| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:51:44 PM | | Just curious as to why woman don't reply to there emails when guys take the time to write them. A nice email complimenting them in general and there profile....the least you could do is reply back with something? why does this happen so often? sorry if this has been once posted but......lets here it... | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/1/2005 10:53:15 PM | | The most common answer you'll see to this question is that women have been sh*t all over for replying "not interested". Hence, a number of them don't reply anymore. That or they get too many to reply to all of them. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/1/2005 11:01:38 PM | | Women need to learn to respond with a polie "Thanks, but I am not interested" and click the BLOCK button at the same time. Presto!! No being "shit" on and I have been courteous enough to respond. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/1/2005 11:07:03 PM | im not sure about a real answer to your question....i try to respond to every tasteful, and realistic, email i get, even if it is something like "i am not sure that we are compatible." often i will exchange a few emails with each guy just to see if there might be something there, but usually my first instinct holds true.
however, if i get email with vulgar or assinine messages, i just ignore them or block them. just a personal note, hopefully ive given you some reassurance that not all women are bad...cuz we arent. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/1/2005 11:11:17 PM | Well, Redemption, if it helps, not sure it will...but you really don't have anything on your profile that indicates much about you so that might be why no one is bothering to reply. If you aren't putting it out there, no one is going to come back at you with anything to talk about unless you are asking some good questions when you inbox them.
I can't reply to all of mine. I wouldn't know what to say anyway and the sorry but i'm not interested thing can be a real downer for the guys...some things are best left unsaid...and I think they know they can move on at that point. If I'm wrong, I stand corrected but I've had much flack over that technique too so I prefer not to use it. Then they argue that you didn't give them a chance...and so on.
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 12:59:19 AM | maybe because you have a totally blank profile for one, don't say anything about yourself for another, and every picture of yourself it looks like you're trying out for the mr. universe competition... you know, once a woman gets an email from you, whether interested or not, chances are likely they make 99% of their judgement on your profile... I'd suggest putting some of your interests in there, tell about yourself a little and what you're looking for in a woman (and don't be afraid to be honest, last thing a girl wants is a guy who's unsure of what he wants... women have enough trouble making up their mind as-is the last thing they need is a guy who can't even make up his... it's usually our job to hafta be the one to make up our mind, theirs to change it all the time =p)
And as for the pics, dude, put a shirt on, I'd suggest at least 1 pic of you looking how you'd dress up on a classy date (show you have class), another pic of you how you look when you're having fun (like I did at a nightclub), and another pic of you with friends and/or family (show you aren't just some random weirdo with no friends or family ties), bam, instant good pic collection.
If you build it, they will come... so get crackin' on building that profile up right. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 1:21:29 AM | I agree with you that you should expect a response if you've expressed your interest in a lady. As long as it's not a one or two liner....like I've gotten "hi how are you"....and I've responded "fine"....your profile could use some work. I love blastkist's profile...you've said it all blastkist and I think it's the best profile I've ever seen....you have a way with words that paints a picture of you...I feel like I know you after I've read your profile...good job 
But back to the question...I think it's rude to not respond....I've even responded to the not so nice ones and asked them why they are on here if they're living with someone or married or just want a bootie call. I guess it depends on the person but if you say something nice and meaningful in your initial email then that deserves a reponse, just my 2 cents worth anyway. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:26:14 AM | I think that as long as you haven't grunted out "me guy.... you cute.... want date.... grunt grunt grunt" or been rude or given your phone number then at least they should say SOMETHING back.
Although, there's alot of losers 'round these here parts (sorry boys, but it's true) the ones who FREAK OUT when a woman replies "Thanks, but not interested". Thanks to those losers, it ruins it for the few nice ones who come along.
I LIKE YOUR PICTURES!!! Don't you dare take them down lol  | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:41:33 AM | i usually get some pretty rude responses to "no thanks, im not interested" so i just have stopped dealing with them...and i do respond to anyone except the raunchy emails...complete with totally sexual compliments (not exactly nice) and extremely descriptive paragraphs on what they want to do to me...
and i like your pictures too...dont take those down, but you could add a couple more. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 9:00:17 AM | I try to respond to all of them, I have been here for a few days and am already getting tired of the silly notes. Like wanna bang, whats your number, hey, write back if interested, and the many other inane impersonal one line notes that do not beckon a reponse.
The guys need to act as if they are in a bar, walking up to a lady that attracts them, and put their best foot forward. If a guy walked up to me in bar and said 'hey' or 'whats your number' and then just waited for my response I would laugh.
And whats with the guy that says 'check out the profile, babe' and then I look and there is nothing but a picture of him and 5 guys standing by a car. No notes, no revealing information... what's the point? And who are these guys standing next to a car, and which one is Mr. Brevity?
Just a thought for the guys.
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 10:06:28 AM | I have never ever gotten a rude message ,i simply state i am not here to hook up and men are very polite and say ok or just continue to talk with me as friends.I have found the people on this site (the ones that message me) a calibre above most,they are educated and respectful.
I believe one time i had to block someone,not a bad ratio. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 10:27:19 AM | WHen I first became a member every man within 100 miles who was a member contacted me! My email box was flooded with everything from sweet to vulgar! Those I said no thanks to, most of them, had rejection issues and had to email me back and tell me what they thought of me.... I thought good thing my gut said no way! After that I only answered men who sparked an interest in me, men who were polite, actually read and commented on my profile, and who had manners. The rest "DELETED", I simply didn't want to put up with Rejectionitis.
Now I've met Japhus and we are happy together exploring our exclussive relationship, I have it right in my profile, TAKEN! Anyone who only trys to get me to go out with them without reading that gets deleted. I'm not interested anymore.
Mind you, I thought I'd really miss the forums, but even J says they aren't the same once you find someone, and I agree. Because you are happy and content you just see so much sour complaining in most the posts you just want rid of it, instead of participating in it. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 10:27:50 AM | | I feel the same way but reversed . It's my feeling that we are here to meet people and tend to sent a note to people I find interesting or have a common profile ... they aren't neccessarily someone I would approach but you never know . After taking the initial step I am generally disappointed when there isn't even a "no thanks " e-mail in return.....very rude and FYI it isn't just woman | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 11:01:31 AM | Dude reguardless weather you have a nice profile or not , women usually will not respond even to nice e-mails of at least a paragraph , this has been talked about before over and over , women here all claim to send e-mails , maybe they are the extremely rare ones extremely rare , , I have sent 100's of e-mails to many women and nothing , no matter what I do , even women in the forum have helped me write the messages,
this is a candy store for women to talk about how nice they are and how cruel pigs guys are here , even some women here in this thread have said most guys on this site are losers .
If we said that about women , we would be personally flamed .
That is my answer , just like in a bar , welcome to our world of common rejection. | |
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| why woman don't reply to a proper message?
Posted: 8/2/2005 11:24:28 AM | I get a lot of weird scenarios as well. Like the guys that will battle you trying to IM you, then when I finally ask them politely what they want, they call me horrible names. The IM thing is the worst. If I am IMing one guy there will be 30 others bugging me asking me why I hate them. How weird is that? Its not the case, its just you cannot IM more than one at a time.
Then they send out the emails. They are even more bizarre.
Not really complaining, just trying to explain our side of it. I want to have fun here just like everyone else does.
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