| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/1/2005 11:37:52 PM | | Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all....who ever came up with this concept was out of their mind!! To love someone and be truely loved in return and then have that person's life snatched away from you is one of the hardest and cruelest things I have gone thru and I couldn't help but to think maybe I should never have met them because though some years have passed the pain has not faded. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 4:06:13 AM | | Would you have taken those years and love back, and not loving him at all would have been a better choice? The gift he gave you may have been knowing love could be beautiful, even if the loss hurts now. I would rather love and lose it. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 4:07:35 AM | I don't know, Lisa. Went through the same and the pain never seems to go. But i never once felt that i wish i had never met the person. I will always cherish the beauty of the moments spent and if i had to do it all over again, maybe i would.
Take care, girl. Know how you feel. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 4:17:22 AM | | lisa, in my own personal way, I completely understand what you are saying. Our reasons for choosing never to have loved (in hindsight) are complex sometimes, and terrible things hit me early in life for which I wish I had never been born. But who cares? Everybody seems to have their own problems. I am no different. Best wishes for better days. | |
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 6:03:23 AM | I have loved and been loved
Then lost the lover
I would not trade the time with them for anything
Some of the pain will be there forever
But so are the memories of magic
Those special moments that can never be replaced
With luck, I will meet someone and we will repeat the life
If not, I was a very lucky man, while she was here
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 6:17:57 AM | I put this saying in the same category as "God never gives you more than you can handle". While at some point we may all be able to say it was better to have loved--true love leaves a deep hole in us and takes a long time to heal. I have come to the conclusion that a part of me will always hurt from the love lost-I am better for it-now I can remember the good times without cursing the feeling of loss--
I think life isn't fair-but it is what you make it--try to value the positve and the pain does fade--took me ten years to say that but it kept hurting because I wasn't letting go-sometimes we make things worse--sounds so dorky --think positive thoughts-eventually it does help | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 6:22:16 AM | Yes, to have the one you love "lifes snatched away" is one of the hardest things I think anyone could go thru. I know it was for me. But, Oh yes, I would do it all over again, in a heart beat. He touched me in ways no man has yet to do again. I know that there is another out there that can and will and I look forward to finding that person. Plus I also believe that he is helping me and guiding me to that person. For I have had dreams about both of them.  | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 7:54:48 AM | I HATE THIS CLICHE`!!!!!
Yeah it is better to have had your heart ripped out and stopmed on, than to never to have felt that before. It is much better to find out you have been lied to for years by the person you most trusted. The pain and suffering is just wonderful. I'm so glad I never missed out on the oppertunity to feel totally betrayed and forsaken. I'm don't know how I ever got along without the feeling of death being preferable to being kicked in the preverbal balls of romance.
I can tell you with all certainty that I would be willing to never have loved, if it meant I wouldn't have had to endure the pain of my first marriage. It almost killed my. I guess I'm stronger than I thought.
NO IT'S NOT BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST THAN TO NEVER LOVED AT ALL!!!!!! | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:25:41 AM | | I believe it is true.....without that persons love, could you have ever know how it feels to not be loved at all? It just shows you how great things can be. And when the love is gone, it shows how much you respected what it had brought to you when it was there. | |
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Joined: 5/28/2005
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:40:21 AM | | I know I would never trade the two years I had with my fiance for anything in the world. Before I had met Cuecue I truely never understood what it ment to be loved. Its been 6 years now since she passed away and it still hurts and always will but it was worth the pain just to have known and loved her for the short time that we had together. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:56:36 AM | 23 years ago next month my boyfriend was killed on his way to come get me for a date.
As painful as that was I learned things that are with me to this day.
It still hurts, but I've learned to live around it.
I was made better by the love we shared. He's gone, but the affects of his love and his death are with me still. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:57:24 AM | | I lived for 10 years without dating, and looking back, it was a big mistake. I wasn't acknowledging a very big part of myself. After the 10-year hiatus, I met someone and married him within a year, which was also a big mistake. Now that I have another chance, I am out there and making myself vulnerable. I feel like I am really living. I am willing to go through the pain, because I know that eventually there will be joy again. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 5:29:21 PM | | I agree with you on the fact that it is the cruelest thing anyone can grow thru because I like almost everyone else have gone through that also, but the only thing I learned from that experience is that if I would have never loved that one person I wouldn't know what it is to love anyone. In other words, Love wouldn't mean S@!T... Next time I will make sure not to waste my time if she isn't worth it. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 5:40:19 PM | i agree with paradoxx. i would rather know that i've been loved, then to do without love all together. yes it does hurt, but when you look back on the time that you spent together, it was so beautiful. love is a wonderful thing. i wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 5:49:08 PM | | Loving and grieving the loss of love; what more could you want in life? A love worthy of grieving. I watched my grandmother go through it and thought "I want to love someone that much." I too lost a fiancee' to death and the thing that happened immediately following was that our network of friends came to my house several times a week and we would laugh over the good times, and cry. We told tales that validated the life that had come and the life that had gone. We celebrated the happiness that had been. I was healthier for that celebration. It defined more greatly my grief. Not for a moment did I question why; instead, thankfully, I knew that life went on and I would hold that love dear to my heart forever. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 5:58:05 PM | As for me,it messed me up,i would rather not of loved at all then to be in this shape.
I mean,I lost all confidence in myself,I don't feel nothing anymore,I even gave up
being on here for months,'cause I couldn't find myself anymore!Some people are so cruel,
and I can't even go on a rebound,I trust no one no more!
I would rather be by myself and lonely,and yet I hate being alone,then to be hurt by someone again!
But I hate feeling this way,I know this is a self destruction mode,and I'm risking the chance of losing my opportunity to be loved and to love someone else!
Right now I am lost,scared and alone,so I came back to pof,where I feel safe,and know I have dear friends on here who can help me through this!
I used to help people here all the time,now looks like I'm the one who needs help!
knight Rider! | |
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Joined: 11/3/2005
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 6:04:09 PM | Yes love hurts but time heals.But i would rather at least know while on this earth at least what it was like to be emotionally and physically loved.Love can be hard ,but i guess its something we have to get through at times and move ahead.Hope your feeling better soon.  | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 6:05:03 PM | i am going through somewhat of the same thing there has been this guy i've been in LOVE with for years and he's got a terminal illness and could be snatched away from me at any time i kinda get more scared given he's had this for a good number of yrs how many more will he have but i thank god that i have always told him every single time how much I LOVE him and even if he doesn't say it I know he loves the way I fawn all over him | |
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Joined: 12/19/2005
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 6:05:11 PM | Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.
I think it a true statement.
I have known unconditional love. I would not trade that knowledge for all the painless days in eternity. To lose it is bitter, yes. But I have experienced something of such rare beauty that I weep with the joyous memory. No one can ever take that experience from me. EVER. | |
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| Its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved
Posted: 12/21/2005 6:06:50 PM | To the OP
what that statement really makes you think about is the question....if you were magically given the power of future sight about someone,[ and you knew back then what you know now] would that have stopped you loving them when you first met them ??
A similar theme as to that which is heartbreakingly explored in the movie City Of Angels. A lot of people would say they would still do it again.
Im sorry for your loss. | |
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