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 BlueEyedBlon3000
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Is it just me but it seems like men over 50 either have issues with erection or have very low sex drive ? Especially the 55+ category. I'm attracted to older guys but sex is also important to me. Should I even bother to date the 50+ category ?
 fairmaid24
Joined: 12/31/2012
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Posted: 4/7/2013 12:57:52 PM
I dont think you can say all or most but some yes. For lots of reasons.... It seems to be blood flow primarily .... Now that might be because of smoking .,, or heart problems or diabetis, The older you get the more often this things are going to rear their head (no pun intended)

Luckily today there is viagra . I know not all men (on certain meds ) can take it .
 Weedhopper3450
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Posted: 4/7/2013 12:59:03 PM
Depends a lot on his health.
Someone over 50 can be just a hot as a 35 year old, and maybe better in bed because of all the wisdom he has accumulated over the years. (We hope)
 DarkGem
Joined: 8/23/2009
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Posted: 4/7/2013 1:09:50 PM
Men over 50 will have similar qualities to men under 50.

Some men need medication to rise to the occasion, others can spring into action in response to a thought. Some men will brag about their prowess in the bedroom but in all things actions speak louder than words.

If a man gets aroused from foreplay there's a good chance that he will get and keep an erection if he isn't suffering from health conditions he hasn't disclosed to you.

The best lovers are the ones that are attentive to your needs, communicate honestly and openly and don't skimp on the fore or afterplay.
 Della D
Joined: 7/10/2008
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Posted: 4/7/2013 1:19:01 PM
OP, I can sooooo feel for you, but rather found my dilemma as a local problem here in Jamaica. The local guys here are as of their mid 40s usually physically grossly out of shape with considerable bellies and as of their 50s additionally mentally so jaded that they are no fun to be around, much less when it comes to sex.

I've never been to your town, but honestly have not found this problem as drastic in NYC or FL e.g. and especially not in north and middle Europe.

But if it is as bad at your end as it is here, you better get used to dating younger, i/o frustrating yourself with the search for the needle in the hay stack, smile.


Good luck!
 NYCmasterplumber
Joined: 8/17/2006
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Posted: 4/7/2013 1:40:16 PM
I think it has to do with the partner as much as possibly the medications one takes
Thankfully I have no need for Viagra etc and maintaining an erection is not a problem actually it is the lady who after her changes seem to have discomfort with prolonged intercourse as they no longer are as well lubricated and using some of the products such as KY does take away from orally pleasing a lady

Ideally one would kiss ,then shower together perform lots of oral foreplay have intercourse in various positions and f after play go back to oral as a final climax as having intercourse twice within a half hr normally makes an older woman very sore inside.

I do have intercourse several times a week and have decided id rather have quality instead of quantity, but that's just me. The two or three times a day is unrealistic after age 50 as the spouse gets highly frustrated and considers sex more like a chore them showing love.

It also has to do with ones mental outlook If the potential lover has an amazing body and is a mental midget then the relationship is doomed as after the sex acts what does one talk about?
 ForRumOnly
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Posted: 4/7/2013 1:40:43 PM
OP, it's generally true that men over 50 start to have some problems. Some, not all, of course. Two factors come into play - physical condition and lifestyle over the years with its impact on blood flow, and decreasing testosterone, which affects both sex drive and erection quality. I'm over 50 but so far have no real problems and still have sex daily or even more.

For most men, then are also solutions both problems. There are the various ED drugs, and testosterone therapy (injections, patches, gels). Sometimes testosterone will solve both problems. Some guys may just need ED drugs, and some will do better with both. Of course, they have to admit there is a problem and then be willing and able to do something about it.
 sigungq
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:01:22 PM
OP, you're just meeting the wrong guys. You need to meet the ones who eat totally organic foods, not the kind laiden with hormones, steroids and anti-biotics, that have the side effects of insomnia, ED, and obesity.
 IgorFrankensteen
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:10:01 PM
What constitutes low sex drive for you? Less than five times a day?

Another consideration...my desire for sex is just fine, and has been since forever. But my ability to put up with having to perform social tricks in order to "unleash the passion" in a woman has indeed gone down the tubes.

One more thing...it's possible when someone runs into any general problem, that they are inadvertently selecting for the thing they don't want. Such as being attracted to guys who do something unhealthy that DOES lead to E.D.
 Tarnished_Knight
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:13:49 PM
I think this is the first time I've said this, but, you really should have engaged in a bit of POF search: this one is moderately redundant.

Anyhoo, the sad truth is that men's plumbing wasn't really designed for frequent use post 50-60. Child bearing / procreation days are long past, if the man was still alive. With that said, a healthy life style that combines moderate with intermittent vigorous activity; a healthful diet; and a willing patient partner are critical elements.
The biggest factor that any man faces, all else remaining equal, is the size of the belly. The real killer to proper hydraulic performance is the amount of visceral (belly) fat a man carries around. Visceral fat is metabolically active: it releases compounds that interfere with the other compounds necessary to provide inflation; its presence has a direct correlation to blood pressure, of which too much for too long can have deleterious effects - not least is ineffective erections.

