| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 8:52:09 AM | | In books about dating, you hear about how to meet strangers in public places, like grocery stores. I have never figured out how this works. Sure, maybe I could muster up the courage to ask some handsome hunk in the produce department how to pick out a good mango. But where do you go from there? How do you get to "would you like to go out for a cup of coffee?" Am I missing something? Love to hear your ideas. | |
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longte
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 9:00:42 AM | Exactly right with your first statement
Talk about anything
See if they are interested and you are interested as well
Then go for the jugular
Just ask straight out
There are too many games played too often
But a shop is safe for both parties
So go for it
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 9:09:29 AM | had a guy contact me and his opening line was to mention 3 well known grocery stores and asked me which one I shopped in. I thought it was an amusing first line so I answered him which one of the 3 I shopped in. The next email he told me he thought he had seen me there and that he lived in the next street to where I live and that next time I am shopping and I see him that I should give him a hug.
It totally freaked me out. But now I am looking over my shoulder while I am shopping LOL and I haven't heard from him since. | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 1:20:37 PM | Here in New Zealand there is a rumour that if you have your bananas pointing upwards in your trolley that means you are single. 
We actually have a grocery store in the city that has a "singles" shopping night.  | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 2:03:01 PM |
In books about dating
Don't believe everything you read. lol
I've never met anyone I dated in a grocery store ... maybe I'll have to try pointing my bananas upwards. LOL They'd have to look right into my cart though b/c my toddler is always sitting in the front and she'd eat all of the bananas before we got the checkout. :) .... and if a guy was peering into my cart I'd think it was an odd/ creepy thing to be doing... so it's a no-win situation for me, I guess.
Back to the pond .... for a little while longer. | |
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 6:52:32 PM | | i've spoken to women about this matter and most would not go 4 starting convos at random with strangers..........the problem is that there are too many 'pervs' out there in the 'fresh friut' section! (or any other section) | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:12:40 PM | | Just last week I heard on the radio that WalMart was discontinuing a new thing they had going on in several East Coast cities. The reason they discontinued it was not revelaed, but here's what they were promoting: When you enter WalMart you tie a RED RIBBON on your shopping cart and that indicates you are SINGLE. Then, well it's easy to know who to apporach and if they are open to being approached. Apparently they are doing that with no problems at the WalMarts in Germany (that's what I heard). And...another poster here mentioned a similar thing in New Zealand. Hmmm....sounds interesting. I'd like to know what happened to cause it to be discontinued....Maybe MARRIED guys were screaming "discrimination"! And perhaps they wanted a certain color ribbon to indicate "married" but looking to have a sleazy affair!? And gays might have wanted their own color ribbon so they could know who was gay-friendly. And so on and so on and so on. It's a nice idea....but amazing how a simple nice idea can be all twisted up and abused and...discontinued. What a country!!! | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:31:18 PM | ^^^
from what i understood, the reason why they stopped was that they could not vouch whether or not a person was truly 'single'.......and thus, they would be putting themselves at possible risks for suits should someone be 'victimized' by a liar that they officially met thru wal-mart's match-up system! | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 7:57:10 PM | | never met anyone in a grocery store and always thought it was a load of crap. then my sweetie found me in wal mart after recognizing my pic from POF. now granted he had a lil help from POF and he didn't approach me directly in the store, but it was a great start for us and one we definitely won't forget. | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 8:37:04 PM | | Look for me in your nearest Walmart...with three dozen bananas all pointed up, and wearing a three foot long red ribbon. I'll be in the zuccini section, if you want to start there. | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 8:52:07 PM | shit I plan my shopping for around 8 on sunday night for the simple fact that's when the most hotties are in the store (maybe something to do with college hotties returning from home and the weekend?) But what's so odd about meeting someone in a grocery store? where is it such a different approach than if you're wasted in some bar?
show your interest with a smile and a little friendly eye contact.. maybe "bump" into them once or twice while apparently looking for similiar items etc... if you see the green light introduce yourself. It's a lot more natural than the "you're cute, wish i was closer" or the "doubt your interested but if you wanna chat..." emails I get from most the girls on here. | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/5/2005 10:56:07 PM | | This is another issue, but I think women can be unreasonally paranoid about strangers. What trouble can you get into walking up the sidewalk to Starbucks for coffee? The guy starts acting weird, you just walk back up to the grocery store and hang out until you don't see him anymore. Or let him follow you to the police station. | |
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0tto
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Joined: 5/19/2005
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longte
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Joined: 10/18/2004
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/6/2005 1:22:21 AM | It is harder for a man to meet a woman, in most other places than in a grocery shop situation
Women know that they are the household experts, so they will often happily assist a man decide on a product
But at the same time it will not work if you follow someone around, with your tongue
hanging out
The first consideration is Safety/Security
A woman in a crowded shop feels secure
If you approach casually and honestly it works well
Go for the jugular was just an expression
But most women would be able to continue a conversation
The continuation is the important thing
Keep your comments or questions open
By that I mean, when you are talking, use comments and questions that need an answer
Not ones that can be answered simply YES or NO
EG- Two ways to ask about dish detergent
Should I buy this detergent?? Closed question Yes/No answer
Why would you recommend this detergent?? Open question that she will answer with a sentence
Something in this sentence can lead to a comment, about something else
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 8/6/2005 5:26:42 AM | For the longest while, I was making eye contact, flirtacious smiles and remarks, at this totally cute stock guy/driver (the store offered rides home) at my regular grocery store (only one in the neighbourhood, I had no choice! hehe). After awhile I would specifically ask for stuff I knew was in the back so he would have to go get it. haha Finally, one day I actually needed a ride home and he drove me with my stuff. He laughed as I was getting out, "Aren't you going to invite me in for a beer?" "Um...okay, want a beer?" "Thanks, but I'm working." I shut the door and was laughing, whatever, right? Then he gets out, "So I'll see you tonight later on then." And he showed up, that crazy fool.
Other times, it's just like if you meet someone on public transportation, library, or anywhere with people? lol You see someone attractive, why not strike up a quick convo or something, take their no.? Hey, everyone needs to eat. What's so weird about meeting them while they're shopping. At least you know they cook and don't survive on take-out. | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 12/19/2005 12:04:42 AM | | meeting in the supermarket eh? See the Grocery store i shop at hardly has anyone in it, lol. Theres 3 stores in town, well soon to be 2, and the larger store sucks cause i use to work there, and the people are snooty, so, i shop the smaller store. But, dont think ill pick up there, hahah! | |
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| What's this about meeting people in grocery stores!
Posted: 12/19/2005 12:31:18 AM | | I dated a guy for 2 years that I met in Walmart. Actually he recognized me already, but that was the first time I had noticed him. He and I worked for the same company in Illinois and had both attended the same martial arts classes in that state. I was very noticable to him because I was one of few women in the class, but he mostly attended classes at different times and there were a lot of guys, so I didn't recall him. We both transferred through our employer to the same worksite in Texas, 6 months apart, and then he just happens to see me in Walmart at 3am. So he approaches and asks if I used to train under our former sensei in the other state. Talk about unexpected. | |
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