late teens, is the worst age gap. Just a few years later, young twenties with late twenties and beyond, the problems all but disappear.
 gtomustang
Joined: 6/16/2007
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:46:30 PM
you asked, and now you don't like what you heard :)

ok, seriously, the question is, "strange to whom?"

to the parents who answered, yes its uncomfortable...b/c duh, they know what you're after since there's a massive maturity and thus personality diff.

to an 18 yr old, tho, an older boy can be an attractive status update. how many freshmen try to date seniors?

to your peers, it'll either be a joke or a sign of your attractiveness depending upon how hot she is. but if she's immature around your friends, they're gonna wonder why you couldn't get someone your age.
 tickle_me_pank
Joined: 9/6/2012
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 4:47:29 PM
Answer the question or mind your business lol.

I answered your question lol. Sorry you had to get all pissy about the answer lol. That's a sign of childish petulance lol. Focus on your perception of the delivery so you can completely ignore the content lol. Somebody didn't sugarcoat it enough for you lol. Seems about right since you're the first one here indulging in an accurate assessment of your character (really on the verge of just what I would call an "adult") lol.
 MutedEnthusiasm
Joined: 7/8/2011
Msg: 15
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 5:00:02 PM
Yes, 25m is too old to date 18f. You’ve been an adult for four years. She won’t be for another three. Choose a peer, an equal, someone of similar maturity and life-experience.

Think of all the learning and personal growing you’ve been through in the last seven years. That’s how different you are from an 18yr-old. At your age, I wouldn't suggest you exceed a two to three year difference if you want a relationship of equals.
 privat33r
Joined: 2/8/2009
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 5:10:13 PM
I'm certain its too late for me to date 18year olds. I keep it a secret cause a few don't like to be told anything restrictionist, no matter how weird, bad-apple, appalling or bad for grandpa.

Major girl in my life had a 31 year old tattoo artist and heroin user-provider pick her up at home when she was 14 --- a while later she found out her dad's blood pressure was about 220. Its 30 years later, he's fine. In case any wondered.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 17
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 5:15:16 PM

How about this. Is 23 too old to date a 16 year old?? That's only rolling back the calendar a little bit; two years. In practical terms, not much difference between 23 and 25, but generally, there's a HUGE difference between 16 and 18.


23/2 = 11.5
Add 7 years to that, and you get 18.5

I'm telling you guys, you go with half your age plus 7. I'm not the one who made this up. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Half-age-plus-seven-relationship-rule.svg
 tickle_me_pank
Joined: 9/6/2012
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 5:18:49 PM
23/2 = 11.5
Add 7 years to that, and you get 18.5

I see.

I don't care whether you made it up or whether some Wikipedia nuclear physicist came up with it after playing with his pocket protector. It's just a rule of thumb. IT IS NOT ACTUALLY SCIENCE.

6 / 2 = 3
Add 7 years to that, and you get 10. Yay for 10 year olds dating first graders.

18 / 2 = 9
9 + 7 = 16
Otherwise known as, a formula for statutory rape but probably not in your state.

 HelenBackAgain
Joined: 1/7/2013
Msg: 19
Is 25 too old to date an 18-year-old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 5:44:48 PM
I also support "it depends."

If this is a mature, responsible, self-supporting 18-year-old, ideally who's been working for a couple of years before moving out on her own, then no. I think it's fine.

If it's an 18-year-old who lives at home with parents, has never worked more than the occasional after-school job, and whose current job is school and school only, then yes. I think it's weird.

There's a LOT of variation in how adult any given 18-year-old may be!
 carolann0308
Joined: 12/9/2006
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Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 6:12:05 PM
I think at 25 you should be moving forward into your adulthood, not traveling back to HS. I think it would eventually be awkward, and you would have far more in common with a girl your own age. You have to start thing of what you want from your life, career, family etc. and a young girl of 18 is so far away from that mind set.
 rockstar_ocnj
Joined: 2/1/2013
Msg: 21
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 6:45:45 PM


18 / 2 = 9
9 + 7 = 16
Otherwise known as, a formula for statutory rape but probably not in your state.


I get your point. But honestly, is an 18 year old with a 16 year old REALLY that crazy? It's a senior in highschool with a sophmore, maybe even a junior. It's really not that big of a deal.

But statutory rape has nothing to do with the age of the older person. Statutory rape is sex by or with someone that's under the age of consent. The age of consent is the age that they're legally allowed to consent to sex. That means that in NJ, since a 15 year old isn't legally allowed to consent to sex, then it's rape, because legally, she didn't consent. But since she was willing and it wasn't technically rape, they call it statutory rape.
 Highlander9847
Joined: 2/14/2009
Msg: 22
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 6:54:15 PM
Very good points, besides, all the good things that you have had happen to you since you were 18 she wouldn't get. I just don't think it's fair when your very likely a young man with many choices.
 Drawesome32
Joined: 6/26/2012
Msg: 23
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 7:00:22 PM
none of the advice anyone can give you here is really relevant. if youre a 25 year old looking at dating an 18 year old, the only thing that really matters is how the two of you feel about it. when i was 30 i was dating a 19 year old for a while. i was cool with it and so was she. no reason to ask strangers if they are ok with your choices.
 msright78
Joined: 12/11/2012
Msg: 24
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 7:00:52 PM
Is she mature enough for her age?

Cuz girls at 18 are very immature. But age shouldn't be a factor when ur dating someone. As long as they are legal ur good to go!
 aussiesealady
Joined: 11/10/2011
Msg: 25
Is 25 too old to date an 18 year old?
Posted: 2/20/2013 7:03:07 PM
23/2 = 11.5
Add 7 years to that, and you get 18.5

I'm telling you guys, you go with half your age plus 7. I'm not the one who made this up. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Half-age-plus-seven-relationship-rule.svg



^^^^ Ok I can do this math.......

I am 54 so half = 27 + 7 = 34.
Hmmm, so the 40 year old man I have a date with tomorrow night is too old for me.
Oh NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Or I could date 3 x 18 year olds at the same time - Is that how it works?
3 x 18=54
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