| how long do you "see" a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 3:31:33 PM | | how long do you "see" a person B4 its a relationship, and how do you know, are u just supposed to come right out and ask, or just assume ? | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 3:35:48 PM | I don't think assuming is the way to go.
When to people are seeing each other and want it to become more then it should be talked about to make sure that both people are on the same page.
Personally, I usually let the man decide and come to me with the idea. | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 4:15:03 PM | The relationship becomes such as an intimate encounter as many things.
How long?
It's good question?
It's up to your feelings! Seeing is watching behavior, with body language and verse as it comes out...until he scews up!...He get's quiet....in his mind..'I should never have said that'.
Now... you have found a man who just stepped over a line...and your reaction is like all he can think about. He'll pretend he doesn't know... and He'll act "cool" when you know, perfectly well he has a soft spot for you to find...gentle s a kitten with all his shy eyes...really shy! Whay to do with shy man?
And, he doesn't like it and he is shy and moves away and kicks dirt or something... on nice full moon!
OK..Murphies law.. I'm the guy who never believes he'll get anything. So.. let's do this!
I'm hitting the ground and you hit sensative area! " Why did you do that!" he thinks
So..what do you say?
I don't know! If that is really the case.. start from beginning!
"Why don't don't you come down and sit next top me?" This is excellent if a cool breeze is on.. if not.. make it up. Get him next to you.
Put your head on his shoulder and say nothing... a gesture speeks a thousand words...you don't ask.. just accept...watch him carefully...a true shy guy won't even want to put an arm around you...up down..up down...until you make it so!
The moment will be very monumental.
Next step.. give him a kiss ..on the cheek brow... or forehead, to see your eyes...
Then, I like you, gesture will permeate his being and he'll watch you go... beutiful, not to far...
Find where you are and what.... how, when, why and all that garbage to make a frolicky girl... come?
He see's that?
You are in control! Show him the time of his life!
It doesn't need to be a fantastic dinner or anything... just a playful round of "remeber when we we kids and played tag and water fights and such?"
NOw , he's ready to tell you everything?
But... how you respond to reality is so important.
Get geady for it.. for he's no saint... and you don't expect it.
After he spills his guts....
Kiss him on the forhead and show him...I'm not going anywhere...
You just opened a life for a man that he never knew h could have.
Something he could descover, give more love, find areas he never saw he could,...even fight for you!
Fight for you.. two ways.. force or smart6s...
Me...I like psychology... When I'm done... he's so angry that he doesn't even know what to do... for I can see it... He's gone! Watch him? Pethetic!
180 degrees.. no problem... protective and loving for the ones I love... | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 4:20:00 PM | Never assume - that's dangerous thinking (IMO). It varies from couple to couple. The key is for both people to sit down and discuss what you want in the relationship and where you are currently at, and where you'd like to go. It can get scary (if you aren't on the same wave length), however, life is all about taking a risk!
If one assumes what the other wants or needs, you will lose. | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 6:33:14 PM | | My last "seeing" someone, he assumed we were in a relationship after a month. I was informed about the whole relationship when we introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend. Thanks for letting me know a head of time. | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 6:38:00 PM | Butts in....
Mafiaprincess is still waiting for your reply?
IT's the eyes, girl!
Get them.. he's puppy dog.
Easieer said then done... right?
The soul of a man is threw the eyes and castles they build and little boyes dreams.
You find those...no can get in your way? | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:36:02 PM | If you don't talk about it, someone's headed for disappointment at least, hurt at worst. Bringing it up gives the other person 'hand,' as George would say. But so what? If there's caring, the worst thing that can happen is conversation. If there's no caring, good time to find out...
shroomin', hehe | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:42:49 PM | | When you have the mutual talk, being exclusive to one other. Then its a relationship...not just relations....lol | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:43:09 PM | thank goodness i'm not the only one who can make no sense of Sparrowhawk1161's posts...shroomin'...gotta luv that!
OT: good question. one i've wondered about as well. i'll be interested to read all of the posts.
Personally, I usually let the man decide and come to me with the idea.
my usual MO too, but if he doesn't decide and come to you, do you bring it up or just wait? | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/2/2005 8:46:54 PM | | it's not very smart to ever assume anything. it would be best to talk to your partner and let them know how you feel. hopefully they feel the same way you do. you can usually tell, but sometimes you can get surprised. always better to find out early so you don't get hurt. | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/3/2005 8:52:24 AM | You are no longer seeing the person when you catch yourself buying underwear with her. Either yours or hers. It happened to me once :)
Usually you know when it's time, and at that point you sit down and talk it through. | |
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| how long do you see a person
Posted: 8/3/2005 9:24:17 AM | I wouldn't assume anything really, but it's good to ask if it's exclusive. that would be a sign to me. I agree with the underwear shopping too. haha especially if it's just plain tighty whiteys. | |
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