And, secondly, the ravages of age, whether we do all that we can to minimize those ravages, still take their toll. Testosterone decreases in the average man something like 4% per year after 40. Those cells responsible for T just get old. And utilization can decrease as well. From the perspective of this man - That SUCKS!

Any way, choose well.

TK
 satx78218
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:22:40 PM
bad diet and no exercise leading to fat/obesity leading to hormonal and circulation disruptions, esp pre-diabetic/diabetic men.

then there are endocrine disrupters/estrogen analogues in food and plastics.
 InShapeAndToned56
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:42:06 PM

blueeyedblon3000: Is it just me but it seems like men over 50 either have issues with erection or have very low sex drive ? Especially the 55+ category. I'm attracted to older guys but sex is also important to me. Should I even bother to date the 50+ category ?


I can only speak for myself. It doesn't have to be that way. Staying physically fit and in shape is so important. Especially for men who wish to avoid potential heart problems (blood flow), diabetes and many other complications caused by being out of shape. Cardio for men is natural viagra. Diet is also important as are hereditary factors. I'm 55 years old and very capable!!! And that's no accident...
 seafoodandeatit
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Posted: 4/7/2013 2:57:55 PM
[But my ability to put up with having to perform social tricks in order to "unleash the passion" in a woman has indeed gone down the tubes. ]
Well said!
I think a lot of woman demand so much more than they can offer in return. it is a game I will not play any more.
It Is like if men said "hey get your body back into a shape you once had and I might let you hump me."
now that would go down well!! not.............
 AquanGold
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Posted: 4/7/2013 3:01:20 PM
Op,
I`m sorry to inform you that most of us who stay in shape require sex more than before. I have friends who workout in order to keep their T levels high! Most of us date women younger due to the fact we still have the need to have sex. Now, i will agree with you that there are some men, who are overweight and probably unable to perform, but that`s also men who are in their 30`s as well..
I do hope you find a man, that is able to please you and can keep up with you sexually...:-)
 bigcarl56
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Posted: 4/7/2013 3:31:52 PM
hang in there we old dude sometime excel in other ways ... if you k now what i mean
 SugahPunkin
Joined: 5/28/2010
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Posted: 4/7/2013 3:59:05 PM
The best sex I ever had was with a 58 year old man, no ED at all.
Alot of younger men (30-50) are having bp problems and are on meds for it which cause trouble with ED, so it can be just the guy you met, not all of them.
I personally like sex with older men (45-55) because they do it better..all of it.

Just be patient, the right one/s will come along.
 BlueEyedBlon3000
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Posted: 4/7/2013 4:21:31 PM
My marriage is DEAD because the last time I was intimate with my so-called husband was Sept. 2007
Very sad and depressing.
 AquanGold
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Posted: 4/7/2013 4:45:44 PM
Blue,
Why on eart did you torture yourself? If your Husband wasn`t intimate you what exactly transpired? Was it ED, or lack of passion towards you?
 IgorFrankensteen
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Posted: 4/7/2013 5:32:09 PM
My marriage died too, and though my ex blamed my lack of passion (among other things), she was oblivious to the intensive work she put in to killing any thoughts of sex I might have had, first. No doubt something else died between us before the sex stopped being fun. I don't know what that was, and despite years of very expensive couples therapy, neither did she figure it out.

I lost the desire to attempt anything with her, but I never lost my physical ability or my interest in sex.

One thing is certain: that you are angry enough to call him your "so called husband," translates to the fact that there's a lot more than lack of sex behind this. Most likely, his "E.D.", if he indeed does suffer from it, isn't so much physiological, as it is something else entirely.
 deere_rancher
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Posted: 4/7/2013 6:09:24 PM
Op... You gotta get out of Cincinnati..!
WTH.! Is wrong with those guys ..!
 SdrawkcrB
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Posted: 4/7/2013 9:17:47 PM
@ Blueeyes ;)
May be your just picking the wrong ones,
wish you were a little closer,,
 Teemax
Joined: 4/14/2012
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Posted: 4/7/2013 10:12:50 PM
well guess that's them I am 50 and like it 3 times a day if its there.lol
 yerkiddinrite
Joined: 12/19/2012
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Posted: 4/8/2013 8:08:15 AM
I'm having a hell of a time too. The last two (both in their 50's) haven't been able to "rise to the occasion". It is frustrating to invest time in someone, only to find when the moment comes that they are pretty much incapable of intimacy (at least as far as intercourse goes). And neither were willing to do ANYTHING orally and didn't seem to care if I received any pleasure or not. It's all pretty sad really. Right now, I'm not dating anyone, but in the future, I guess I will have to find a way to inquire if the equipment is still in working order. I know it's not everything, but it's important to me.
 RTMomof3
Joined: 4/3/2013
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Posted: 4/8/2013 8:11:08 AM
That's why I don't date older men!
 Stubidooo
Joined: 12/30/2012
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Posted: 4/8/2013 8:32:33 AM

That's why I don't date older men!

There are 80 year old dudes out there that would wear you out. Judging an entire class is foolish.

If they didn't delete every thread talking about the female phenom, you would see that men have it just as bad. There are women over 50 out there who have lost all desire and if they made a Viagra for women, I would be willing to bet it would outsell that for men.
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